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To not want to drop my hours when DS starts school?

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mindyourfingersplease · 14/12/2024 15:48

But I think I’ll have to.

I am currently part time with two days off a week. I’d like to keep this as I have a younger child.

My younger child’s nursery starts at 730. I’d have to drop her then at this time. Then get to DS school for beakfast club to start at 8. This gives me twenty five minutes to get to work myself, through heavy morning traffic. DH can’t help: he leaves for work at 7.

I think typing that out has made me realise I’ll have to drop my hours.

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mindyourfingersplease · 14/12/2024 16:00

DandySnail · 14/12/2024 15:56

because you’re being silly

you child hasn’t even started at the school yet and you’ve concluded that absolutely no one uses a childminder in the entire school 😆

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That’s not silly.

There are three childminders within ten miles of me.

One is only preschool children, and the other two are attached to other, bigger schools I am not in the catchment area of (and don’t really like anyway tbh but that’s by the by.)

We can’t really have DH change his hours. He earns more unfortunately which is why it falls on me!

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Porcuporpoise · 14/12/2024 15:58

Also, a childminder wouldn't have to be for your dd. Round here you can find child minders who offer before/after school care only.

SaagAloopa · 14/12/2024 15:58

And when you say drop your hours what does that look like?

DandySnail · 14/12/2024 15:58

i’m going to take a punt that you don’t like your job and don’t want to work there and you’re trying to build a decent case as to why you have to jack it in to present to your husband

because saying your daughter has settled at the nursery… think about it.., if you jack in the job so your daughter stays at the nursery - then she won’t need to go anyway!

Porcuporpoise · 14/12/2024 15:57

Well does your dh have any flexibility with his start times? What do other people in your workplace do?

SaagAloopa · 14/12/2024 15:56

To be clear here:

I am currently part time with two days off a week what hours are you working and is it 3 days a week? Or 5?

Tiswa · 14/12/2024 15:56

I know he has to leave work for 7 but is there no slack for him either

SouthLondonMum22 · 14/12/2024 15:56

Can DH request flexible working?

DandySnail · 14/12/2024 15:56

mindyourfingersplease · 14/12/2024 15:55

Because I’ve looked. Why so antagonistic?

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because you’re being silly

you child hasn’t even started at the school yet and you’ve concluded that absolutely no one uses a childminder in the entire school 😆

DandySnail · 14/12/2024 15:55

mindyourfingersplease · 14/12/2024 15:53

There aren’t any - plus DD is settled at nursery and I’d be reluctant to change that.

yes
but even if at major cost to family finances?

if you’re not working, she wouldn’t need to go anyway!

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mindyourfingersplease · 14/12/2024 15:55

DandySnail · 14/12/2024 15:55

how are you so sure there is not a single childminder at the school that your son hasn’t even started at yet?

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Because I’ve looked. Why so antagonistic?

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SaagAloopa · 14/12/2024 15:55

If you start at 830 can you ask to start at 9? And then work later? I'm assuming DH does some pick ups

DandySnail · 14/12/2024 15:55

mindyourfingersplease · 14/12/2024 15:54

It’s too tight. I have to start on time. I can’t just be five or ten minutes late.

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how are you so sure there is not a single childminder at the school that your son hasn’t even started at yet?

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mindyourfingersplease · 14/12/2024 15:54

DandySnail · 14/12/2024 15:53

but twenty five mins through morning traffic

means nothing to us! how late do you reckon you’ll be?

It’s too tight. I have to start on time. I can’t just be five or ten minutes late.

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mindyourfingersplease · 14/12/2024 15:53

There aren’t any - plus DD is settled at nursery and I’d be reluctant to change that.

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DandySnail · 14/12/2024 15:53

do you like your job?

DandySnail · 14/12/2024 15:53

but twenty five mins through morning traffic

means nothing to us! how late do you reckon you’ll be?

FrannyScraps · 14/12/2024 15:51

What about a childminder for both? I have looked after plenty of siblings and it works well as there's only one drop off and one collection for parents.

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