He’s fucking locked me out.

no need. Ditch the abusive fucker and the op is sorted.

Why take the shit? Why not break up with him given what you've said about how long you've wanted out? Cut your losses.

Why are you enabling him? He lost his key. You don't go giving him your key and put yourself at his mercy to bugger off on a Christmas party.

Another woman enabling an incompetent undeserving male. Depressing

Go home.

Smash window.

Get in, get stuff, get out and go to your Mums.

Never speak to the nasty cunt again.

I hope you were able to go to your Mam's house. Make your 30's special and leave him. You deserve better.

@FuckingFreezing1 .if you can-will u update let us know your in outtaa the cold/safe keepin you in my thots.x

@oakleaffy I love your old rocking horse! What a beauty.

@FuckingFreezing1 I had a lovely evening by myself eating lots of food and drinking cups of tea. Very peaceful. I'm not saying that to be mean, but you can have this too when he's out of the picture. You don't need this hassle and he's interfering with your livelihood.

@FuckingFreezing1 I’m outraged on your behalf.

What a grade A waster he is.

A selfish Scrote.

Go back to your Mum’s.

Can’t believe this piece of shit lost your Dad’s ashes ring.
Was it a gold one? Bet the druggy Scrote sold or pawned it.

So sorry you are going through this.

Our old rocking horse says
“leave the Scrote”
even a child knows not to lose 🔑 keys - He’s a careless Scrote

@FuckingFreezing1 you need to hold on to this as motivation to actually throw him out.
Don't forget this and just go back to 'normal'.
Don't give up the flat if it's in your name. Get rid of him.
As you said you've spent your 20s with him. Don't let this be your next ten years. You'd be happier alone.

Please lose him and rebuild your self esteem. You can do this.
I wouldn't let him have the flat (unless you really can't stand the place).

I'd just not cut a spare key, and do exactly what he's done to you.

Take the 1 key and go to your mums, block him on all SM and phone and see how he likes it.💐

You said you have money. Call a cab and go to your mums. If she's not there, break something ( window /door jamb/ window frame/ door panel / whatever), until you are inside.It;s not as hard as people think it is. Have a big warm drink then go to bed with heaps of quilts on. Deal with everything else in the morning.Call in sick for the day tomorrow, and get everything sorted. From now on have a key to your mums , I've always had one - they are also handy for any medical emergency your mum may have , years down the line presumably, but you can let the ambos in.
Keep calling your mum!!!

Oh OP. You don't need to live like this. I hope your mum is in and you can go there.

Knew a chef like this. He became hell for the neighbouring flats too. It was the threat of eviction that gave his partner the courage to stop covering for him and get the police to take him away.

He's only holding it together because you're responsible for everything. He ought to be done for drug driving if he uses the car while high.

Firstly I hope you had enough cash to get a coffee..it's bloody cold tonite.
Youv got to think to yourself ,' can I live the rest of my life like this '.. And you know you can't . You deserve much much better than this . You are worth far more than what this arsehole is giving you.
Keep strong lovely. And keep us posted. Some of us are still online if you need to talk
X

I'm so sorry you're in the situation but for the love of god - grow a backbone & practically until you can leave - get a spare set and hide them in your garden/or doorway.

OP I’m so sorry you’re in this situation. Please call your mom and ring the housing association in the morning/Monday to discuss access and next steps. If you pay the bills, he should be the one to leave.

Please take no more of this man’s behaviour towards you. Having no one is better than this.

@Pinkbonbon she can say he was out doing cocaine and reneged on a previous promise to be back by 9pm which meant she was locked out in the cold and had to miss work. And that she's leaving him ASAP. All of this is accurate.

Admittedly I'd be feeling a bit vengeful in this scenario!

I would hope they'd understand.

@FuckingFreezing1 I hope you're OK and got hold of your Mum. Can you stay with her til Monday then speak to the housing association? Please take care.

Hopefully she's been in touch with her mum and she can help her.
Those of you staying up hopefully you can all handhold op.

She won't get a police reference for being locked out of the house whilst he is out though. Locked in, maybe. Or if he comes back and kicks off and she call them. But even then it may just be recorded as a lovers quarrel.

OP won't call the police. Either too worn down or scared of him. She should though.

I would call the police actually OP and ask for help going home to get your things. He sounds awful

Actually if you get a police ref you can contact landlords and say you had to leave because of domestic abuse so you need to be taken off the tenancy

So sorry you're in this situation,I hope you have the strength to leave ASAP