He’s fucking locked me out.

Just read this and genuinely horrified at your partner’s behaviour. Please let this be the reason you needed to get as far away from him as possible.

Or partner gets uber to bring your key

You are an adult. He has the key on a works do... hes unlikely to be back by 9. Go and get the key get more cut tomorrow

I'm not saying I know, how can any of us know.

we can only take thr OPs words on face value because that's all we have.

but I can tell you what, she hasn't exactly indicated any desire to rid herself of this selfish twat, so I expect this will just rumble on indefinitely. It begs the question why post "he's locked me out" for what purpose and to what end? Attention-seeking? Cry for help?

it's their life not ours, they're the only person impacted, so if they want support they need to help themselves by engaging, we aren't the emergency services or therapists.

How are you doing @FuckingFreezing1 ?

@FuckingFreezing1

I am in shock reading your updates OP, you do not deserve this. I hope you got hold of your Mom in the end.

what a vile, arrogant cretin he is. I’m disgusted.

best of luck to you, better things are ahead trust me.

I hope you’re at your mums now getting some sleep. You’ve posted here for a reason, please let this be the last straw and walk away from this awful creature. It’ll be the best thing you ever do.

You are still young. I spent my 20s with a horrible man too. I was 30 when I met my now DH and life is so much better and happier. Give yourself the same chance, the same freedom. Do not drop anchor here. You are worth so much more.

This is so sad to read, @FuckingFreezing1 ... I hope you have enough strength now to leave him and never look back. I can't believe any normal person would do this, knowing you are locked out after work, cold, and calmly continuing to party. What a psycho cunt your so called partner is.

On the plus side - you have no kids together, you are not married. You can literally erase this piece of shit from your life.

You're worth so much more, OP. Please remember it.

Op if he cared about you he would have arranged to meet you and give you the key. He could have gone back to the party. Please rethink your relationship. He was playing a control game with you. You deserve better.

This thread has enraged me to the point I'm grateful I don't know where to find this prick myself. You're only 29 love, you will be fine, better than fine.

I wonder why any of us women get into relationships at all. The world seems to be full of abusive, selfish, pieces of male entitled shit at every turn.

And before the not all men brigade come at me, yes I know not all men

@FuckingFreezing1 would love to know you've gotten some rest and are safe.

OP, he’s a total dick. I hope you got in safe. Once you’ve got your key back, kick the tosser out.

Same. The exact same wording.

You sound like an intelligent woman OP. I look forward to hearing about your amazing new life without this cunt.

I've read all your updates OP. Poor you - I really hope you are at your Mum's now.

Get some sleep, then pack your stuff and leave the selfish twat. You can do - and deserve - so much better than this.

OP, i hope you are doing all right. Speak to Citizen's advice bureau about the tenancy of the flat and get some advice. I'd also speak to Women's Aid for advice on how to end things. Lastly, consider some therapy...your self esteem is not great which is what happens when you are with someone emotionally abusive. If you can't afford therapy, The Freedom Programme is inexpensive and online and will give you some insights.

And to the posters berating OP. If you have not been abused as a child or adult, you really, really don't have any idea how it affects you. You just don't. Trauma affects a person enormously.

It wouldn't surprise me if we don't see the OP again...which would be a shame.

OP if you're able to catch up with it, please keep yourself safe and away from confrontation at the moment. Stay at your mums and cry and rage there. I think a confrontation with him would be devastating right now. He's going to stand his ground and batter you down. Don't offer yourself up for it.
That's my immediate advice for the next day or two.

I can’t quite believe what I’m reading. You deserve so much better, please OP, I am begging you to leave this man.

I don't know you from Adam so in all honesty I don't really care what you do.......but if this isn't your wake up call I don't know what will be.

Grow a backbone ffs, there's a big shiny world out there that's worth living in without that idiot. Never be so desperate to have a man you degrade yourself like this......get some self respect. He's laughing at you and you're letting him.

Omg OP, I can’t believe anyone could be so selfish and treat someone else with such little regard. This is abusive.
did you get to your mum’s?

Your 30’s could be absolutely amazing. You have everyone’s hands on your back, whenever you need support, come back here (or start a new thread).

give yourself the best gift, freedom done this twat

I completely agree.

I think it’s @Cottonheadedninhymuggins who needs to have the decency to filter and read OPs posts before commenting, because if they did they would agree with you about not giving him their only set of keys after losing multiple ones before.

Be careful op, if he doesn't pay rent and bills you will be liable. One of you needs to come off the tenancy. Start by getting yoyr ducks on a row. Make sure his name is on all the bills ... get advice on just paying yoyr half. No more cleaning. Washing, cooking for him.
You deserve better ... keep thing yourself this!

I read the OPs posts and I stand by my post. I would never give my key, the only key there is, to someone who keeps losing keys, no matter what he said about being home first. What if he had been home first and had lost the key.

So perhaps you need to have the decency to read and understand posts before posting so rudely. 🙄