What time do you expect your partner home from a night out?

Do people only have one door to their house?

Leave the garage door/ back door unlocked.
Exit front door, lock front door, key under mat, enter via other door, secure with that door key.

Admittedly it's a PITA, but takes about 30 seconds & you can go to bed.

(Appreciate this might not work for a flat etc.)

Parenting toddlers is fucking hard work OP and you deserve a break too, but this night out is a one off.

Exact same! I'm 39, partner is 40, DD is 18 - we are all adults so we all have a key for the home we live in. Why would you ever not??! It's just crazy to me all these adults without keys to access their homes independently 🤯

If anyone’s super late in our house it’s me or dd1 who is 18. Would find it extremely weird if Dh questioned me on it he is not my dad

Jesus Christ. Just lock the door, go to bed & text him to say to ring you when he gets home so you can go down let him in? You say the man never goes out. Give him his one night a year.

Adults not having their own keys is insane. Just so easily fixed. Weird. Couldn’t imagine leaving my house without a key at any stage in my adult life and am 50 now.

Yes this would be acceptable for you to do once in a while.

You can CHOOSE to go out for a night and leave the kid with his Dad yes?

😂

Sorry but this!! The number of threads recently about partners on nights out and there being only one key between them - it blows my mind that couples function in this way! There are 3 adults living in our home and we each have our own key, that's just common sense surely?!

Get another key cut. Arrange a night out. 🤷‍♀️

As many other people have already said you need another key! I would not be bothered at all what time my husband got home if he went on a night out. This isn’t a frequent occurrence every week so let him enjoy it. When I go out if it’s not local I stay overnight at a hotel and come back next day. My husband is free to do the same if he so wished. You get one life and there should be times when you can relax and enjoy yourself away from the daily drudgery as long as it’s fair and not happening numerous times a week or month.

100% this. Sounds like OP begrudges her hubby going out not the time of his return

He”s an adult. Your attitude sounds needy, controlling and possessive even though I’m sure you are not. Who cares that he’s out until 8!!!!!! My preteen goes to be much later then that and your hubby doesn’t go out. Please get some perspective.

It would depend how often he goes on a night out. If it's infrequent I would say whenever he feels like.

If he's out more, I think it's reasonable to have a conversation about making sure he's still available to pull his weight with he family.

My partner and I rarely have nights out and so we would never set an expectation of when to be back. This week with Xmas there have been a few things and we have agreed when we'll be back to ensure that there is a fair share of sorting the kids etc.

Depends really, I’d say usually 11pm to 1am unless he’s mentioned any different. Quid pro quo - it’s similar for me if I go out.

11am is very early to be going on a 'night out'. Are you sure there weren't loads of team building stuff going on? If my dh went on a Xmas do or just a day out at 11am I'd be a bit worried if I hadn't heard from him all day, especially if drinking from that time, and I'm very lax. No small children at home etc to worry about.

Could be any time, but I would say 3am at the latest. I'd start to get a bit worried after that. Expecting someone to be back by 9pm is very unreasonable IMO.

I don't think the issue is the timing, it's the key, You (both of you) should have got that sorted before this night out so it wasn't an issue. I'd recommend getting a key safe for emergencies.

My DH doesn't go out and drink often at all, like 4 times this year 😅 when he goes out he doesn't come home and usually stays at his friends which I encourage as I don't want to be woken up by him stumbling in or dealing with the drunk snore and morning grumble and panicking if he's passed out in a bush all night when he's not back when he says. Far nicer for him to stay out have fun, and I get the whole bed and a blissful sleep.

I'd "expect" him back by 1:30am but he doesn't have a home time.

Of course you can have a turn....

Total none issue

The mind boggles!!

Exactly this. Ho to bed. Leave him to come on when he wants to

What is with all of these single-key households??

If you want to then yeah, why not?

When he gets home. He rarely gets a chance to go out and it's Christmas. Equally I'm not waiting up for him. Only having one key is your issue. Get two and have a night to yourself; I'm assuming the DC will be asleep soon.

The issue is him not having a key.
My husband went out several hours ago, said he’d be back in a bit, but he’s with his mates and having fun. He’ll be back when he’s back.

I'd just put my phone on vibrate and text him to call when home for me to let him and go to bed when I'm ready.

This. Suffocating as fuck