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School santa book appropriate?

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coffeeandteav · 17/12/2024 18:53

Am I actually being unreasonable?

Santa came to see my sons class today and they all received a book. They are all 7/8. Son is 7, 8 next summer.

He has recieved this book and doesn't understand it at all. Nor find it engaging. Just strikes me as an odd present for a child struggling in Maths. Maybe for year 6 at a push.

Or is it actually good? Anyone read it?

School santa book appropriate?
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MartinCrieffsLemon · 19/12/2024 10:20

Honestly it's a generic book that would have been able to give to anyone. Some lads would have been "huh?" to the football book.

coffeeandteav · 19/12/2024 08:26

I am sure some of the lads thought the mr man was sentimental nonsense. They were 16.

7 year old from santa is a different kettle of fish.

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CentrifugalBumblePuppy · 18/12/2024 15:14

coffeeandteav · 18/12/2024 10:06

Hahha obviously not!

That would be mean it was all nice ones with a personal reason why. One girls so stressful says she still has it and loves it in her memory box

That’s great that one girl liked it.

And in the case of the World Book Day gifts that were distributed, I’d hazard a wager that some of the child’s class also liked their free book.

Just as in your example, there may’ve been teens that were not happy with your choice.

It doesn’t mean that you failed, just as it doesn’t mean that your child’s class teacher failed either.

I adore the Mr Men books (even as a Uni student, I’d buy one a week for my then 14 month old son). But they’re very different & easier to flick through and read than the Year 1/2 teacher having to browse through the entire book delivery to tailor a book for every child in the class.

As an ex KS2 teacher myself, that’s bonkers to think they’d have the time to do that!

Instead of moaning about what you seem to perceive as a failure of your child’s teacher, why not sit down & read the book before making a snap judgement (as it seems in this case) and then use it as a tool to help encourage your child to (perhaps) look at maths in a more practical way. Surely, as someone who has worked in the classroom, that’s obvious?

coffeeandteav · 18/12/2024 12:51

You would say uts the thought that counts but there was no thought. No what I would do for my classes as wouldn't most teachers.

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coffeeandteav · 18/12/2024 12:50

@ballsdeep
So you are saying a child cant be disappointed that Santa doesn't know him? Finds it an odd gift. You sound like a peach.

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coffeeandteav · 18/12/2024 12:49

fanaticalfairy · 18/12/2024 12:07

OP feel free to join the PTA, organise Santa, collect, store, wrap and distribute the books next year - making sure you have taken care to ensure the book is well matched with the recipient.

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I do at my own school thanks. If you bothered to read the thread.

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ballsdeep · 18/12/2024 12:08

temperance81 · 17/12/2024 19:29

You're being unreasonable

And ungrateful.

why don’t you help the school or community with fundraising? Maybe if you knew just how much thought, effort and planning went into these things you’d be a bit more appreciative.

fanaticalfairy · 18/12/2024 12:07

OP feel free to join the PTA, organise Santa, collect, store, wrap and distribute the books next year - making sure you have taken care to ensure the book is well matched with the recipient.

fanaticalfairy · 18/12/2024 12:03

Printedword · 18/12/2024 10:57

It's not a very good choice of book. If id been a teacher wrapping books I would have put that to one side as not very suitable.

probably wasn't a teacher but the PTA - and they just had to mindlessly wrap 400+ books

Printedword · 18/12/2024 10:57

It's not a very good choice of book. If id been a teacher wrapping books I would have put that to one side as not very suitable.

coffeeandteav · 18/12/2024 10:49

And he didn't understand why Santa would give him this book but he probably won't believe next year anyway.

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coffeeandteav · 18/12/2024 10:47

All his mates got a football book. So this is likely why disappointed.

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MrsSkylerWhite · 18/12/2024 10:33

I think it’s a weird topic for that age too but I’d just take it to the charity shop.

coffeeandteav · 18/12/2024 10:31

StrawberryPatches · 18/12/2024 10:21

I’m sorry that your son wasn’t happy with the book.

We are always grateful when food isn’t used as a gift/treat/reward. Having a child with multiple allergies means facing constant disappointment, especially this time of year. I am constantly making and carrying my own treats around in an effort to substitute all the unsafe food handed out. It’s time consuming and expensive. Free from items aren’t always sourced by schools and aren't suitable for all allergies.

Schools can’t cater to everyone in a situation like this. There was probably a child or parent that was happy to see a book, and not a chocolate coin or biscuit.

I totally understand that.

Think its an odd book and we will donate to someone that will enjoy it. I do understand the food issues though. Particularly in primary.

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StrawberryPatches · 18/12/2024 10:21

I’m sorry that your son wasn’t happy with the book.

We are always grateful when food isn’t used as a gift/treat/reward. Having a child with multiple allergies means facing constant disappointment, especially this time of year. I am constantly making and carrying my own treats around in an effort to substitute all the unsafe food handed out. It’s time consuming and expensive. Free from items aren’t always sourced by schools and aren't suitable for all allergies.

Schools can’t cater to everyone in a situation like this. There was probably a child or parent that was happy to see a book, and not a chocolate coin or biscuit.

SJM1988 · 18/12/2024 10:11

Its aimed at 7-9 year olds so I think its appropriate.

