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To not know what to do? Norovirus, newborn baby and c section

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rc1232 · 14/12/2024 21:10

Hi, Posted in here just as seems to get a lot of answers. just need some advice.

Basically cut long story short.

-Family member got sick with stomach bug on Saturday, last vomit/diarreah Sunday.

  • Other family members waited a few days to see them (going off 48h rule, which I've now read might not even be the case)
-family member resumed on Thursday and saw some other family members for tea -Saturday now and said family members now have D&V. Presumably from the original family member.

We've luckily not seen anyone this week for various reasons. But the problem is, we're due to have baby #2 via c section on Tuesday. Original family members and family members who have got it now were out childcare and backup childcare for our toddler ☹️ meaning I either let toddler go as planned Tuesday morning (if they stop vomiting tonight or tomorrow and are well enough) or I give birth on my own and have husband stay at home with toddler to prevent getting it.

Either situation seems shit. So upset 😭 but don't know what to do. What's worse? Having c section alone or us all possibly getting the bug/noro when bringing newborn home. Petrified baby will get it and be very ill as seems like something that could be very very harmful to a newborn?

read online and you can be contagious for 2 weeks after. No one was aware about this as 48h rule is what's widely knows so no one's fault. I'm just so upset.

If husband stays at home with toddler and I have section alone when will we then be able to see family realistically? 2 weeks? ☹️ Christmas and my birth feels ruined and no idea how I'll survive the first few weeks without my support system.

Didn't even want a bloody c section (medical reasons have forced it), petrified enough already without this now. Can't be postponed, but doesn't really matter I guess as a few days probs won't make the difference.

Anyway, what would you do if you were me?

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Destiny123 · 23/12/2024 07:33

rc1232 · 22/12/2024 19:32

Thanks everyone!

@Destiny123 thanks for all your messages, they really helped and I felt nice and prepared going in to it! My anaesthetist was an amazing photographer haha! She took my phone and took the most amazing pics of him being born- just incredible xx

Fab so pleased for you! Enjoy your baby

Destiny123 · 23/12/2024 07:27

wigsonthegreenandhatsforthelifting · 22/12/2024 19:50

I don't know why you keep on hammering it home.

I know I got something in my spinal and I didn't get an infection that time. Just give it a rest, kindly? I remember the discussion with my consultant obs and the anaesthetist! There's no need to clog up the OP's thread with it!

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Because I've been an anaesthetist for 10years and you're talking rubbish (providing you gave birth in the uk as cant speak for foreign practice), but feel free to live in delusion if makes you happy

They probably changed the antibiotics you got in your drip, there's also some wound dressings that can help reduce the risk.

Obs know very little about the minutiae of spinals having worked with them for years so I wouldn't give any weight to that

Makingchocolatecake · 22/12/2024 20:42

Can you have dp on speaker/video call during/just after the birth?

wigsonthegreenandhatsforthelifting · 22/12/2024 19:50

Destiny123 · 22/12/2024 06:29

I promise you, there is absolutely nothing that goes into a spinal to prevent infection. There is 2 drugs - a local anaesthetic that makes you numb. And a strong opiate painkiller either diamorphine (heroin) or fentanyl if the former still has supply issues. Nothing else is given spinally (the only things I can ever think of is your own blood, to fix a complication of a spinal or chemo in some forms of blood cancers)

The antibiotics go in your hand drip, everyone gets them

Kindly, you've misunderstood

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I don't know why you keep on hammering it home.

I know I got something in my spinal and I didn't get an infection that time. Just give it a rest, kindly? I remember the discussion with my consultant obs and the anaesthetist! There's no need to clog up the OP's thread with it!

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rc1232 · 22/12/2024 19:32

Thanks everyone!

