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Original poster

To sack off driving?

32 replies

ohyesido · 16/12/2024 13:09

I have had 8 lessons.

I hate it. It's costly, stressful and a huge pressure.

I have ADHD and I don't retain instructions easily. I do what my instructor tells me to do but it doesn't come naturally. I've never wanted to drive and I can get to anywhere in the country using public transport.

So tell me, at the age of 42, does it matter if I don't learn to do something that I really don't want to learn?

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CranfordScones · 16/12/2024 13:28

It's not the measure of a person. If you really don't want to do it and don't enjoy it then I'd give it a miss. Many of us live perfectly good lives without a car.

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ohyesido · 16/12/2024 13:26

I'm just not interested in it. Costly and dangerous

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DuckDuckPenguin · 16/12/2024 13:16

No idea but I am in exactly the same boat. Same age/diagnosis and all!

Automatic is a lot easier so definitely try that if you haven't, but personally I still hate it.

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ohyesido · 16/12/2024 13:14

My grandson is my motivation. I need to be able to get to him if they need me. Nothing else matters to me

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Icedlatteplease · 16/12/2024 13:14

Are you trying manual or automatic?

Seriously if manual, try automatic only. You may find it more natural

ForkMeImToast · 16/12/2024 13:14

I'm in the exact same boat as you although my ADHD is undiagnosed. I'm only persevering with the driving because of my kids - at the moment they are unable to go on playdates or attend birthday parties unless my OH is at home, and he's away at least half the week, every week.

If you don't have any real need to drive I guess you're not unreasonable to not carry on, but I'm personally very much looking forward to being able to do short distances in order to enhance my childrens' lives. Also excited about the prospect of being able to do a proper in-person food shop!

circleback · 16/12/2024 13:12

What was your motivation for lessons?
Personally I don’t think 8 lessons is enough to completely rule it out but it depends on the first question tbh.

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