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What was your position on Amber Heard & Johnny Depp

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Hugge · 15/12/2024 20:54

I wonder if your feelings have changed since the trial?

I always viewed their situation as mutually toxic - they both abused and were abused. I honestly hated seeing people seemingly enjoying the tearing down and gaslighting of Amber. I think Amber did herself no favours. She’s clearly a narcissist and it was obvious when she was recounting her experiences. Very dramatic and forced. But I still believe she was hurt by Depp.

Johnny Depp has garnered so much good will for just being Johnny Depp. Not to mention the Children’s hospital visits. But multiple things can be true at once. He can be charitable with his time whilst also being an abuser.

Depp may never have hit Kate Moss. But that has no bearing on his relationship with Heard. In some relationships fighting is almost like foreplay. The emotion, passion etc can be addictive. It probably excited them both to fight and make up.

It is accepted Johnny Depp was addicted to both drugs and alcohol. In my experience, alcoholic men can be absolute monsters. I had an abusive father and the anger just came to the fore as soon as he drank.

Amber is back in the news and I just feel very sorry for her. I’m sure she played her part but I’m sure she was also hurt. Just chewed up and spat out.

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devilspawn · 15/12/2024 21:22

Also agree it was on both sides and with drugs and alcohol involved I doubt they can even reliably say themselves what happened for all of it.

I'm surprised so many people have this view on this thread though, everything I see is typically pro Johnny normally.

Yes, I don’t know anyone in the real world
who shares my views on this.

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WhatTheKey · 15/12/2024 21:26

I'm surprised at how Paul Bettany seems to be none the worse. I always thought he seemed okay until I read those texts. Horrible bastard. Not to mention JD, of course. Misogynistic, toxic men.

frockandcrocs · 15/12/2024 21:24

FoxtonFoxton · 15/12/2024 21:09

I think they were/are both a pair of knob heads who were equally to blame for their shitty relationship and who were both physically and mentally abusive. I just think one had a better attorney.

Completely agree with this.

needhelpwiththisplease · 15/12/2024 21:24

She came across appallingly and was not believable.

JazzyJelly · 15/12/2024 21:24

Johnny 'wifebeater' Depp? Who we can all say this about because he took the S*n to court for defamation and they proved he was indeed a wifebeater?

Not a fan.

Hugge · 15/12/2024 21:23

I hate seeing Johnny Depp being embraced again totally unscathed whilst Heard has had to run off to Spain. I’m glad she has seemingly created a lovely family for herself

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DreamTheMoors · 15/12/2024 21:23

I remember when the whole thing started.
Amber published an op/ed in the Washington Post, listing a number of accusations against an anonymous man — but it was obvious she was talking about Depp.
It was calculated, vicious and written to elicit great sympathy for herself while sabotaging Johnny Depp.
Right off, I knew she had an agenda and that agenda was not to defend herself, but to destroy someone else.

devilspawn · 15/12/2024 21:22

Also agree it was on both sides and with drugs and alcohol involved I doubt they can even reliably say themselves what happened for all of it.

I'm surprised so many people have this view on this thread though, everything I see is typically pro Johnny normally.

CulturalNomad · 15/12/2024 21:21

I think they are two pathetic people with substance abuse problems and significant mental health issues. It doesn't sound like either one of them has ever managed to have a normal adult romantic relationship.

Without money and fame one or both of them would have been in jail by now.

I don't understand his appeal; I find him fairly repulsive. It would surprise no-one if one of them died by overdose or suicide. A sad mess all the way around.

ItOnlyTakesTwoMinutes · 15/12/2024 21:21

SweetBobby · 15/12/2024 21:10

I couldn't feel one ounce of pity for her. She's a vile, lying narcissist.

But so is he.

RochelleGoyle · 15/12/2024 21:20

Hugge · 15/12/2024 21:20

This is what I wish I had written. Very well said!

The perfect victim thing is exactly why I think AH was widely mocked

Agreed.

Gladragdoll · 15/12/2024 21:20

My opinion hasn’t changed about their situation. The relationship was destructive and toxic but Depp appeared to be very abusive. I always felt that Amber Heard had a strong case against Depp thanks to video evidence. Depp was very fortunate to win the appeal (imo he didn’t deserve to win).

