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To not know what to do? Norovirus, newborn baby and c section

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rc1232 · 14/12/2024 21:10

Hi, Posted in here just as seems to get a lot of answers. just need some advice.

Basically cut long story short.

-Family member got sick with stomach bug on Saturday, last vomit/diarreah Sunday.

  • Other family members waited a few days to see them (going off 48h rule, which I've now read might not even be the case)
-family member resumed on Thursday and saw some other family members for tea -Saturday now and said family members now have D&V. Presumably from the original family member.

We've luckily not seen anyone this week for various reasons. But the problem is, we're due to have baby #2 via c section on Tuesday. Original family members and family members who have got it now were out childcare and backup childcare for our toddler ☹️ meaning I either let toddler go as planned Tuesday morning (if they stop vomiting tonight or tomorrow and are well enough) or I give birth on my own and have husband stay at home with toddler to prevent getting it.

Either situation seems shit. So upset 😭 but don't know what to do. What's worse? Having c section alone or us all possibly getting the bug/noro when bringing newborn home. Petrified baby will get it and be very ill as seems like something that could be very very harmful to a newborn?

read online and you can be contagious for 2 weeks after. No one was aware about this as 48h rule is what's widely knows so no one's fault. I'm just so upset.

If husband stays at home with toddler and I have section alone when will we then be able to see family realistically? 2 weeks? ☹️ Christmas and my birth feels ruined and no idea how I'll survive the first few weeks without my support system.

Didn't even want a bloody c section (medical reasons have forced it), petrified enough already without this now. Can't be postponed, but doesn't really matter I guess as a few days probs won't make the difference.

Anyway, what would you do if you were me?

OP posts:
TheThreeMiracles · 14/12/2024 21:43

Have you got a friend who could have dc for the day? Xx

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rc1232 · 14/12/2024 21:43

@OrangeSlices998 yes but it's also going round nursery too ☹️ she's not been in for the past week! That was my first thought but not sure if it'd be any better as she'll probably still catch it! What awful timing- so upset!

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CarterBeatsTheDevil · 14/12/2024 21:42

rc1232 · 14/12/2024 21:35

Guess I'm having a c section on my own then ☹️ absolutely terrified, can't stop crying- what a mess... it's everywhere apparently so hopefully I don't catch it from hospital.. thanks everyone

OP, I would look after a toddler for a passing acquaintance if it meant their dad could go to the c section with you. Are you sure you don't know anyone who can help out? I agree with PP that you need to do what you can to avoid noro.

OrangeSlices998 · 14/12/2024 21:39

Is your toddler in nursery? My friend had a good c section birth utilising nursery, they dropped toddler off to a friend to drop to nursery in the morning and then went to the hospital, had baby, and then dad picked toddler up in the evening.

Can a friend have your toddler? If it was one of my friends in your situation I’d happily help out!

TheThreeMiracles · 14/12/2024 21:37

I'm very emetophobic ( phobia of vomiting ) so I would go the section on my own having said that I've had 2 sections before and the after pain is really quite painful and you defo don't want to be heaving to be sick after I recon that would be so painful ( not trying to scare you ) have you got a friend who could look after your dc ?
You will be okay probably doesn't feel like it at the moment but you will be xx

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rc1232 · 14/12/2024 21:35

Guess I'm having a c section on my own then ☹️ absolutely terrified, can't stop crying- what a mess... it's everywhere apparently so hopefully I don't catch it from hospital.. thanks everyone

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GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 14/12/2024 21:28

Definitely don’t risk Norovirus.

It’s a bit shit but you need to have DH look after your DC1.

He can’t actually do much for you whilst you’re having a CS anyway - yes I know he’s lovely moral support but practically he’s doing even less than during a vaginal birth - not even coaching etc.

Then when you get home, you just make sure the two of you work together as a team - so he is your support structure. Luckily I assume he has a fair bit of time off over Christmas?

haje · 14/12/2024 21:16

Ah Op that's hard. And nearly me to the day, four years ago but 18 December.

We went back into lockdown on 20th December 2020 but hospital were gearing up for it and I had dd alone by section. DH stayed with toddler.

The thought and prep was tough, but actually it as really special. In the sense that it's probably the only time I got with baby alone, first baby gets all that time.

I stayed in for two nights, lots of video calls. And all was lovely. Bug sisters were happy when we returned. And then we had a lovely bubble. Because in fairness, Christmas is mad enough without. Tiny wee baby

It's not that bad, I just focused on those special times with baby and I still tell her about them now.

xmasdealhunter · 14/12/2024 21:14

Do you have any friends that could watch your toddler, so that your husband is able to be with you? That way you're not risking bringing D&V into the house. I didn't know about the 2 week factor so don't have any advice on that front, other than I'd probably be cautious and not send dc to a family member that had been in contact with the original family member

Rifalo · 14/12/2024 21:14

You do not want noro just after a section. Best to leave him and DC at home and go it alone id say.