@Destiny123 thanks for all your messages, they really helped and I felt nice and prepared going in to it! My anaesthetist was an amazing photographer haha! She took my phone and took the most amazing pics of him being born- just incredible xx

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Destiny123 · 22/12/2024 06:35

Yay congrats op! Hope your anaesthetist was a good photographer too xx

Destiny123 · 22/12/2024 06:29

wigsonthegreenandhatsforthelifting · 16/12/2024 21:46

Look all I know is I got something via spinal to prevent infection that I hadn't been given the other two times!!!

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I promise you, there is absolutely nothing that goes into a spinal to prevent infection. There is 2 drugs - a local anaesthetic that makes you numb. And a strong opiate painkiller either diamorphine (heroin) or fentanyl if the former still has supply issues. Nothing else is given spinally (the only things I can ever think of is your own blood, to fix a complication of a spinal or chemo in some forms of blood cancers)

The antibiotics go in your hand drip, everyone gets them

Kindly, you've misunderstood

chocolateisavegetable · 21/12/2024 07:47

Awww how lovely - congratulations!

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 21/12/2024 07:43

Yay! Well done OP, enjoy your baby.

standardduck · 21/12/2024 07:23

Congratulations! I am so glad it worked out so well for you Flowers

Topjoe19 · 21/12/2024 07:13

Congratulations!

xmasdealhunter · 20/12/2024 23:37

Congratulations and so glad it all worked out!

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rc1232 · 20/12/2024 23:12

Baby arrived safe and sound! A relative who couldn't help originally was luckily able to help last minute and stepped in. Thank god as it was an incredible experience and DH would've been super sad to have missed it and his support was fantastic too.

But overall for anyone reading in the same position, the Section was amazing, nothing to be frightened of whatsoever. The whole surgical team were incredible and if I had done it alone I do think I'd have been just fine 😊
Recovering well and totally besotted with our little one. Thank you for everyone who offered advice and experiences xx

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WickWood · 16/12/2024 22:35

Good luck OP!

wigsonthegreenandhatsforthelifting · 16/12/2024 21:46

Destiny123 · 16/12/2024 21:44

Everyone gets those too don't worry! :) (into the hand drip not the spinal

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Look all I know is I got something via spinal to prevent infection that I hadn't been given the other two times!!!

Destiny123 · 16/12/2024 21:44

wigsonthegreenandhatsforthelifting · 16/12/2024 21:41

My bad - I should have said antibiotics, ffs!!!! Gimme a break though, it's been 21 years!! 🙄

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Everyone gets those too don't worry! :) (into the hand drip not the spinal

wigsonthegreenandhatsforthelifting · 16/12/2024 21:41

Destiny123 · 16/12/2024 21:25

Ehhh??! A spinal always contains pain relief, you don't need to ask for it... we'd be v much out of a job/sued if it didn't!

Best of luck!

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My bad - I should have said antibiotics, ffs!!!! Gimme a break though, it's been 21 years!! 🙄

Destiny123 · 16/12/2024 21:25

wigsonthegreenandhatsforthelifting · 16/12/2024 15:31

That sounds like a decent plan?

Is your c/section tomorrow @rc1232?

I had three c/sections. Ask the anaesthetist about getting pain relief injected directly into your spinal. I had that for my 3rd and it was the best.

It's honestly all very chill! Theatre will be busy with staff and they were always bustling and cheerful. Once you've had your spinal, it will be over before you know it. I think I was most scared for my second, not sure why because I had done it before! Everyone is scared and anxious - but by the time I came back up from recovery I was on such a high I'd have done it all over again!

Just watch out for an infection - I had them. First time I didn't realise quickly enough, 2nd time I did, and 3rd time they just gave me antibiotic as par for the course to fend it off.

Very best wishes, and update when you can! x

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Ehhh??! A spinal always contains pain relief, you don't need to ask for it... we'd be v much out of a job/sued if it didn't!

Best of luck!

TheThreeMiracles · 16/12/2024 18:53

@rc1232 good luck tomorrow everything will be okay and this time tomorrow you'll have that precious little bub in your arms ! Xxx

wigsonthegreenandhatsforthelifting · 16/12/2024 15:31

TickTockPolly · 16/12/2024 15:16

If you do this, perhaps someone (the most well relative, staff from nursery etc) could take your DC for a walk in the buggy near the hospital for an hour so your DH can go in, then return them afterwards.

