He left me in city centre…

Nollaig Shona Dhuit @Craics90

You’re worth more than the way this begrudging fecker of a man has treated you.

If the eejit isn’t wise enough to realise how good he had it with you and his children, let him get on with feckin up his own life without letting him feck up yours as well.

I hope you and your wee ones have a relaxed and stress free time over the Christmas.

So pleased you have shown him the door, i was reading each new bit of info with horror….
The house even if considered not a marital assist as he owned before, will owe you something. The money you put into it from selling your own house and now that money helped increase its value etc
Hope the solicitors appointment goes well, it sounds like you have a great support network.

One to remember @LaceAndCrimes

That particular poster goes on abuse threads and tells the female victim she's to blame - they had a particularly egregious comment deleted the other day on a thread where a woman's husband is exposing her to peanuts when she's badly allergic, financially controlling her and was violent during her pregnancy. I was so horrified that I remembered the name and was unsurprised to see it pop up here - it's someone with a vicious agenda, attempting to undermine female abuse victims for their own entertainment. People like that do lurk on Mumsnet sometimes as they are very triggered by a site full of women supporting other women to escape male violence.

Are you as lazy in all other areas of life @CosyLemur ? Would explain your ‘advice’ .

So, for example, if an OP posts to say that her DH was on a night out and hadn't come home and his phone was switched off, but then posts further updates to say that he had been attacked and is now in hospital, you wouldn't think that would be useful information to have before posting?

You would post 3 days after the OP's first post, deliberately not reading any of the OP's additional posts, and possibly saying something upsetting to the OP because you can't be bothered with drip feeders?

Thanks! Bit late.

@CosyLemur if you don't understand the difference between drip feeding and a thread that evolves over a number of days, and CBA to read the whole thread I don't think you should be commenting.

It's lazy and it's really rude.

@CosyLemur If you can’t be bothered to read past any first post by an OP, why even bother to comment or engage in a thread, when you’ll clearly have nothing of value to add.

OP 💪🏻 keep going girl, yer doing smashing x

Yep only ever read the first post! Can't be bothered with drip feeders, as the drip feeds usually always benefit them when the conversation isn't going as they wanted.

Oh do one! Are you the exH?

OP I dont know if youre still reading these messages but I just wanted to say well done, im so proud of you! Your H sounds horrendous, I could say a million things but I think theyve all been covered! You and your DCs deserve a million times better than this! Stick to your guns, be happy, have an amazing Christmas and make 2025 your year to find yourself again. Hes taken alot from you, please dont let him take anymore. Good luck! You sound like an incredible person, very strong and brave. Hes taken you for granted and beat your self worth to the ground. Time to build it back up again.

She had drunk two glasses of wine, which would have put her over the limit.

Two glasses wouldn't make me drunk either but I wouldn't drive after two glasses.

Is that the best you can come up with? Go back to your x-box.

Forgive me for wondering, @CosyLemur, but have you only read the OP's first post from three days ago?

So where was you car? Couldn’t you drive home?

Honestly we've only got your side of the story so I don't know if you're being unreasonable about everything else.
Don't answer the door if you don't want to.

But who the hell goes into town 2 weeks before Christmas and then complains it's busy?

You are one fierce lady, @Craics90.

Kudos for showing this horror the door. His nasty behavior has truly been beyond the pale. He certainly wasn’t thinking of your ‘love story’ when treating you like shit on his shoe and then saying you deserved to be abandoned and harmed. He clearly planned and orchestrated ditching you on his birthday evening so he could go and act like a single guy.

The truth is unfolding — his subterfuge and faithlessness have caught up with him. Drugs, women, financial secrecy. It’s not at all surprising that he has a girlfriend and has been degrading you to justify his wrongdoing. It’s the
self-serving Script! His bravado has now backfired, and Diddums doesn’t want to face the music and suffer the consequences of his actions.

As for his phony ‘I can’t live a day without you’, tell him that guff might work with Miss Jr. Accounts, but not with you. You’re armed with truth and clarity now.

This is how you get abusers, exposing them!

I remember many many years ago I was engaged to a fist friendly guy. After things escalated one night I locked myself in a communal bathroom. We lived in a big house converted into bedsits. In the morning I went downstairs, there was a pay phone (I told you, many many years ago). Anyway I called my brothers house but his wife answered, I told her everything. I had t realised my ex heard me go down stairs, he stood at the top of the stairs listening to me tell my SIL everything. Before I even made it back upstairs he was leaving with a packed bag as he knew his secret was out and when my SIL told my brother what had been going on he’d be done for.

Luckily for him my SIL begged me not to tell my brother, she was pregnant and didn’t want my brother getting into trouble. Even though it was years before my db found out, my SIL did tell her own Dad, he was actually my ex’s godfather and my ex worshipped him. He (Godfather) was the one who made the threats to my ex telling him to stay away from me. I think that was worse punishment for my ex than if my brother had hit him.

You sound strong OP, stay that way x

Yes! So predictable. Considering everyone is supposed to be different, these guys are all the same…it’s like they are born with the same scripts programmed into their heads.
Love bomb , devalue, discard…next is hoover…get you back to rinse and repeat. You need to go no contact . Tell him it’s through lawyers from here on in. I say again, don’t forget to record anything he says if he turns up and do keep any drug stuff for evidence

Taking your rings off you was really really peculiar, It defies logic but I'm glad you found them so that you can decide what to do with them.
Its good that you have your support network.
I agree with previous poster. Do some experian credit checks and bill checks.