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BeShyPlumLeader · 14/12/2024 06:12

Good morning all

I have a bit of a situation and everyone I know is asleep so not sure how to deal with it!

My 17 yr old went to a party last night, said she was staying at her friends house which is about a 10 minute walk from ours. All fine. I asked her to make sure her Life360 was on please, just in case of emergencies. Which she did. I've woken up at 5am and just thought I'd have a quick look to make sure she'd got back to her friends and I can she see is not at her friends, she's at some random address in a not particularly nice area about ten mins drive from our house. She's been there since about half midnight.

What do I do!? I've tried calling her 20 times now - no answer. Not reading my messages. She quite likely could be asleep but I'm worried sick she's got in a state and been taken somewhere. What would you do in this situation? If I have to tell my husband (he stepdad) that i need to go and find her all hell will break out because we're supposed to be taking our two smaller children to see santa with his family in about 3 hours (a very expensive outing paid for by his mum).

Shall I wait a couple of hours and try again?? Or go looking for her? I'm so angry with her! And bloody tired!

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BeShyPlumLeader · 14/12/2024 06:19

@FanofLeaves oh believe me... it's a very good job my parents couldn't track my whereabouts in the 90's. But we downloaded it when she started secondary school, and it's handy to have. I'm not about stopping her having fun/ going to after parties (although I know full well what happens at after parties), but I am worried she's got herself in a pickle and someone has taken advantage of her

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JourneyToThePlacentaOfTheEarth · 14/12/2024 06:18

Oh if you haven't called her you should do. At least to settle your mind

Tel12 · 14/12/2024 06:18

I'd call. Then go and get her. You had an agreement. She could need you.

JourneyToThePlacentaOfTheEarth · 14/12/2024 06:17

I don't think she'll appreciate you going round there banging on doors. Most of us have no idea where our teens are most of the time. Carry on with your day and she'll call you back when she wakes up. She'll have some explaining to do though!

BeShyPlumLeader · 14/12/2024 06:16

@JourneyToThePlacentaOfTheEarth I've what's app'd her. No reply. Maybe I should call

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FanofLeaves · 14/12/2024 06:15

Look, the most likely explanation is that she’s at some sort of after party and maybe crashed out. I doubt she’s been ‘taken’! What’s a life360? I hate to say it but when I was 17 I’d die before I’d let my parents know exactly where I was at all times!

BeShyPlumLeader · 14/12/2024 06:15

Sorry - title slightly misleading. I DO know her whereabouts, I just don't know why she is there or if she is safe

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JourneyToThePlacentaOfTheEarth · 14/12/2024 06:15

Hi. Have you tried calling the friend she's supposed to be with or anyone else who was at the party