Wwyd - unknown teen wearabouts

Bloody hell, why not get Liam Neeson involved too 🤣

Sorry but this is insane. She’s crashed at another mate’s nearby, she’s not been sold into sex trafficking.

Only because her mum is tracking her! She knew the DD was staying out all night but if she didn’t have the tracker she wouldn’t know whose house she was at.

Your husband sounds selfish.
If I was your neighbour and had just moved in, I would drop my plans immediately and start the knocking on random doors or calls friends of friends for peace of mind.
She may have just gone to another friends house but you just don't know anymore.
I would tell your husband that you are leaving to search and take a good friend with you.

I'm sure she's safe
Hope you hear from her soon

A similar thing happened to me last month. My dd gave my the address of the party she was staying over at but when I checked Google maps (we use Family Link) it gave a location about half a mile away which got me worried. Turned out she was at the address all along but her phone had lost gps signal and so the location was only approximate. Could this be the case here?

I feel sorry for kids nowadays with all this tracking. They probably are suffocated!

Relax, she'll be in touch. You can't think an entire area is full of dodgy people. She's probably gone to another mates.

The mum who cancelled her own night out just in case she needed to collect her daughter is mad. Put uber on her phone.

The missed calls are of her own doing though.

I’d go on the Santa day out. She is most likely totally fine and asleep at someone else’s house. She won’t thank you for the 20 missed calls. Send her a ping or text and tell her to get in touch ASAP when she wakes up.

What's your instinct?

Is this out of character?

I was a rule follower as a teen & it would have been very unusual for me to do something like this.

With my sister, all bets were off, and so to not be where she said she was going to be was fairly typical.

I hope you hear from her soon & can relax

I'd wait if you haven't heard anything by 9 go to friends house or to the address .

What time was she supposed to arrive back home from friends, if she had stayed there? She’s probably at a different friends granted but not missing as such although I understand you worried and not what was agreed,

Like others, I would expect her to be ok, but totally understandable to worry in the circumstances.

Something for later but I wonder if with the tracking she might feel it's less of an issue if her plans change? Or course, she would have ideally given you a heads up, but maybe she feels like if you can see where she is there shouldn't be a problem. Probably worth a bit of a chat about exactly why you ask for that info/reassurance.

This thread shows the entire reason I have never tracked either DDs' phone. It would drive me bonkers.

I was going to suggest the same.

@Octavia64 said:Teenagers go out and get drunk and sleep it off. It's normal behaviour. You need to trust to her and her friends to keep her safe, and if you think she can't keep herself safe start working on that.

You think it's normal to not know where your teen, who still lives at home and is actually still under legal drinking age, is sleeping? In my son's mixed friend/acquaintance group they do drink but their all either go home or spend the night (prearranged) at the house of a friend/boyfriend/girlfriend.

@BeShyPlumLeader is it possible your daughter has a boyfriend, or met a guy, and is sleeping there? She was maybe planning to say she was at a friend's?

I agree! Very similar to my post.
Good luck OP.

99.9% chance you will hear from her sometime this morning. You need to take the little ones to Father Christmas as planned.

Go to the friends house at 8am.... although she's probably not there her friend might know where she is. I had the police call me at 6am once looking for my son's friend who had not returned home. I didn't mind at all, I woke my son up to gather information.
As others have said she is most likely sleeping elsewhere but you don't know that & she could be vulnerable if she's still under the influence of alcohol. Your DD might be cross with you but she still needs boundaries & to learn how to keep herself safe whilst having fun.
I hope you locate her & can enjoy the rest of your day.

I have teen dds.

I would get showered, and drive over at 8am and pick her up.
You can’t go to the Santa day out not knowing if she is safe.

Your dd is living with you and being funded by you - until the moment she can fully support herself arrives, she lives within your rules and boundaries. Time to be more firm. This is not safe and it’s not acceptable.

She can sleep whilst you are out with the family - and then lay out some ground rules. No more sleepovers for now until she can take safe decisions. You agree a time she comes in, and she sticks to it. I would be taking away phones, privileges and everything else otherwise.

She is still a minor and needs guidance and boundaries, and lots of them.

She’s 17, you leave her to it.
And as pp said , stop contacting her as you’re running down her battery.

God I hated this age OP, one of mine used to do
this a lot. I didn’t track her but she’d stay out and not let me know. I remember that fear of wondering if she had drunk too much and some awful bloke had taken advantage.

Having said that I’m sure your DD is fine and will turn up hungover.

I’ve nothing to add because I have the same aged DD and she is out ‘clubbing’ tonight for the first time. I know I am going to be a bag of nerves because she’s gotten herself in to some drunken states previously.

Apparently I’m suffocating and I know (objectively) that’s true, and that at 17 I was off my tits in recreational drugs at the weekend so I’m trying to be a bit more nonchalant. But ultimately I’ve cancelled my night out so I can be around to collect her if needed 🥴🥴

When my ds was this age he used to do it a lot. It really is worrying. He would always ring or text me around 9-10am to let me know where he was and that he'd fell asleep there.

I'd try not to worry and go along with your day. She will message you or ring you when she wakes

I'm dreading her turning 18 next year because I'll have absolutely no say in anything she does!

You do if she's living in your house.

You do nothing.

Teens are teens.

It's possible she has been kidnapped from the party and her friends left her and she has been treated badly.

It's much more likely they went in to someone else's house and kept on drinking and she fell asleep.

She will not thank you for ringing all of her friends on repeat at six o clock in the morning or for ringing their parents.

Knocking on doors in the approximate area she is in is also a major overreaction. Waking people up early at weekends is never popular and doing it for this reason will be seen as mad.

Teenagers go out and get drunk and sleep it off. It's normal behaviour. You need to trust to her and her friends to keep her safe, and if you think she can't keep herself safe start working on that.