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Mumsworld112 · 2024-12-16T10:18:05+00:00

Me and my sister are reasonably close, we see each other weekly when we all go visit our parents. She recently got married and her husband is very well off. She is constantly talking about designer items and how rich she is etc. I used to be quite well off but since giving birth to twins I have stopped working (they’re still babies) and my husband is the sole earner so naturally we don’t spend as recklessly as we did pre- kids. It really gets annoying hearing all this designer talk, I am so blessed in my own life and don’t feel like I lack in anything, but hearing this constantly I don’t want it to affect my negatively or for me to start comparing etc. After having my babies I realised money really isn’t everything, a happy home is all you need but she makes it out like I am a pauper and she is above us all.

JillMW · 19/12/2024 10:37

I imagine that on another post is a lady saying people think I have everything yet all I really want is a family.

KimberleyClark · 19/12/2024 10:35

Lickityspit · 19/12/2024 10:29

If you are happy with your babies and your life why does this bother you? It sounds as if you enjoyed a nice lifestyle before having kids and maybe your sister will also realise there is more to life than money when she has kids. You sound a bit jealous

Why are you assuming she will have kids? She may not want them.

Lickityspit · 19/12/2024 10:29

If you are happy with your babies and your life why does this bother you? It sounds as if you enjoyed a nice lifestyle before having kids and maybe your sister will also realise there is more to life than money when she has kids. You sound a bit jealous

InveterateWineDrinker · 16/12/2024 11:00

Mrsttcno1 · 16/12/2024 10:26

I suppose it depends on whether this is an issue with what she’s saying or an issue with how you’re receiving it. If she’s telling you about something she has bought or somewhere she’s been because she wants to share about things that make her happy & you are feeling this way out of jealousy then that’s more a you issue. If she’s saying “look at my new LV bag, you’ll never be able to afford one” then that’s another thing and is a her issue.

I agree with this very much, but for me there would be something else: if it represents a change in her values then it can be quite difficult to get past that.

Something similar happened with my sister (an inheritance, rather than marrying into money) and it has completely changed the way I see her, not in a good way.

Mrsttcno1 · 16/12/2024 10:41

Mumsworld112 · 16/12/2024 10:30

Basically she never used to speak about high end things much because she couldn’t get them on her job. But now married to her husband who’s well off even my family noticed she talks too much about designer labels and how her husband can buy whatever they want. If I shop from Vinted etc she’ll say things like “I could never buy things on there” or certain things look “cheap”

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See this would just be an eye-roll from me, the fact it is bothering you so much does suggest that this has hit a nerve for you.

GiveItAGoMalcom · 16/12/2024 10:37

If you're truly happy with your own life, this should illicit no more than an eye-roll from you.

It's annoying when people go on about anything, whether it's money, their DC, their holidays or anything really.

But it would only bother me if it was hitting a raw nerve in some way.

Quitelikeit · 16/12/2024 10:34

If you are close to her then why not say ‘I don’t have a choice I don’t have the same spending power as you’

healthybychristmas · 16/12/2024 10:32

You see if that was my sister I would just say FFS it's not like you're paying for it yourself!

NotParticularly · 16/12/2024 10:32

Why would it ‘affect you negatively’ if you’re happy with your own life? If she’s just boring you, just say ‘Lisa, just so you know, we’re all playing ‘brand name bingo’ here, so please talk more about your DeVol kitchen, Balenciaga knickers and Alexander McQueen mittens, because I get a selection box for a full house.’

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Mumsworld112 · 16/12/2024 10:30

Mrsttcno1 · 16/12/2024 10:26

I suppose it depends on whether this is an issue with what she’s saying or an issue with how you’re receiving it. If she’s telling you about something she has bought or somewhere she’s been because she wants to share about things that make her happy & you are feeling this way out of jealousy then that’s more a you issue. If she’s saying “look at my new LV bag, you’ll never be able to afford one” then that’s another thing and is a her issue.

Basically she never used to speak about high end things much because she couldn’t get them on her job. But now married to her husband who’s well off even my family noticed she talks too much about designer labels and how her husband can buy whatever they want. If I shop from Vinted etc she’ll say things like “I could never buy things on there” or certain things look “cheap”

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Mrsttcno1 · 16/12/2024 10:26

I suppose it depends on whether this is an issue with what she’s saying or an issue with how you’re receiving it. If she’s telling you about something she has bought or somewhere she’s been because she wants to share about things that make her happy & you are feeling this way out of jealousy then that’s more a you issue. If she’s saying “look at my new LV bag, you’ll never be able to afford one” then that’s another thing and is a her issue.

Hannaahhhh · 16/12/2024 10:25

Did you used to talk about money a lot before kids? Or show off? Is that why she thinks this talk is normal? If not, just tell her you're not interested in hearing anything about her finances so could she stop telling you.