He left me in city centre…

I think I love you @Craics90 you are a legend.
I’d get as much evidence of his spending, see if he has any secret accounts in his paperwork. Anything he could sneak in whilst you’re out to sell that you would be devastated at losing. Change passwords on online banking and social media, block him too, mute your phone and just ignore the wank stain’s attempt to communicate. Let the sage do its work, it’s obviously working because your key broke in the lock!

Blood and snotters , Tears R Us, PoorMe, You are my one and only, life without you is not an option, I’ll kill myself if you don’t let me back. It will be different , I’ll change

All or any of the above. Possibly interspersed with threats

Glad you have queries re rings, finding £20k etc..it will really help you be strong in the face of his onslaught.
You’re doing great. I hope you kept the baggies and bagged them..if there are drugs and fingerprints ….. you got a great weapon there to maybe withhold some custody

You’re an absolute queen and don’t forget it lass 💚

By the way, FB round my way - Central Scotland - keeps reporting strange men trying doors at random.

Maybe get a chain fitted while the locksmith is there? Even get a wedge to put inside the doors at night?

I genuinely had some chancer on my property last night, but the garage security light - which also catches you when you're halfway up the path to the front door - came on. Quite blinding and startling it is, if you don't expect it.

Shame about the key. Accidents happen. In my experience the cold weather makes it more likely. nods Glad you've got a good locksmith.

Ahhh girl, shit's about to get intense.
I am married to the guy who you're married to now, I've been my husband's rehab though and dare I say, successfully (but I don't recommend unless you have shoulders than can take 1 billion tons for the rest of your life), rather than kicking him to the kerb like I should've.
He is going to gaslight the fuck out of you.
Them bank statements and bags you've found, photograph the lot. There will probably be a lot of money transfered to and from his friends, those are the important bits.
Keep all your messages and put a shortcut on your phones homescreen for an audio recorder. You will come face to face again (or door to face) make sure you hit that record button. I love your attitude, you sound like an absolute belter. You've already done the hardest bit, just stay strong now through what he's gonna throw at you xx

Is it possible he's tried to pawn them to get money for coke?

£20k?! You don't think it's all gone up his nose do you?

(PS - I think you're brilliant!)

God, that is terrible luck your key breaking like that, and in the barrel too. Thank goodness your locks can be changed quickly 😘

OP, you sound awesome and I'm so glad you've got good friends + family around you

Gosh darn that's a damn shame about your key, I can't believe it.. I... Just... Can't ahem

Don't listen to the message, get someone else to for you. Don't allow the little weasel voice into your head at all. Silly little man that he is.

I wonder how many of the partners of his friends are looking at their other halves askance this afternoon.

Your description of your MIL is amusing. Less so that he apparently hid 20k. Really such a prince.. mention the money to the lawyer.

Congratulations for being shot of the coked up twat. You've been strong. You are. Good luck.

You have done AMAZINGLY well! I’m so glad you have taken these important steps to safeguard you and your family.

A wee word about Women’s Aid - so I felt like that too, that because it was ‘only’ emotional abuse and threatened violence, and he hadn’t physically hurt me, that I didn’t really deserve their support and would be wasting their time. I did go in the end and it was invaluable support. If you do need that support they will ABSOLUTELY be there for you because abuse is abuse is abuse - the impacts are just as bad. Just wanted to say. <3

What a fucking scum bag & pathetic to boot. The kids swimming bag?! Jfc

I wonder if he's actually in a shit tonne of debt if you're finding baggies all over the place. Do you think he was doing it at home?

It’s actually pretty common, especially with expensive jewellry. I just don’t believe that’s what he was actually doing!

Do you mean MIL is crackers? A madster?Lol
£20k from mum and never mentioned it? He has big secrets and I would advise you to stash all your important documents, any documents of his bank statements and anything of sentimental value at your parents. I would also keep a key in your door so when your home he can’t get in by himself, get a bolt for your back door too so you are safe when you’re asleep. He didn’t like your Da knowing his true self and I think there will be much that comes out about him that he won’t want anyone knowing.

No? I've taken jewellery to be professionally cleaned before

I'd check the local pawnbrokers/ebay first

She calls him Da. She's Irish, so perfectly usual

Well done OP. I am awe. Happy Christmas to you and your lovely family.

Really? It’s fairly common.

Bit unlikely for this toerag to have been so thoughtful though.