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MisterPNumber23 · 17/12/2024 12:47

Men around this height, and shorter, are perfect for me, and I'd love to meet someone who didn't tower above me. :)

Ohnonotmeagain · 17/12/2024 12:32

MumblesParty · 17/12/2024 12:21

I know it’s my own fault for reading, but I hate these threads in which some women blithely dismiss men as being “too short”, as if it’s a biological fact, not just a personal preference.

DS2 is 5’8”, may possibly reach 5’9” at most (already nearly 16 and has been pubertal for years). He’s really sad about not being tall. He hates it. I try and tell him that his height is fine, but I read threads like this and it makes me sad for him. I’d love to see the reaction on MN if men posted saying women above a certain BMI were “too fat”, especially when weight is actually something individuals can change, unlike height.

Ridiculous isn’t it.

i’ve never given a crap. I was always a dancer where men tend not to be tall and strapping, they’re on the shorter slender side.

it was always their dancing ability that attracted me. Some of the loveliest men I know have been the shorter ones.

i do have some taller female friends and they get similar, where blokes won’t look at them if the women are taller.

buying into the ridiculous stereotypes and dynamics of “big protective man” and “delicate little girl” who needs a big man to watch out for her.

PromoJoJo · 17/12/2024 12:23

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MumblesParty · 17/12/2024 12:21

I know it’s my own fault for reading, but I hate these threads in which some women blithely dismiss men as being “too short”, as if it’s a biological fact, not just a personal preference.

DS2 is 5’8”, may possibly reach 5’9” at most (already nearly 16 and has been pubertal for years). He’s really sad about not being tall. He hates it. I try and tell him that his height is fine, but I read threads like this and it makes me sad for him. I’d love to see the reaction on MN if men posted saying women above a certain BMI were “too fat”, especially when weight is actually something individuals can change, unlike height.

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Jumell · 17/12/2024 12:21

NotInvolved · 17/12/2024 12:05

Yes. Both my sons are about this size and have had many really horrible comments from women. The elder of the two says he's given up on the idea that anyone will ever go out with him. He's 21 and barely ever goes out now.
If they judged women about their bodies in the same way they would, quite rightly, be hauled over the coals. I tell them that any woman who is so judgemental isn't worth bothering about but there seems to be a lot of them!

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Well tell the elder of your DSs that a lot of my crushes - even as a teen - was on men of these very proportions in their 20s. So imo your DS has NOTHING to worry about in terms of future success with women. absolutely nothing.

and my friends were all of the same view as me !

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Katemax82 · 17/12/2024 12:11

My dad was over 6ft and 9.5 stones...

pumpkinpillow · 17/12/2024 12:06

Jumell · 17/12/2024 10:06

Just if people like me think it sounds thin or if people think it actually sounds perfectly reasonable

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9 stone at that height for a man is pretty small. I'm sure you know that.
Whether he's healthy or not, we can't know.
Someone who does fell running, is a jockey, or a coxswain, eats and sleeps well etc is likely to be healthy. There are plenty of naturally very small and healthy people.
Someone who shoots up drugs, smokes a pack a day and gets their calories from whiskey might look very lean but probably isn't very healthy.
Someone who is obsessed with exercise and 'nutrition' might be healthy at that weight at the moment but wouldn't be able to sustain either the lifestyle or the healthy body.

NotInvolved · 17/12/2024 12:05

Wordau · 17/12/2024 11:32

Slightly weird question aside, people are so fucking rude and sizeist.

"Too short and too skinny"

He's a healthy weight for his build. And only 1cm shorter than the average height for men.

Can you imagine someone saying that to a woman and being ok with it? Or how about too tall and too fat.

Rude, narrow minded, and judgemental.

Yes. Both my sons are about this size and have had many really horrible comments from women. The elder of the two says he's given up on the idea that anyone will ever go out with him. He's 21 and barely ever goes out now.
If they judged women about their bodies in the same way they would, quite rightly, be hauled over the coals. I tell them that any woman who is so judgemental isn't worth bothering about but there seems to be a lot of them!

