He’s fucking locked me out.

You sound like this is the last straw. I hope so. Strangers on the internet care more about your wellbeing than him; leaving you in the cold, vulnerable and with a dying battery on your phone. You must be absolutely shattered.

That's fair. Maybe a clean break is what you need. Somewhere that doesn't have any memories attached to it.

Cannot believe what I'm reading especially those messages, what an absolute cunt 🤬 you deserve so much better, I hope you can leave him asap and have a better life!

It's OK, you'll get your stuff back. Don't give him any indication that you are leaving him right at this moment. See how he likes paying all the rent and the bills.

You're warm which is great (is it 24 hour?) just a damn shame you can't get in to get some rest and prepare for work. A pox on the little rat.

It's security if you take it over. Think if you didn't have his bills to pay as well you could learn to drive, get a little runabout.
Try and get it for yourself. Doesn't sound like he'd want the responsibility of paying it all himself.

Aren’t there just?!

OP is describing a selfish bastard who won’t help his partner out, leaving her in a vulnerable position and all anyone can say is ‘should have got a key cut’

Not in a million years would my husband treat me like this but if he did, I’d be off as he’d be showing me that he just doesn’t give a shit about me.

So many people need to raise their bar when it comes to expectations of how the people who are meant to love us the most, treat us.

I take it it's a joint tenancy. Have to figure a way when this night's over, how to get him out.

From a fellow abuse survivor, you’ve got this. Please make this be the last thing he does to you

What time is your mum back? I remember having to go to early hours supermarket once to buy some trousers before work when I got locked out (my own fault though as I lost my keys. I couldn't turn up in a mini dress. Early 20s partying!)

God I feel for you, hope you get a lucky break soon and dickhead is back soon.

He’s a champion gaslighter isn’t he?

What will he say when you point out he promised to be home for when you got back after taking your key? Will he just outright deny it?

You know you can’t go on like this - boot him out and make being single your New Years resolution. Imagine how nice it would be to be alone in your flat not having to deal with any of his abuse.

I hope you manage to get free 💐

It depends on the HA. I've worked in housing and would have a discretionary budget I would apply to any (for example) lock changes needed for criminal activity not the tenant's fault. I would also have assisted someone like OP if she'd come in for a chat. But not every HA works the same way and not every housing worker understands DA.

OP, do you have an HA worker you can talk to? Women's Aid? Shelter? He's a horrible fucker and you need support.

If only. I really hope she does too. What an absolute scum bag of the highest order he is. She’s cooking, cleaning and paying his bills and he’s treating her worse than an animal for it. Someone one day will see the gem that she is and appreciate her for it. It’s sad that some people can’t see their own worth due to being blighted by pond life like the OPs boyfriend.

That's what I would do because if knobber decides to go to a club,party op could be locked out for hours yet which I sincerely hope isn't the case.

Shocking.

Seriously I don’t know what to say but you should be ashamed of yourself. Ashamed. You and all the fucking other victim blamers on here.

Op. If house association is it (like mine) got "out of hours" emergency repair line? If yes, call n say you no key. The won't hit you with immediate payment demand. . ? .

Omg this has given me the rage and all the brainless idiots on here sticking up for him. HE PROMISED HE WOULD BE BACK AND HIS PARTNER IS LOCKED OUT IN THE COLD AND HE REFUSES TO LEAVE THE PUB TO LET HER IN. He is emotionally abusive and the OP says he treats her like shit. I honestly can’t imagine anything more contemptible.

Please OP from tomorrow he has to be OUT. Report him to the HA for being an emotionally abusive twat - it doesn’t have to just be physical abuse and your dynamic sounds very abusive with you considering freezing to avoid the hell you would get if you went to get the key. Get his pathetic piece of shit arse out of there as soon as you can. He is scum.

You've never been in an abusive relationship have you? Must be nice being all perfect and whatnot🙄

She has enabled him. For 6 years.

Oh Fuck what a nightmare. I've only just seen your update about you mithering him. Fuck me he's a cunt isn't he. Can you afford to leave him? Have you got someone who can put you up? I've been in the situation and I was lucky to have a relative to stay with but I know it's not always possible. Really hope you can get away from the knobhead😊