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People say they are coming over at a particular time and then are an hour or more late. Why?

106 replies

Mill3nnial · 15/12/2024 14:01

My family are so bad for this and often it's just to "pop in" so I'm not even cooking or anything but if someone tells me they're coming over at 2 pm I expect them at 2. I make sure we're ready and the house is clean, I don't do anything that might keep me from answering the door like cleaning or vacuuming upstairs in case I don't hear the door... so I'm basically just waiting around and it annoys me so much. I'm then in a bad mood when they get here.

I'm sure I shouldn't be so bothered but I can't help it if I'm expecting someone at a certain time.

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lazyarse123 · 15/12/2024 14:13

Yanbu.
We were going to drop some stuff off at dds today and I still rang to confirm when we set off. Cannot abide lateness.
Ds1 has quite serious mh issues and if I'm going to his I give him a time but if it gets to about 10 minutes late, traffic whatever he starts ringing because he can't cope. I realise that's extreme. But it's just good manners.

pestoblush · 15/12/2024 14:13

If actually go out

I can’t stand it

SleepyHippy3 · 15/12/2024 14:12

I have a friend like this, late every single time. I call her every one’s time waster, as she does it to every. It’s actually put off this friendship quite a bit.

Cynic17 · 15/12/2024 14:08

Because they are rude and disrespectful. I would just stop inviting them, tbh.

FlabbergastedByTheGorgons · 15/12/2024 14:05

They're just selfish twats who value their own time and convenience. NB this is assuming there hasn't been a one-off major crisis.

SabreIsMyFave · 15/12/2024 14:03

I have no idea why people do this @Mill3nnial and it's like they think their time is more important than yours!

YANBU to be pissed off with it, but you will get some people come on here and claim they 'can't help it' and come up with a bunch of lame reasons why they just can't POSSIBLY be on time. 🙄