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Should we accept greater state monitoring of families in order to safeguard children?

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AllYearsAround · 17/12/2024 18:46

This point has been raised on a few threads in reference to Sara Sharif - that the state should do more monitoring of home educated children if there's a possibility of uncovering abuse and saving a life.

But looking into it, most children killed by a parent or step parent are actually under 1
https://learning.nspcc.org.uk/research-resources/statistics-briefings/child-deaths-abuse-neglect

There have been a few awful cases recently of babies and toddlers being murdered, particularly by mums' boyfriends.

Would it not be more sensible then to put the time and money into monitoring families with young babies? We already have the system in place with health visitors.

Maybe health visitors should be a mandatory service, with regular (weekly? Monthly?) home visits and babies stripped and weighed/examined.

This would surely save many more lives than any additional monitoring of home education.

Statistics about child deaths due to abuse or neglect | NSPCC Learning

This briefing looks at what data and statistics are available about child deaths due to abuse and neglect, to help professionals make evidence-based decisions about keeping children safe.

https://learning.nspcc.org.uk/research-resources/statistics-briefings/child-deaths-abuse-neglect

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WitcheryDivine · 17/12/2024 19:43

Ted27 · 17/12/2024 19:41

@WitcheryDivine

What is it about the care system which includes fostering, that could be worse?

That is what I’m asking. Are SS reluctant to remove children because they think on average kids have better outcomes in their own families even when violence is happening than they do in care? Or is there another reason eg lack of care places?

bettingpencil · 17/12/2024 19:41

well one practical reason why not is childrens services/health vistors simply do not have the manpower. You were need probably four times the size of the workforce as you have now.

The other thing is i'm pretty sure it would be in direct contravention of Article 8 of the ECHR

Ted27 · 17/12/2024 19:41

@WitcheryDivine

What is it about the care system which includes fostering, that could be worse?

Jellycatspyjamas · 17/12/2024 19:36

We already have a health visitor system though, it could just be made mandatory and health visitors given rights of entry and rights to examine children. Wouldn't even need to be health visitors, it could be nursery nurses doing spot checks on homes.

I very much doubt Health Visitors would want the additional duties and powers needed to undertake mandatory visits. You do realise that social workers don’t have powers of entry or the legal right to see any child, even one there are concerns about.

The steady erosion of social work as a profession has a lot to answer for - huge recruitment issues particularly in child protection, ever reducing resources, an assumption that anyone could do the job better and a legislative framework that ties workers hands while also holding them accountable for the safety of children being raised in complex family circumstances.

Equip social workers properly and children will be safer, home schooled or not.

WitcheryDivine · 17/12/2024 19:35

I can’t access the full stats right now but IIRC it’s not that most children killed are killed before they’re one (eg if it were 10 children, 6 or more of those would be under one). It’s that under one is the most likely age to be killed (eg it might be 2 under one’s and only 1 in every other age group right up to one hundred years old). It’s absolutely horrendous that under ones are the most targeted group but sadly the stats don’t indicate that you could hugely cut these numbers just by monitoring babies alone.

Does anyone know what the resistance is to removing children in cases of established violence like Sara’s? Is it for fear that the alternative like care or fostering is even worse?!

GRex · 17/12/2024 19:32

Having a lower bar for removing children when there is evidence of physical abuse wpuld be the most useful first step. I do not have any comprehension of why abusive humans are allowed to keep vulnerable children.

If you really want to help under-5s, then best of helping their mums by reinstating and better advertising of children's centre support would be great. I saw tired mums handing over a baby for a break at ours, plus they minded the kids during various feeding or other parenting classes, signposting the church playgroups and giving a name of who would let them in free etc.

Girasoli · 17/12/2024 19:31

I don't think it would be a good use of limited resources...I think more resources for targeted interventions would be better.

Having said that, Sure Start was great. It would be great if that could be expanded again.

MsNeis · 17/12/2024 19:31

Interesting topic. I tend to see state intervention in people's lives as something to be vigilant about and, frankly, quite problematic. Often state intervention functions as an excuse for people so they don't have to care for their neighbours.
What I think is that people should be aware of the signs of abuse and have 0 tolerance for it. Of course the state has to be there, I'm not at all in favour of the small state. What I worry about is that, with good intentions, we enable a faceless and bureaucratic institution to have control over people's lives, with victims falling through the cracks because individual people choose to "externalise" their caring.
Oh gosh, I don't know if I'm expressing myself clearly 🙏

GiantBears · 17/12/2024 19:30

The problem is that the state services are really overstretched and so the monitoring can be really toxic. If we had enough people to actually be kind and listen to children that would be great, but we don't. I'm fortunate that I have an EOTAS package for my DS so I do have monitoring from kind sensible people. But before I got that the contacts were awful and judgemental and traumatic for my DS.

