To think they will take my children off me.

Id take the full compliance route and say that due to the allegation, your husband will only now see DS in a public place so that there is no room for misinterpretation. Alternatively SS can set up supervised contact.

Mate, you’re the one who brought up ‘other people’. I’m just over here replying to your nonsense. 🤣

There's an expansive system to go through before dc are taken into care. The bar is quite high, even if there was a feeling something inappropriate had happened there would be lots of support to change and improve before this step was looked at.

Also, social services has no legal owner to remove children, police can put dc in police protection if there's an immediate risk, otherwise a judge has to be involved.

I think it's understandable you are worried, but I don't think you have to be. Just be open about what happened.

Awww mate. It's cute you post 'for the likes'. Bet your Facebook page is a real gem 🤣

However when you then start reading the stories of SS lying and exaggerating and taking children of their parents it makes me feel sick.

the vast majority of people who say this stuff are not being honest themselves. Ask yourself this: Why would a social worker want to lie in order to remove a child (which would also involve perjuring themselves in court)? The last thing a SW/Local Authority wants is for a child to come into the care system, it’s incredibly expensive for the LA and there’s a massive shortage of foster homes.

OP, I am sorry that you are going through this. Children's Social Care almost certainly just want to find out what happened and to make sure that your DC is getting all the support they need. When they come, take it as an opportunity to ask for more support or guidance if this is something either you or your partner may need e.g with respect to handling meltdowns, keeping your DC safe when they are upset and so on.

We had a similar situation when our DC were young. A social worker from the disability team came with another social worker, and the visit helped us to access more support for our sons (both of whom have additional needs).

The Family Rights Group also have a forum and a helpline which is really helpful if you need advice about social services.

Social workers don't take kids btw. They aren't that powerful.

Yes, my ss got my husband arrested for common assault years ago but the cps didn't persue it as a bruise expert was able to tell he was lying about when the bruise was caused (also he had told me the bruise was from a school fight). We didn't lose our 1 year old son

A lot of the times that you hear of SS taking children and the parents crying about how they stole their kids from a loving home you have to realize that we only will ever get the parents side due to legal issues. There was a case that happened near me where the mother was lamenting on Facebook about the evil SS taking her kids. Turns out that she abandoned them for almost a week with a thirteen year old watching them. She left little food. She was later arrested and jailed.

I doubt they're going to be interested that much in the way you think OP. But this is an opportunity to get the bairn some outside support. He's obviously not feeling in control of his life and maybe he doesn't feel safe or has unmet needs. Maybe this will be a life raft to some external help.

The bickering and point-scoring on this thread is pathetic. (ETA: and more importantly, it undermines the readability of a thread on a serious issue)

OP, kindly, you need to stop reading stuff that is deliberately designed to wind you up. The best thing you can possibly do for a good outcome is be totally honest and straightforward with SS.

Ss works with families...they want the children to stay with their parents but want their safe. They only remove children at a last resort. You just work with them and you nothing to worry about.

you hear all these horror stories that SS lie and are child snatchers

I know it's an upsetting situation but try not to get carried away and keep common sense in play. They're doing their job, which isn't easy, and they could be helpful.

I was not a happy or emotionally stable child and I lashed out - but usually in the wrong direction. I knew I needed help but I didn’t know what that would be or how to get it. I know now that I didn’t send my ‘lashes’ in the right direction because that was just too scary to face.

They don't have enough resources to protect kids that are actually being abused so I imagine your situation will be top of their priorities.

Quoting and responding to a comment = replying to a comment on MN. So, she responded to my initial comment, tagging me, thus starting our exchange.

Thus far, 23 people have thanked me for said initial comment, and 17 have thanked me for my next one. So, if we’re looking at what ‘other people’ think of things, I’m pretty comfortable that I’m ahead.

HTH. 😁 😎

@SWLondonLurker actually she didn't rage you first. She quoted you as something to respond with her experience that was different to your opinion.

It was other people that tagged you for being rude and judgemental without the slightest bit of evidence to justify the attitude

Hope that helps clarify 😎😁

I never said I was fed up replying. You’re just making things up now. 🤣

The person who seems triggered here is you. You started this and I will keep replying as long as you keep tagging me. I’ve been very clear on this. So, feel free to carry on with your word salad spiralling. No skin off my nose.

Guess you couldn't help yourself could you? I just knew you wouldn't be able to resist not replying further.

You tagged me first, love. You initiated our exchange and everything I’ve said to you has been a reply

Well my lovely, you said you were fed up with replying. You seem to take offence to people tagging you at all, but it happens all the time on MN. Somehow, I seem to have massively triggered you by pointing out your rather hasty and ill judged conclusion to the OPs initial reply.

Touché on the 'verbiage' though. Feel calmer now? Good.

Petty? Very.

''Social media is full of “social services stole my baby” stories. If you dig a little below the surface you inevitably find a history of chaos, drugs, alcohol, neglect, abuse. But the people telling these stories don’t disclose any of that, they just tell them for sympathy and attention.''

THIS ⬆️ .

No child is removed unless a desperately unsafe situation.
Even then, some unfortunate children slip through the net, the deceased children that we all hear of in the news. ''Lessons will be learned''...

Social workers aren't likely to take children away- Sadly even in a recent case where a child was tortured to death the child wasn't removed from the abusive family.

Other children have died because social workers weren't proactive enough {bruises hidden by chocolate spread}

Be honest with the social workers.

Stay calm during the visit. State factually what happened. State how your husband restrained his child ( I’m hoping it was an approved method of child restraint) to prevent him harming anyone including himself.
Don’t accuse DSS of being a liar, or twisting the truth, try to remain positive.

I think at the most your DH will be offered safe restraining methods, maybe a parenting course. Can’t imagine SS would do anything else.

It’s OP’s step child. The step child’s mother is their main carer.

Social media is full of “social services stole my baby” stories. If you dig a little below the surface you inevitably find a history of chaos, drugs, alcohol, neglect, abuse. But the people telling these stories don’t disclose any of that, they just tell them for sympathy and attention.

I get why you’re worried OP. But I agree with what’s already been said. Be open and honest and work with social services. Be clear where DSS needs more help. Children exaggerating is absolutely day to day for anyone working in children’s services, they know how to investigate properly.

And of said abusers denying their abuse towards the child and painting themselves as the victims. Abusers will lie and so when an abuser says they took my child away for no reason....it is a crock of shite. They want ppl to believe that they didn't have a part to play in it and are playing the victim.