To not leave early because he was cold

My dad always did this. It’s attention seeking. He ruined every single special event without fail, deliberately.

Absolutely ridiculous. You are not his mother! Being busy at work is not an excuse. It’s not fair to ruin it and rush it for the children.

@Ger1atricMillennial who spoils their kids day out to get attention? I think this is what he was doing, plus punishing the OP. But it is extremely manipulative and awful behaviour.

Nah this isnt about the cold. Any twat over the age of 10 knows that 3 hours outside will need a jumper and gloves and a scarf;

You say he is stressed, maybe he is a bit too overwhelmed at the moment and was searching for attention. Maybe go out without the kids for an afternoon and find out whats actually going on?

Yes, but in the case of a 12 yr old who was reminded it was December and still wouldn't wear a coat, I'd still think it was his problem, and he didn't get to spoil it for everyone else!
My 10 yr old was going for a walk with dogs with my sister a fortnight ago - it was not cold, but had rained, and clearly might rain again, 10 yr old didn't want to wear his coat. I told him he was free not to, but if it started raining none of Aunty, Granny, Grandad or Mum (the last being me) would be remotely interested in any whinging. It did start to rain before they got back, 10 yr old was damp, but he did no whinging and I put his jumper on a rack to dry.

We spent a thoroughly miserable weekend in Dublin a few years ago because DH didn't listen when I told him it would be cold at the end of November and only took a thin jacket. This is a man who refuses to wear shorts or anything short sleeved and dresses for winter in summer!

Don't make excuses for his inability to dress himself appropriately!
You sorted yourself and the kids. but this manchild is pouting cos you didn't sort him out too!
For context YOU are extremely busy at work and sorting DC (and I bet everything to do with Christmas from gifts to food to decorations, to nice trips out to see the lights) but his stress is worse than yours?
God give me strength. Where do these entitled selfish men come from?

When I read the title of the thread, I thought surely you must be referring to a child.

It must be exhausting putting up with shit like this. You'd have been better off going with the kids by yourself.

He was punishing you OP.
You are busy with work and with sorting out Christmas and the children. He thinks you should be focusing on him. So decided to ruin a family day out to punish you.
This is very manipulative behaviour. You should be a team pulling together to give your kids a great Christmas. Instead he sacrificed his kids enjoyment, just so he could punish you.
Have a look at your life OP. Does he punish you other times if you do not put him first? Do you do most of the housework and childcare? And what about you? Does he do nice things for you?

Stupid twat should have worn more clothes. That one was on him.

YOU’RE NOT HIS MUM

I'd have told him to shut up moaning and go sit in the car if he's cold

I bet you got all of the children ready, didn’t you?

A family member of mine does this all the time. Then expects usually me to give up 1 of my layers. Me and DC wear a t-shirt hoodie as well as a coat. Sometimes take a waterproof if it's forecast for rain.

If their not cold they'll moan saying it's not as good as they thought and want to go back to accommodation. Why didn't he just go back and get a coat?

He’s a selfish dumbass.

Jesus, what a big baby.
next time leave him at home and go and enjoy yourselves x

Is he telling you that he can’t be trusted to dress himself properly and he needs you to treat him the same way you would treat one of your DC if they waltzed into the kitchen in a swimsuit and announced they were ready to go to an outside event in the middle of December? Without your supervision, will he be wearing a snowsuit to the beach in August? Or perhaps his gardening clothes to a meeting with his boss? Are you expected to supervise all of his decisions? Or just his wardrobe? Or does he not want you to actually treat him like a child, but just carry around a bag containing alternative clothes in case the ones he has selected for himself turn out to be unsuitable?

I wonder whether he manages to dress himself suitably for things he desperately wants to go to? Or is it just other people’s events he can’t be bothered with?

He needs to bloody grow up. He doesn’t get to ruin everyone else’s evening just because he’s made a silly decision and it’s bloody outrageous to think that everyone should jump in the car and go home simply to suit him.

two jumpers and a t shirt? was she going to a joey tribbiani competition?

Silly billy he is, hopefully he will listen to you next time

I’m not surprised he’s stressed at work. It must be really difficult to hold down a job if you can’t even dress yourself.

Honestly, some men are utter fuckwits.

I'd make him pay to take them again

What a twat

You are unreasonable for trying to rush them eating and not letting them go on rides. Not their fault your husband is a baby.

I’d be furious with him. If he carries on with his strop I would spell it out to him and say ‘Listen, it’s fucking December in the UK, guess what? It’s cold you moron. If the kids understand that they need a hat, scarf and gloves, why can’t you? I told you to wrap up warm, you didn’t and then moaned like a fucking toddler. You ruined the evening and we rushed the whole thing. And guess what? It’ll be cold tomorrow too. I don’t need to look at the weather forecast to tell you that, I know that because I’ve lived on planet Earth for XX years. In May you can go out with a t-shirt and jacket, until then just do as your told.

Silly sod. If he couldn't take the cold, he should have good-naturedly admitted his mistake and say he'd wait in the car, making sure the rest of you took your time and enjoyed the event.