Wavescrashingonthebeach · 17/12/2024 19:25

That poor little boy who was locked outside in the cold and punished with cold water, I feel awful I've forgotten his name, but there were MULTIPLE police calls concerning his behaviour.
Safeguarding is everyone's duty, but when major Safeguarding concerns are raised we need to be following up on them!

As for nursery nurses doing "spot checks"- they're even more over worked and underpaid than the Health Visitors! And our government has gone and increased the legal ratios of how many children can be looked after by one person, like that won't lead to catastrophe.

Curtainqueen · 17/12/2024 19:25

WitcheryDivine · 17/12/2024 19:11

I think OP if you’re keen on additional health visitor checks then by all means campaign for it.

They clearly don’t understand the process of making laws.

Curtainqueen · 17/12/2024 19:23

AllYearsAround · 17/12/2024 19:03

If it can be done for home educating families it can be done for all families.

No it can’t.

Lovelysummerdays · 17/12/2024 19:23

I think social services have an incredibly high bar to remove children. Lots of despite it being known a parent being violent/ abusive / alchoholic / taking drugs that a child should stay in the family home.

The idea that Sara who should have been well on the radar already could be taken out of school in response to reported concerns without red flags waving is ridiculous. I’m not saying all children who are HE need monitoring but perhaps a review on a case by case basis would be sensible.

I think possibly an annual wellness check over with would be sensible for all children.

bernadetteo · 17/12/2024 19:23

SaffronsMadAboutMe · 17/12/2024 18:52

YABU because it's not just about being actually killed.

There will be plenty of home educated 'off radar' children whose abuse is going undetected.

Equally there are many children attending school whose abuse is also off radar

leia24 · 17/12/2024 19:22

FOJN · 17/12/2024 19:18

I can't remember any similar case where the family were not already known to social services.

I think social services need better resourcing and support to act decisively and with authority when there are concerns.

Case near me where a baby died within the last few weeks with no previous involvement

leia24 · 17/12/2024 19:21

It's unusual that children not known to the local authority die. But not unheard of.
The second most vulnerable group are teenagers so what is your plan for them?

Upstartled · 17/12/2024 19:20

FOJN · 17/12/2024 19:18

I can't remember any similar case where the family were not already known to social services.

I think social services need better resourcing and support to act decisively and with authority when there are concerns.

Yes, this, in abundance.

FOJN · 17/12/2024 19:18

ARichtGoodDram · 17/12/2024 18:49

Sara was on social services radar before she was born. She was in care twice before she started school and one of her siblings was permanently removed from the family.

Additional monitoring of children living with known violent abusive parents should absolutely be a thing.

Sara was a child who should have been having very regular contact with her social worker. It would be sensible to put the time and money into protecting the children we know are in danger. Zero point in picking up their risks if they are then repeatedly ignored afterwards.

I can't remember any similar case where the family were not already known to social services.

I think social services need better resourcing and support to act decisively and with authority when there are concerns.

soupfiend · 17/12/2024 19:15

AllYearsAround · 17/12/2024 19:00

We already have a health visitor system though, it could just be made mandatory and health visitors given rights of entry and rights to examine children. Wouldn't even need to be health visitors, it could be nursery nurses doing spot checks on homes.

Even social workers dont have right of entry, the only people who do are police and they cant force entry unless they have just reason to believe a crime is being committed in the property itself.

ThePoshUns · 17/12/2024 19:14

WitcheryDivine · 17/12/2024 19:06

I think it’s incredible that there’s currently no way of keeping track of kids who aren’t registered at a school. Children don’t belong to their parents to do what they like with them, they are people who need protecting and IMO at the very least having an unrelated person check in on them once a year if not in school should be a minimum.

I agree , children should be treated as citizens in their own right.

Penguinmouse · 17/12/2024 19:14

I agree OP and with other posters. There need to be changes around home education etc but the structures around babies and toddlers are lacking. I found HV provision lacking a lot - didn’t hear from mine after the first few weeks. More check ins at a younger age is important - it’s also when children are most vulnerable and parents can feel a lot of strain through lack of sleep etc. There also needs to be a much stronger system once concerns are raised.

ChardonnaysBeastlyCat · 17/12/2024 19:14

All of the children in the horrible recent cases were monitored.

It didn’t seem to be working.

Upstartled · 17/12/2024 19:13

People who take their children out of the school system should be prepared to endure more oversight.

More support in the first year would be good. My eldest is 17 yrs and there was far more interaction with health visitors back then than my sister has now with her babies.

SouthLondonMum22 · 17/12/2024 19:12

AllYearsAround · 17/12/2024 19:08

So would you just suggest once a year mandatory health visitor checks? Surely that will leave a lot of children vulnerable if those most at risk are under their 1st birthday.

I went back to work before my children’s 1st birthdays. Would I be exempt because mine are seen daily in nursery or would I be forced to take time off of work every week?

WitcheryDivine · 17/12/2024 19:11

I think OP if you’re keen on additional health visitor checks then by all means campaign for it.

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