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To not want to go because of this

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Pinkpar · 16/12/2024 17:13

I started a new job 3 months ago. Work Christmas do is Friday. It’s a 3 course meal, free bar and dj night. Said I’d go but I don’t want to wear a dress and can’t find a jumpsuit I like and I’m quite short and I’m just feeling quite frumpy atm. So it’ll be nice tapered/dressy Zara trousers, sparkly long sleeve top, heeled boots, necklace and jewellery etc and I’ve had my nails done. Probably curl my hair and some makeup. But I heard my colleagues saying they’re wearing dresses and it’s made me not want to go now. Aibu?

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Pinkpar · 16/12/2024 17:39

Hesonlyakidharry · 16/12/2024 17:20

Seriously? This is the type of thing which teenagers worry about, not full grown working adults. Are you ok?

Well I over think and I’m single parent, haven’t been out for a good while, I don’t socialise that often anymore and I’m worrying what people think

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goldencabbage · 16/12/2024 17:23

It's not really fair to put your non attendance on the fact someone else wants to wear a dress. If you're insecure it's not fair to blame them. They might be insecure not in a dress.

Purplecatshopaholic · 16/12/2024 17:21

You are overthinking it. Do you normally get this stressed over ‘the small stuff’ op? It sounds exhausting and maybe you need to reflect on why on earth this is actually bothering you? It’s a non issue. Wear what you like. Go. Have a great time.

Hesonlyakidharry · 16/12/2024 17:20

Seriously? This is the type of thing which teenagers worry about, not full grown working adults. Are you ok?

Muchtoomuchtodo · 16/12/2024 17:20

Your outfit sounds ideal. Even better if it’s something that you’ll feel comfortable wearing.

Go, and I hope you have a great time

Tel12 · 16/12/2024 17:18

Go! Your outfit sounds great. Life's too short.

itsmylife7 · 16/12/2024 17:18

Who really cares what others are wearing.
Wear what you like and feel good in.

catgirl1976 · 16/12/2024 17:18

You are massively over thinking it and your outfit sounds perfectly appropriate

Your second post would make me not want to go but honestly it’s a new job and a good way to get to know the people so go and enjoy and don’t worry about your outfit

pictoosh · 16/12/2024 17:17

Nawww don't be daft.

Spaceid · 16/12/2024 17:16

I doubt everyone will be wearing a dress - the men won’t be for a start! Dresses are necessarily smarted than trousers anyway. Wear what makes you feel comfortable, confidence is much more attractive than feeling self conscious in a dress.

RegulatorsMountUp · 16/12/2024 17:16

Doesn't matter what you wear, sounds like you'll look lovely though anyway. You don't NEED to wear a dress. Just go and enjoy yourself - you're over thinking.

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Pinkpar · 16/12/2024 17:15

Btw, it’s in a 3 star hotel.

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