To be petrified driving on motorways

So sorry. I missread!😳

@MereDintofPandiculation but if you're a trained confident driver, what would that situation be?

I can't stand motorways so will always pick an a road if it's alongside and doesn't add to much time but it's not from fear or confidence but generally getting frustrated at not making progress due to incompetence or lane hoggers. I drive 200 miles a day on average and I see so many people on phones and not paying attention in lanes 2,3 & 4 that I either follow a lorry to be away from it all or get off asap.

Is it his choice though? Or does he do it because you don't want to because that's not the same thing!

Motorway driving is literally the easiest, and always my preferred option. Give me that over endless traffic lights and roundabouts.

I echo two thoughts on this thread - go take some motorway lessons, and if driving makes you anxious in any way, you probably shouldn't be doing it.

Hanging out being a lorry isn't a particularly good idea. Much safer to signal and pass confidently in the next lane.

I'm Not totally independent! DH drives on family hols only. His choice. The rest of the time I drive myself or get train etc.
If something happened to him or we split. I'd still be a perfectly functioning professional woman. I can drive. And unless I moved out in the sticks away from all the people I know, I still don't think I'd need to use a motorway.
I don't need a man to drive me anywhere. If he wants the stress of driving 200 miles on holiday then he can go ahead!

There are no motorways in my county so I love the safety of driving on them elsewhere.

They're the safest roads to drive on.

@GenAvocadoOnToast yeah I'd absolutely agree with that. But I don't let it bother me. If I fancy slowing down to pull in a gap and get out of their way or speeding up to get out of their way, I absolutely will. Mostly, if they antagonise me, I'll slow down and stay there 🤣

I didn’t say it was happening to me. I’ve observed many an arsehole driving dangerously and doing this to people during my commute on a dual carriageway.

Disagree. Being nervous isn't great. But being cocky and driving too fast and intimidating other drivers so you can speed is worse.
And don't get me talking about mobile phone use.
I may be nervous and limited and cautious but at least I know my limitations.
I don't think a day goes by when I don't witness dangerous driving. And the best is, they aren't even aware of it.

Don't understand people being slagged off for not driving on motorways... personal choice. If it suits them who is anyone to judge.

It's sad to see that so many women are scared to drive on a motorway. Most people are nervous when they first learn to drive but most just keep going until it becomes second nature.

It's also uncomfortable to read how many rely on husbands/partners to do the driving. Please, please... to all women depending on a man to do the driving... please! Learn to be independent. You never know when they won't be there. You need to stand on your own two feet.

If you’re scared of using it in a particular way then you shouldn't be using it in that way

He chooses to drive on UK holidays. When I passed my test I asked to be put on his insurance and I'd share driving and he said no its fine. So that's his choice!!

A foolish and short sighted choice IMO.

I know so many older women whose husbands did all the holiday and motorway driving, then they became incapacitated or died and these women were stuffed. If you can drive please keep it up in case you are needed.

@Iusedtobecarmen yes, I know - I was defending you!

Not confident
Due to other twats on the road
I'll quite happily live the rest of my life with no motorway driving thanks very much
Done it for 38 years so I don't think I'll need to now

I'm not refusing anything. DH insists on driving and says that he doesn't mind. His issue not mine. I haven't driven on a motorway as it does make me anxious. I don't want to make myself anxious over something I don't have to do!

I could share holiday driving with DH ( A roads ) if he wanted. But he said no and I am not on his insurance.
This suits me just fine. Its bizarre, but he reassures me that he likes it. I don't care.
If I were to use the motorway it would be for me ,but I actually , I struggle to imagine a time I'd need to use it. I'd have to go on holiday by myself as we couldn't all fit in my car.

It sounds v much like you are not using the outside lane correctly.

There’s plenty of arseholes who’ll flash their lights and drive up people’s arses when the driver they’re harassing hasn’t done anything wrong. Usually when someone who is using the outside lane perfectly legitimately for its intended purpose is getting in the way of someone who wants to drive at 90 or more.

Well it can't be as I don't drive on motorways
Been driving 38 years
No crashes or convictions

@Fleurdalys unless you've been driving for one week or live in the middle of nowhere and never need to be anywhere, there must be a time you'd need to drive on a motorway. If you're relinquishing that responsibility to someone else because it suits, it suggests not being competent or confident.

I'm not specifically scared of the motorway but I don't particularly like it, and I don't like driving to new places if a motorway is involved. I get the fear - I think perhaps you should consider booking some advanced driving lessons to address it as it would open up life for you that bit more. Also possibly worth considering CBT to address the worries

@Fleurdalys yes, it's everyone else. Couldn't possibly be you!

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