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To completely go against DH beccause I think his opinion is ridiculous

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apecial · 17/12/2024 16:22

DH has a very strong opinion about one particular hobby, football. He HATES it and the culture around it, in his words.He has a very very strong opinion on it. He has family that are football obsessed and hated it growing up, the drinking and shouting and getting so riled up by the score.

He cannot stand it when he feels like it's someone's whole life, the only topic they talk about, when people go out to the pub and are screaming and shouting or getting angry because of the score and so on.

Basically you get the gist, he fucking HATES football. I'm not into football so it doesn't really come up much in our house although he does know that I think his opinion is too strong / silly.

Our son went to a party recently. He is typically very shy (he's 4) and never usually joins in things however he recently went to a football party (a toddler footy session) and he loved it and hasn't stopped going on about it.

The guy who runs it does a toddler / young kids football session on a Saturday morning, I want to see if DS would like to go but in the past DH has made it clear that he absolutely doesn't want any DC doing football as a hobby, anything else but that.

Wibu to go completely against his opinion because I think it's ridiculous and take DS anyway if he wants to go.

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Mandylovescandy · 17/12/2024 16:29

I am not a fan of football and wouldn't have encouraged my DC to do it but they didn't show any interest so it wasn't a difficult decision - I think what your DC really enjoyed is most important so I would let him try it. The only thing is I guess it will always be you taking him. If you found something multi sport then DC would still get all the benefits of sport and DH be on board

stayathomer · 17/12/2024 16:29

I’m torn, he’s being ridiculous, it could be great for your son but saying that if eg dh came home and wanted my son to do a sport I hated the culture around I’d be going mad if he took him

apecial · 17/12/2024 16:29

ComtesseDeSpair · 17/12/2024 16:26

I think it’s a difficult sport to like if your experience of if growing up was the association with hooliganism, violence, drinking too much, swearing at the ref etc - which it sounds like his was. I’d not stop DS playing football if he really wants to, but I’d definitely have some sympathy with DH’s position if he thinks his son is going to end up just like the people he found threatening growing up.

I think this is absolutely where his hatred stems from, he associates football with drunk hooligans and aggressiveness. It's not his parents but his wider family.

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Nogaxeh · 17/12/2024 16:28

I'd recommend some counselling for your DH, so that he can find a happy middle ground between not liking the experience he grew up with and forbidding his son from doing something he'd enjoy.

stargirl1701 · 17/12/2024 16:28

Is your DH Scottish? Is this a Rangers/Celtic thing? If yes, I agree with your DH.

GrumpyCactus · 17/12/2024 16:27

I don't think you're unreasonable.

Just because he doesn't like football doesn't mean your child should miss out. He's his own person with his own interests.

Also worth reminding him that it's a preschool football class it's not a gateway into him being a yob, downing pints at the pub and shouting at the TV. If he can't see that then he probably needs to speak to a professional about his issues.

UltramarineViolet · 17/12/2024 16:26

Yes he is being ridiculous

It's one thing to have an opinion but unfair to force his views on DS

ComtesseDeSpair · 17/12/2024 16:26

I think it’s a difficult sport to like if your experience of if growing up was the association with hooliganism, violence, drinking too much, swearing at the ref etc - which it sounds like his was. I’d not stop DS playing football if he really wants to, but I’d definitely have some sympathy with DH’s position if he thinks his son is going to end up just like the people he found threatening growing up.

canyouletthedogoutplease · 17/12/2024 16:26

It is one thing to dislike football intensely. It is quite another to forbid your child from liking football.

Toopulululu · 17/12/2024 16:25

I’d just take him myself.

Your DH is being utterly ridiculous. There are some negatives around football culture, granted, but it’s a great team sport and a good way for kids to meet other kids, socialise, etc.

ItOnlyTakesTwoMinutes · 17/12/2024 16:23

I’d take him.