Its a free present from school - most schools are struggling so its not going to be a top of the charts popular book.
Our PTA pay for our Santa books. Its not personalised per class but a bulk buy on age appropriate books usually a 10 for £10 deal we can find. It takes an age to source the books, get them delivered and then wrap the books.

Just be grateful your DS got something. I know alot that do not get anything from schools/PTA funded at Christmas.

coffeeandteav · 18/12/2024 10:06

CentrifugalBumblePuppy · 18/12/2024 09:48

So you’ve bought Mr Men books for your Year 11s before? I do hope you didn’t categorise the kids with negative Mr Men traits like Mr Greedy, Mr Uppity, Mr Smelly, Mr Grumpy, Mr Angry…

I’d argue that the Enterprise book is a perfect title to give to a child struggling with maths, as it takes a different approach to having fun with numbers (through real life application) and therefore helping to encourage your child to enjoy maths & thus engage more with the topic.

And yes, there are definitely families out there who have little to no books in their houses, beyond those brought home through schemes like World Book Day. It’s naïve to think otherwise. For some, books & literacy skills simply aren’t a priority.

I’ve said on a previous post some time ago that _any reading should be encouraged; even a trip to the local shops can be used to familiarise children to letters & words. Likewise it can also be an opportunity for applying real life numeracy skills. House numbers, prices on supermarket shelves, hopscotch markings, even car number plates can help basic numeracy skills.

A book that you as a parent could sit & read together, and explore a different approach to maths can only be a good thing.

Hahha obviously not!

That would be mean it was all nice ones with a personal reason why. One girls so stressful says she still has it and loves it in her memory box

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coffeeandteav · 18/12/2024 10:05

Jifmicroliquid · 18/12/2024 09:33

Why are modern parents never happy with anything?

It’s a gift. If you don’t like it, chuck it in the charity shop bag.

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Just thought was a strange choice.
Not like was going to complain or anything.

Also received gratefully

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coffeeandteav · 18/12/2024 10:04

pimplebum · 18/12/2024 09:22

ALL books or indeed anything that has words can encourage literacy ,

how can you be sure your gift to the teacher and t.a will be perfectly matched to their likes and strengths ?

how would you feel if your teacher gift was criticised on here ?

Fine if I gave wine to a Tee total but thats fairly mainstream. This wasn't.

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coffeeandteav · 18/12/2024 10:03

I agree @TheYearOfSmallThings

Also only encourages literacy if the child is interested.

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CentrifugalBumblePuppy · 18/12/2024 09:48

So you’ve bought Mr Men books for your Year 11s before? I do hope you didn’t categorise the kids with negative Mr Men traits like Mr Greedy, Mr Uppity, Mr Smelly, Mr Grumpy, Mr Angry…

I’d argue that the Enterprise book is a perfect title to give to a child struggling with maths, as it takes a different approach to having fun with numbers (through real life application) and therefore helping to encourage your child to enjoy maths & thus engage more with the topic.

And yes, there are definitely families out there who have little to no books in their houses, beyond those brought home through schemes like World Book Day. It’s naïve to think otherwise. For some, books & literacy skills simply aren’t a priority.

I’ve said on a previous post some time ago that _any reading should be encouraged; even a trip to the local shops can be used to familiarise children to letters & words. Likewise it can also be an opportunity for applying real life numeracy skills. House numbers, prices on supermarket shelves, hopscotch markings, even car number plates can help basic numeracy skills.

A book that you as a parent could sit & read together, and explore a different approach to maths can only be a good thing.

Jifmicroliquid · 18/12/2024 09:33

Why are modern parents never happy with anything?

It’s a gift. If you don’t like it, chuck it in the charity shop bag.

pimplebum · 18/12/2024 09:22

ALL books or indeed anything that has words can encourage literacy ,

how can you be sure your gift to the teacher and t.a will be perfectly matched to their likes and strengths ?

how would you feel if your teacher gift was criticised on here ?

TheYearOfSmallThings · 18/12/2024 09:17

Jingleberryalltheway · 18/12/2024 06:51

7% of children in the UK don’t have even one book of their own. This is why free books are given out.

If they literally don't have a book of their own by school age, then their family must be throwing away all the free books and making an active choice not to have books in the house. It isn't from poverty, and this free book will go where the other free books went. It is not the case that there are lots of humble and deserving waifs just waiting to cherish any random book they are given, if only someone is kind enough to give them some book nobody else really wants.

And when it is wrapped up in Christmas paper and given by Santa, I remain fully convinced that this is a disappointing gift. Like being promised a treat and then given a sprout is worse than not being promised anything.

Wonderi · 18/12/2024 07:59

coffeeandteav · 18/12/2024 07:15

@Kibble29

This book would not be one to encourage literacy. Not at all.

Anything that has words and is of interest to a child, encourages literacy.

It doesn’t matter whether it’s the guiness book of world records, a joke book, a car manual or a magazine.

If this isn’t your child’s thing then that’s ok but the people who gifted it weren’t to know that.
They can’t get it spot on all of the time.

Some children would absolutely love it and would choose to read it over other types of books.

It was a free gift from Santa.
I hope you don’t give this attitude to your DC because most kids would be very grateful to receive a gift, regardless of what it was.