The social media vendetta against her was terrible and I’m sure it has deterred other high profile people in relationships with popular abusive partners from speaking out.

Hugge · 15/12/2024 21:20

Fargo79 · 15/12/2024 21:16

I don't think AH is likeable and so because she wasn't a "perfect victim", and because JD is very popular, the press and public ripped her apart.

I think it's likely that there were elements of abuse on both sides. I certainly don't think JD is innocent. It appears to have been a completely toxic relationship with lots of alcohol and drug use involved.

The way his previous girlfriends queued up to defend him without any knowledge of his relationship with AH was despicable. It smacks of "believe victims, unless the alleged perpetrator is my powerful friend" as per Mila Kunis and Ashton Kutcher. Whether he was a perfect gentleman 30 years ago to a different woman has no bearing on his treatment of someone else.

The whole thing was a horrible spectacle drenched in misogyny.

This is what I wish I had written. Very well said!

The perfect victim thing is exactly why I think AH was widely mocked

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RochelleGoyle · 15/12/2024 21:20

From what I can tell they both behaved pretty despicably, but there was a huge power imbalance where it came to the media and the court case. The fact that JD chose to have the case heard in a state where the trial could be televised speaks volumes, in my opinion. And the texts he was exchanging with Paul Bettany about AH were just vile. The whole thing made me think less of him.

KTheGrey · 15/12/2024 21:20

She could have walked away with her $7million and bought as much therapy as she needed and had a jolly nice life. But she chose to go after him in the newspapers and wouldn’t leave him alone. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.

LittleBitAlexisLaLaLaLaLa · 15/12/2024 21:17

I think they were probably awful to each other and the relationship was toxic. But there was a huge power imbalance- he’s Jonny Depp and for some reason there’s a lot of goodwill towards him and always has been despite evidence of being a horrible human being long before he met AH. I feel sorry for her, I think she was telling the truth about what he did to her but she was no match for him and his PR team. I hope they’re getting paid well because they earn every penny. The messages between him and Paul Bettany about “raping her corpse and setting fire to it” being heavily glossed over is mind boggling to me.

Luckily she seems to have gone on to live a happy life away from him and create a family of her own. It’s a cliche but the best revenge is living well. In my experience that’s even truer when you’ve got a toxic ex.

Fargo79 · 15/12/2024 21:16

I don't think AH is likeable and so because she wasn't a "perfect victim", and because JD is very popular, the press and public ripped her apart.

I think it's likely that there were elements of abuse on both sides. I certainly don't think JD is innocent. It appears to have been a completely toxic relationship with lots of alcohol and drug use involved.

The way his previous girlfriends queued up to defend him without any knowledge of his relationship with AH was despicable. It smacks of "believe victims, unless the alleged perpetrator is my powerful friend" as per Mila Kunis and Ashton Kutcher. Whether he was a perfect gentleman 30 years ago to a different woman has no bearing on his treatment of someone else.

The whole thing was a horrible spectacle drenched in misogyny.

Commonsenseisnotsocommon · 15/12/2024 21:15

I don't believe a word she said and the overuse of "objection, hearsay" was the most memorable part of the whole charade.

LeekAndSpuds · 15/12/2024 21:15

I believe her.
Johnny Depp’s behaviour is very like an abusive fuckwit I know who manages to worm and charm his way into people’s good books to the detriment of his string of abused exes.

FoxtonFoxton · 15/12/2024 21:14

PomandersandRedRibbon · 15/12/2024 21:13

Op why is she in the news

She's having a second child.

PomandersandRedRibbon · 15/12/2024 21:13

Op why is she in the news

CraftyOP · 15/12/2024 21:12

I can't remember what podcast it was but there was a massive spike in AI bots posting about this and making it that much harder for a fair trial. Whatever I think, it was hard for the truth to be clear

leia24 · 15/12/2024 21:12

I think what happened to Amber Heard in that court was horrific and I believe her

PomandersandRedRibbon · 15/12/2024 21:11

Well key texts from dueters could not be read out in the plane.

So that puts a different slant on it all.

Johnny Depp clearly has major addiction issues and I believe a huge part of the problem was her struggling with a major addict. She said she had to help his daughter leave the island because she was so distressed at her dad etc.

However obviously she has her issues also and it didn't work.