DowntonCrabbie · 17/12/2024 11:59

Jumell · 17/12/2024 10:06

Just if people like me think it sounds thin or if people think it actually sounds perfectly reasonable

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I think none of us should be talking about some random dudes body.

Weird AF post

Sdpbody · 17/12/2024 11:56

I am 5ft4 and at 9 stone, I am a "normal BMI" but I look skinny. At 5ft7 and 9 stone, I would look gaunt.

My DH is 5ft11 and weights 13 stone, he would be horribly thin at 10 stone which would be a BMI of 20.

KimberleyClark · 17/12/2024 11:56

UrsulasHerbBag · 17/12/2024 11:27

I have heard this too.

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It’s tall men that are more likely to cheat according to research.

ChubbyBubbyBoo · 17/12/2024 11:55

Yeah he sounds lean, not for me either but whatever floats your boat.
I like men to be almost twice my weight so I feel smaller.

MisterPNumber23 · 17/12/2024 11:52

Jumell · 17/12/2024 10:01

I’m getting back with my ex - and he mentioned last night he was 9 stone - he’s 5ft 7

i always thought he’s got a gorgeous lean physique but still think this sounds skinny for a man

but he looks fabulous I think 🙌

Any thoughts on these stats ?

I have randomly looked on the internet and it seems 9st 5lb is the minimum healthy weight for a man of 5ft 7"

Jennyathemall · 17/12/2024 11:44

Elf on the shelf?

JLou08 · 17/12/2024 11:43

If a man wrote a thread like this about me they would be staying an ex. It I took to MN to write a post about him doing it I'm sure it would be full of comments about what a misogynistic twat he was.

Kim5678 · 17/12/2024 11:42

It sounds very slim, especially for his age. I’ve dated people of similar proportions but because I was taller and often bigger at size 10 I felt like their protector which I didn’t really like. But none of us can tell you what you like and find attractive

AbitSceptical · 17/12/2024 11:41

HPandthelastwish · 17/12/2024 10:07

Well you'll be able to fatten him up with Greggs, and be safe in the knowledge he won't add to your tiny £30 a month food bill.

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Ha ha - I didn’t realise this was the same op!

Onceuponatime9 · 17/12/2024 11:36

I think it's more to do with your height & weight differences. If there is a huge difference eg a very tall heavier man with a much shorter woman I can't imagine it makes for the most comfortable physical side of the relationship regardless of how attractive he is. If it works for you that's what counts.Why question it & bother about what other people think.

Wordau · 17/12/2024 11:32

Slightly weird question aside, people are so fucking rude and sizeist.

"Too short and too skinny"

He's a healthy weight for his build. And only 1cm shorter than the average height for men.

Can you imagine someone saying that to a woman and being ok with it? Or how about too tall and too fat.

Rude, narrow minded, and judgemental.

IAmNeverThePerson · 17/12/2024 11:30

It’s slim.

ds1 is 6ft and 57kg - now that is lean.

sweeneytoddsrazor · 17/12/2024 11:28

My DH is around that weight but much taller. No drugs involved. He doesn't put on weight despite eating large amounts. It appears in our house he eats it I put on the weight.

UrsulasHerbBag · 17/12/2024 11:27

SatansBobbleheadedDashboardOrnament · 17/12/2024 11:19

5ft7 men are evil, serial cheaters. Never trust one.

I have heard this too.

Mrswhatsit40 · 17/12/2024 11:23

More meat on butchers pencil.

Why are you getting back with him if it doesn't float your boat btw?

eastcoasterly · 17/12/2024 11:22

SatansBobbleheadedDashboardOrnament · 17/12/2024 11:19

5ft7 men are evil, serial cheaters. Never trust one.

😂😂😂😂

eastcoasterly · 17/12/2024 11:21

@Goody2ShoesAndTheFilthyBeast I'm guessing maybe your husband is of a different ethnicity to mine? This is what it gives me when I input those stats. Which if anything just goes to show bmi isn't the be all end all I suppose.