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That sounds like a decent plan?

Is your c/section tomorrow @rc1232?

I had three c/sections. Ask the anaesthetist about getting pain relief injected directly into your spinal. I had that for my 3rd and it was the best.

It's honestly all very chill! Theatre will be busy with staff and they were always bustling and cheerful. Once you've had your spinal, it will be over before you know it. I think I was most scared for my second, not sure why because I had done it before! Everyone is scared and anxious - but by the time I came back up from recovery I was on such a high I'd have done it all over again!

Just watch out for an infection - I had them. First time I didn't realise quickly enough, 2nd time I did, and 3rd time they just gave me antibiotic as par for the course to fend it off.

Very best wishes, and update when you can! x

TickTockPolly · 16/12/2024 15:16

Fashionlover123 · 15/12/2024 09:02

I’m a midwife and would suggest bringing your toddler in with your husband, when you go in for the c section husband and toddler wait in your recovery room for you. Then they are with you right up to when you go in and straight after-c section takes about an hour xxx

If you do this, perhaps someone (the most well relative, staff from nursery etc) could take your DC for a walk in the buggy near the hospital for an hour so your DH can go in, then return them afterwards.

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 15/12/2024 23:32

My friend had it a week after c section and it sounds rough don't risk it. Get someone else to look after your child

ChiliFiend · 15/12/2024 18:18

UpendedPineapple · 14/12/2024 22:22

Surely two weeks is extreme?!!! No one would ever see anyone if that's the case.

This is scientifically proven, which a quick Google will tell you - it's just that of those two weeks, the first two days are when people are most contagious. If anyone I know gets it, I'm careful not to hang out for two weeks (although these days it's always the children who get it first from school or whatever, so then we're screwed).

Destiny123 · 15/12/2024 18:16

rc1232 · 15/12/2024 17:13

@Destiny123 fab thank you for the reassurance. I'm sure will all be fine and hopefully a distant memory by this time next week.

Hoping and praying I can be home after 24h (I know this is minimum for GD and c sections at my hospital). As I think I'll genuinely go crazy the longer I spend in there... I struggled after my first baby afterwards and wasn't helped at all really but I'm hoping someone will take pity on me and help more since I'll be alone and have had a section!

Yeah honestly just buzz your bell for anything you need or just pester anyone on the ward, it's a speciality where people are more than obliging, I often would cuddle a baby for 45mins whilst mum had a shower if partner wasn't around I love it. You will find the midwives are stretched as their staffing levels are even worse than ours but people will try their best to help (I'd daily borrow the ward smartphone to facetime a lady in her isolation room as she had covid so wasn't allowed to visit her baby in nicu, I felt so so sorry for her so promised her at least daily 20min video calls before or after I finished work and would stroke her bubba and get her lots of pics as can't imagine how awful she must have felt).

Honestly it'll be a breeze and this time next week it'll be a distantbut pleasant memory, pls try not to worry, easier said than done I know

Fingers crossed you'll be out quick, providing both of yours sugars are OK and you're OK with feeding they'll let you out (sometimes you need to push a little for discharges outside of the normal pathway but no reason not to if you're managing well, I don't know how anyone sleeps on post nates it's so noisy

SoMauveMonty · 15/12/2024 17:30

Destiny123 · 14/12/2024 21:58

If chatting you through a section in more detail would help in advance feel free to message me I'm happy to answer any qs, but honestly it'll be fine, I love being allocated the elective list

You sound lovely @Destiny123 :)
I had 2 elective c sections OP - placenta praevia caused the 1st, 2nd was twins - and the theatre staff were fab, very easy going. My DH was with me, but tbh i barely noticed him 😂 I was quite intrigued by what was going on, and the midwives/nurses were chatting to me. I felt very well cared for.
You will be fine 👍