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What was your position on Amber Heard & Johnny Depp

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Hugge · 15/12/2024 20:54

I wonder if your feelings have changed since the trial?

I always viewed their situation as mutually toxic - they both abused and were abused. I honestly hated seeing people seemingly enjoying the tearing down and gaslighting of Amber. I think Amber did herself no favours. She’s clearly a narcissist and it was obvious when she was recounting her experiences. Very dramatic and forced. But I still believe she was hurt by Depp.

Johnny Depp has garnered so much good will for just being Johnny Depp. Not to mention the Children’s hospital visits. But multiple things can be true at once. He can be charitable with his time whilst also being an abuser.

Depp may never have hit Kate Moss. But that has no bearing on his relationship with Heard. In some relationships fighting is almost like foreplay. The emotion, passion etc can be addictive. It probably excited them both to fight and make up.

It is accepted Johnny Depp was addicted to both drugs and alcohol. In my experience, alcoholic men can be absolute monsters. I had an abusive father and the anger just came to the fore as soon as he drank.

Amber is back in the news and I just feel very sorry for her. I’m sure she played her part but I’m sure she was also hurt. Just chewed up and spat out.

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vibratosprigato · 15/12/2024 21:11

I have a lot of sympathy for AH because of the unequal treatment they received. It's quite clear that they were awful to each other.

I think the main reasons for the tirade she received were:

  • JD was pretty universally adored
  • she presented herself as a victim when in actuality it appeared to be mutual abuse
  • she's unlikeable

I really dislike how he has come out of the whole thing as some kind of champion and she has been shunned. Either they should both be working in Hollywood or neither of them should.

The text messages he wrote about raping her burnt dead corpse were particularly horrifying.

SweetBobby · 15/12/2024 21:10

I couldn't feel one ounce of pity for her. She's a vile, lying narcissist.

henlake7 · 15/12/2024 21:10

I thought she was a terrible human being (and judging by the trial a horrendous actor as well).

FoxtonFoxton · 15/12/2024 21:09

I think they were/are both a pair of knob heads who were equally to blame for their shitty relationship and who were both physically and mentally abusive. I just think one had a better attorney.

Fantina · 15/12/2024 21:08

I believe her.

MintyFreshest · 15/12/2024 21:08

I think they were both probably awful to each other.

People do tend to worship him though. Although I think it's the Jack Sparrow character that everyone seems to be in love with!

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Hugge · 15/12/2024 21:07

I don’t know why but the moment his male lawyer fist bumped when Amber mentioned Kate Moss (it meant that KM could be used as witness for the defence) just absolutely enrages me. Attorneys playing up to the cameras 🤢. The whole thing had become a spectacle.

What was your position on Amber Heard & Johnny Depp
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Thatcastlethere · 15/12/2024 21:00

I always thought they were both pretty toxic but then I started to side more with her because he could've left it.. his reputation would have been fine, he's the more liked and powerful or the two.. but he absolutely went for her. Now people send her death threats and think he's some kind of innocent victim. Which I think he 100% knows is bollocks.
They were both off their faces.
He's got serious drug and alcohol problems.
It's also telling that it was only in a televised trial in the US where things sided with him.. in the UK when he tried to sue a newspaper for printing he was an abuser, he lost as it was found there was enough evidence for the newspaper article to have been written in good faith.

Basically I think they ate both terrible people who were in an extremely toxic violent relationship.. I think she trued to cash in on the abuse and then he retaliated publicly. Both really shitty things to do. But I tend to side more with her due to the massive power imbalance. She didn't really stand a chance.

1WanderingWomble · 15/12/2024 20:59

My position... there was an absolute frenzy of misogyny unleashed on Amber Heard during the US trial. It was disgusting and quite traumatic. I have no idea really what happened in their relationship and I do think she's likely quite a difficult person, but Depp I just find despicable - for his vindictive behaviour towards Amber, his horrific texts about her, and quite a few other reasons including his friendship with Marilyn Manson, his violence over the years, his dodgy history (the Viper club in particular is extremely shady), and other 'colourful' things like trying to obtain paintings by the serial killer John Wayne Gacey and Hitler's gun.

CaptainCabinetsTrappedInCabinets · 15/12/2024 20:59

That everyone should stop talking about them and they will go away.

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Hugge · 15/12/2024 20:55

society will never believe a woman over a man

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