He’s fucking locked me out.

Aw doll. ..almost predictable update. Your fuckin right.THIS is not your life.NOT your story. . The next page ,from right now IS.your hands bin forced. You gotta drop all big picture,any sorta him n his next move.if option call in cancel work just now. . What CAN you do.? I'd no check no chance emergency repairs n tell em cunts lokt you out n indicated he's out/fuck u.no immediate fund lock available.(Is it Yale? Or proper) Worst result sorry can't help (be logged on ha system tho. ) call @111 .. they can mark as da and respond with have to do something, shit as it is. This crap is just a moment.it will pass. YOU prioritise you. .n FFS,do NOT engage wi king cunt any further.screenshot save,share msg wi polis. His reign of being the big man is over.

Correct. Let this be the last night you beat yourself up for letting him shit all over you and meekly asking for more.

I speak from experience. Sadly, but now just get mad I stayed as long as I did.

hope you’re doing ok OP, what a horrible man you’re partner is. I hope that you find the strength to to leave him as soon as possible, you deserve so much better than this.

I would also text saying I've called the police.
To be honest, I WOULD actually call the police. They could probably trace his phone and get your keys back for you

This seems the way to go to me, or even break in and get your stuff. He will be left with the bill not you.

i don’t think I have ever been so sad and so angry at a MN post ever. I am brokenhearted for you. If I was your mum I would scoop you up and you could stay with me forever rather than go back to him. Do you feel able to call your mum or do you have a sibling you could call?

I'm so sorry your life has been reduced by this horrendous man.

@Mumtobabyhavoc do the police do that? I definitely think it's a good idea to have the relationship registered as abusive. If I were OP I'd text him afterwards and say "police informed" but that's just me, I'd be hopping mad.

OP can't stay in McD ALL night

What an absolute piece of trash. He's got no respect or concern for you, it is all about him. The only good thing that has come from this is that he's showing you unequivocally who he is. You have to leave, this isn't a healthy relationship but you know that. I wish you all the strength to leave him and get yourself safe. I don't think there's anything gained by arguing about what he's doing to you. If he can't see it now with you literally out in the cold on the street, he's not going to see it later. Even if he was super apologetic and said it's never going to happen again, I'd struggle to believe him!

Please don't just leave the flat. If you are both on the tenancy and he doesn't pay the rent, they'll come after you for it.
Sort it in the days to come now you know you're done with him.
Hate to think of you stuck there instead of being in bed.

It's not, so fucking sad. You're completely discombobulated from constant abuse. Who cares about a keyring? Call the police. Explain you're in an a abusive relationship and you need help to get into your place to get your essentials so you can leave. Pack a bag or two and don't look back. Go to a shelter if you have to. Stop enabling. He's given you time to get out and you're wasting it going in circles online.

I am furious for you. This is outrageous. Please enjoy telling him there'll be no more 'mithering' from you, he can relax away without you. Tosser.

Chilling with his friends? What an absolute shit. He could fall asleep and who knows when he will turn up. No-one has the right to make anyone feel this crap.

Do you know where?
You are entitled to ring the police and tell them your partner won't let you back in your property.
If you don't want to actually do that, tell him you are about to. This is abuse now.

I hope you can get into your house soon, op.
It seems like he's deliberately staying out later and later as some kind of power play. He seems so nasty.
Hopefully this can be a turning point for you. You don't deserve this and it is so much nicer to be on your own than with someone so horrible.

Omg the nerve of the man. What a fucking self obsessed idiot. Has he given any indication of when he will stop 'chilling'?

If your mum is back please go there because he might even stay the night.

Perhaps talk things through with your mum and take stock of your situation.hopefully the HA can rehouse you if you give up the flat.perhaps someone with HA work experience could advise the best way to do this.
Wishing you all the best op.

I wouldn't even go to the effort of explaining what he did and how it hurt. He doesn't care.

Just leave..he doesn't deserve your effort of an explanation.

And you can have it OP and you will feel so much happier.

Leaving him will be the biggest kindness you can do for yourself… and the best Christmas present!! He treats you with utter contempt… and you deserve so much more. Don’t give him another 6 years of your life.

You mentioned your mum.. can you stay with her whilst you get back on your feet?

You also mention a lack of friends… can I ask why you feel that you don’t have any? Is this something you’d like to change?

I'm gutted for you. He's a twunt.
On a practical front, Why don't you practice here what you want to text him? People here have often great ways to put things that help & reduces him evading the question.
I think you're at the point that you need to make it crystal clear about the situation, if not to even remind you when later you feel weak, as seems like you're already done with him.
I'd be tempted to send (but appreciate you might be fearful of repercussions)
'You said you'd be home by 9 so that's the only reason you were trusted with my keys, the only keys to the flat. You've stayed out purposely, despite me telling you repeatedly you've locked me out in the cold for 4 hours. Your actions are cruel. You could've dropped the keys with me hours ago. Instead you have ignored me & I can't be in my home, sleep or go to work'
I'd like to end it with fuck you, but I might just do that in my head.

Fair enough. Bad night to be making decisions, well other than dumping him.
"It's not fair." He sounds like an eight year old.