Wwyd - unknown teen wearabouts

Hmmmm it is true more males are murdered. But if they aren’t in a gang that risk is much lower. I think girls aren’t at less risk ‘randomly’.

Well sons are far more likely to be killed, so there's that.

So pleased she is ok. Teenage years are a worry.

Of course we worry about sons.

But you'd have to be pretty thick to not realise that a hell of a lot more can happen to girls than to boys, especially when drink is involved.

I'd of been worried too. she is only 17 and unfortunately thats an age when they think they know everything and are invincible and nothing bad will ever happen to them.
We unfortunately live in a world where bad things do happen to drunk teenage girls. And far too frequently.

And whilst I do worry about my sons also when they go out drinking. I am far far more aware that my girls are much more vulnerable and can be much more easily overpowered in a situation if they find themselves in the company of someone with not so great intentions.

I'm glad she is safe and well OP. Enjoy Santa with the little ones!

'Or boys'
So we shouldn't worry about sons? Why? I despair 😞

Someone else paying for something is not a good reason to be allowed to control an adult. Would you be ok with it if it was a husband tracking his wife?

I don’t think it’s an overreaction. I was allowed to do what I liked from 16 onwards - but if I was staying over night somewhere I always let my parents know. This was long before the days of mobiles.

I remember a friend of mine’s mum rang me early one morning as my friend had not come home - asking if I knew where she was.

If you didn’t come home one night DD would worry about you too.

Of course they don’t but at least you know where are. If you have a roamer it’s logistically useful. Once glance at the phone i can see she’s all good she’s at x s house whose mum is all over it so it’s fine. Over 18s wouldn’t track but 14-17 is useful tool

Tracking apps aren't a magic forcefield either. They don't prevent harm.

My grandparents called the police when my 17 year old mum (now late 70s) was late back from a dance 😀😀. So this age always been a worry! They were normally pretty relaxed mum was most surprised to arrive home to a police presence!

This is so extreme and controlling. She's 17, not 10. I think it's wrong to track teens and punish them if they're only a little bit late.

Another thread where a poor kid has a knob of a step-dad thrust upon her. And then mum wonders why the kid acts out.

Stop calling her and her mates. She's crashed out. If she had disappeared then her friends would tell you. Just go about your day normally. It's not normal for a 17 yo to go partying then come straight home again the very next morning. If she's not got college or work then she'll be carrying on the party.

Exactly. This is the curse of tracking. The daughter will turn up eventually.

Glad she's ok op.

These trackers are a blessing and a curse. I would stop looking at them unless you have a reason to worry - i.e. not home when she should be or not calling when she should be.

I learned that the hard way when my eldest shared her location with me on Snapchat when she went to uni. Having a sneaky look when I went to bed to check she was home safe and of course she wasn't. I make a point of never looking now, and would only check it if I had reason to.

For your own sanity, delete the life360 tracking app off your phone.

I’m glad all is well; a word of caution re the location tracking. Let them know as little as you can that you look at it. I used to challenge my DS too much and he won’t use it now at all! My DD is not so bad, she is happy to put it on but she is much more conformist and doesn’t go anywhere that Inwould be worried about. Teenage years are a massive worry I agree 😊

Life 360 is a godsend

Definitely!

The teen years can be a bit ''eek'' to navigate, different worries for the parents of girls to boys, but still such a massive relief to hear the sweet sound of a Yale turning in the front door at 2am after they have had a night out!

He sounds wonderful 🙄

Perhaps get the stress of Christmas out of the way and then consider whether he is a good enough partner for you.

Think about starting a thread just to vent and get it off your chest anonymously and help you decide if you want to stay with him or not.

I hope you’re ok xx

I agree.

There was a discussion about young people having anxiety and not being able to go without their phones etc but it’s actually their parents who are the ones who have anxiety and have passed it on to their kids.

The generation of parents who had the smart phones/SM as late teens/adults are the ones who have anxiety.

There are even some adults who have the tracker for their adult partners, which is insane to me.

I do have the find my iPhone one for my DD because we moved to an unknown area and has to get multiple buses and once got lost.
However, I have only checked it twice and only when she asked me to get her.

Having these trackers and checking them causes more unnecessary worry than not having them/not checking them.

A 17yo probably didn’t get to sleep until early hours of the morning and it would be weirder for her to be awake at 6am.

I’m glad she’s ok but I think sometimes we worry too much (I include myself in that too).

Leave her alone, she’s17

I would have the exact same as the OP.

It is different if your kids are small or boys, you don’t get that gut wrenching fear that something has happened to them and she’s only 17.

A mature chat about keeping you updated if the plan changes is required. Mine are all ages but knew to keep me vaguely aware if the plan changed. The only way I’d be angry is when I’m worried sick.