He’s fucking locked me out.

Stay strong. Six years is long enough to waste on that toxic trash. Have the best Christmas and start 2025 as a new woman, without a useless weight around your neck.

[There was no mention of violence/coercion, historic or otherwise] In my world, it wouldn't be considered remotely idiotic; the preceding several years of tolerance would be thus.

I usually avoid these threads when the high fiving starts (thank you for the reminder).

Well done OP.
Another vote for the Freedom Programme.
Contact the HA on Monday and ask to be removed from the tenancy, then the prick can pick up all the bills himself.

Oh love, I'm glad you've managed to get your important belongings. To be honest, the biggest thing you've collected this morning is your dignity - we are proud of you.

No one has to put up with this shit - you've been more than tolerant. Time to move forward now. Better things will come, focus on YOU first.

Remember to sever any financial commitment you have and get your name removed from any bills heading his way.

So proud of you OP. Get yourself off the tenancy first thing Monday

Also block him once you have advised him that you have left.

Tge suggestion to do the freedom program is a good one. Sending you a warm hug and wishing you all the best

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Glad your ok @FuckingFreezing1

now to the practical get of the tenancy asap it should be easy enough as it’s a HA property. Tell them why as well.

have you sorted out some digs for now, have you spoken to your mum or is that a no the now.

one step at a time

OP, life is so short.
You deserve so much better than this thundering prick.

Do the www.freedomprogramme.co.uk and arm yourself with the tools to never allow anyone like him, near you again.

I have just finished work and the first thing I did was check for your updates. Thank God you are safe and have left him in the rearview mirror OP. That's fantastic news. I am so glad you are going to get a new beginning. Much love and light and joy to you on your journey ✨️ 💛

Onwards and upwards, OP. Well done.
Just make sure you get yourself off the tenancy, because you can guarantee he won't be paying the rent, and you don't want to be liable. X

Well done OP. Sending love and strength xx

Well bloody done OP.

But, he'll wonder where the payer of bills has gone and will do everything to bring you back. Don't fall for it. He's an abusive piece of shit.

Well done OP. Proud of you. Stay at your Mum's. Get yourself sorted. 👍😁❤️

Just read this whole thread, OP, he’s an utter, utter c**t. Appalling behaviour on his part. You are so much better off without him.

I hope you’re safe at your mum’s now and can start to rebuild your life away from this utter waste of space!

Here's hoping he goes out tonight and loses the keys!!
Well done OP, its going to be tough for a little while getting yourself over this hump but you can only go upward from here, you should be proud of yourself

That's absolutely the right thing to do. You'll feel the stress and exhaustion from his years of abuse melt away just by not having him in your life,

Why would you prevent him from sleeping by crashing and banging around, what an idiotic thing to do, in the context the OP has described.

Did you read the bit about him being an abusive arsehole? That's asking for trouble. He could quite easily turn on the OP.

The best thing the OP can do is extricate herself from this whole situation as calmly, quickly and safely as possible, including sorting out possession of the LA property depending if it's in joint names or in hers or his sole name. Having a roof over her head is the priority, not wasting effort deliberately trying to piss him off.

@FuckingFreezing1 I just want to send you strength, kindness and love! I was really upset for you last night, and now today reading your updates! Please don't go back to him, you are worth so much more. Realise your worth!! ❤️💐

I really hope OP you get some rest and in time recognise how the kindness and care of strangers has been more than that shown by this supposed man. I’m in awe of how brave you’ve been reaching out and trusting the MN voices many words of wisdom with regards to having counselling, being satisfied with yourself etc …take care and so so glad you remained safe .

Well done OP. Onwards and upwards.

Only read the OPs posts
You poor, poor thing. I have no words. The actions of this ‘man’ are absolutely fucking disgusting. I really feel for you. Please leave him and never look back. You’re worth more than this - and I don’t even know you.

What happened your Dad's ring? Regardless, proud of you for realising this has to be the end. There is a better, calmer, more rewarding future out there for you

As long as you can sort your admin out to get you out of tenancy/bills, good for you.
At some point he will get up one day and realise you are not there to do all the donkey work. He may come to you about changing his ways.
Never forget what it felt like last night to be left outside. And if he loses those keys again, and he’s left outside, not your problem.
He is a horrible excuse for a human being.
Have the best Christmas you can with your mum.

Proud of you!!!
Hope all those who are reading this and are in a similar situation learn from this and gain the courage to do the same.
You have so much to give and he did not deserve you!!
You deserve so much more than this!!!
Stay strong!!!!

That's actually great, OP. Just leave the cunt to his own shitty life. Tell him you will call the police if he comes near you and block him on everything.