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To be annoyed at my colleague?

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PandaAndLionRoar · 13/12/2024 22:00

I was in an all day meeting with the board/C suite in work today. My colleague/friend was in work but not in the meeting with me. It was her last day before MAT leave and it was coming up to 5pm and I was still in my meeting with the board so she came to the meeting room and interrupted my meeting by knocking on the door and then asking for me and saying “I’m sorry to interrupt but can I have a quick world please, it’s urgent”. It turns out she didn’t have anything urgent that she needed me for but she just wanted to say bye to me before she goes on MAT leave and knew that I wouldn’t be out of my meeting before 5pm when she left the building so she decide to interrupt my meeting to say bye instead. I feel a bit annoyed that she interrupted the whole meeting just to say bye to me whilst I was in a meeting with the board, fair enough if it was something urgent but it wasn’t. She could have just phoned me later to say bye if she wanted. AIBU to be a little annoyed with my colleague for interrupting my meeting just to say bye? She took me out the meeting room and just said that she just wanted to say bye to me before she goes on MAT leave and then we chatted for 2 minutes and that was it, nothing urgent at all!

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TeenLifeMum · 13/12/2024 22:24

I can’t imagine what it would feel like to be so important to your business you forget the human side. You couldn’t spare 5 minutes to say goodbye to someone going on mat leave? I find that pretty poor leadership from someone so important and influential.

Mumbleitsoftly · 13/12/2024 22:24

You've said the word bye more times than N Sync in that opening post.

Yikesthathurt · 13/12/2024 22:23

Thedogscollar · 13/12/2024 22:21

Jesus wept. This with bells on. Why do some people think they're so bloody important. Get a bloody grip it was some boring meeting you weren't finding the cure for cancer. Ffs.

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Well if it’s Sanofi or Astra Zeneca, you don’t know, could be a topic 😂

daliesque · 13/12/2024 22:21

We had already agreed to keep in touch and meet up while she’s off work. I have a DD as well. She has my number and knows that she can call or text anytime.

Definitely unreasonable of her. What was said when you returned? I'm in meetings like that often - medical directors rather than corporate - but unplanned interruptions are not well received as people are so very pushed for time all the time.

Thedogscollar · 13/12/2024 22:21

Janedoe82 · 13/12/2024 22:18

Stop being so pretentious. I am a director and regularly at board meetings- it’s only work. Get your head out of your arse.

Jesus wept. This with bells on. Why do some people think they're so bloody important. Get a bloody grip it was some boring meeting you weren't finding the cure for cancer. Ffs.

Manara · 13/12/2024 22:20

I agree, this is only acceptable here because OP is a woman.

In the real world this is unprofessional and cringeworthy.

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PandaAndLionRoar · 13/12/2024 22:19

Jingleballs2 · 13/12/2024 22:13

If she was close enough to you, couldn't she just send you a text or something after? 🙈
But yeah that's pretty bad

We had already agreed to keep in touch and meet up while she’s off work. I have a DD as well. She has my number and knows that she can call or text anytime.

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burnoutbabe · 13/12/2024 22:18

Bunny44 · 13/12/2024 22:13

Yes that would annoy me too. Surely if you're friends you might have been able to see her another time anyway. I don't think a lot of people on here get what you're talking about OP by the looks of things.

Yes it's annoying.
I can't imagine a man doing that to any colleague in front of the c levels. Unless just coming in and saying goodbye to everyone maybe? That would be more appropriate than what happened.

Manara · 13/12/2024 22:18

YANBU that was incredibly unprofessional of her.

m Is she quite junior? It’s such a stupid thing to do.

Janedoe82 · 13/12/2024 22:18

Stop being so pretentious. I am a director and regularly at board meetings- it’s only work. Get your head out of your arse.

Gooden · 13/12/2024 22:17

I can imagine someone else on here posting how angry and upset they are that their friend left for MAT leave whilst they were in a c suite meeting and didn't even have the courtesy to say bye!

YABU

Fireworknight · 13/12/2024 22:17

KatyaKat · 13/12/2024 22:13

YABU for using the term 'c-suite'...who does that?! 😂

C-suite means all the ‘C’s of a company - CEO, CFo (chief financial officer) etc, ie the top people of a company.

My Dh uses this term, and I always presumed he was referring to meetings held in a certain part of the office building,( ie the C-suite, ) which perhaps was where the top managers, directors etc had their offices. Didn’t realise it was a general term.

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PandaAndLionRoar · 13/12/2024 22:17

ClementineChurchill · 13/12/2024 22:14

If you're a small charity she’s not unreasonable. If you’re Goldman Sachs she is extremely unreasonable. The fact that you say ‘c-suite’ makes me think it’s more the latter than the former. In which case yes she was very unprofessional.

It’s a large national company.

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cherish123 · 13/12/2024 22:17

Assuming it's not medical theatre or a Downing Street cabinet meeting, I think it was fine for her to interrupt. You are being a bit harsh on her.

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PandaAndLionRoar · 13/12/2024 22:16

Doggymummar · 13/12/2024 22:14

It was a lovely thing to do. You really should have hugged her goodbye before the meeting though 😕

She was running late in the morning so I was already in the all day meeting before she got in to the office otherwise I would have said goodbye first thing in the morning before my all day meeting.

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RubyRedBow · 13/12/2024 22:15

You sound… lovely.

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PandaAndLionRoar · 13/12/2024 22:14

Foundanotherwrinkle · 13/12/2024 22:12

Is MAT leave maternity? Never seen it in capitals and shortened like that like it's an acronym

Yes MAT leave is maternity leave.

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ClementineChurchill · 13/12/2024 22:14

If you're a small charity she’s not unreasonable. If you’re Goldman Sachs she is extremely unreasonable. The fact that you say ‘c-suite’ makes me think it’s more the latter than the former. In which case yes she was very unprofessional.

Doggymummar · 13/12/2024 22:14

It was a lovely thing to do. You really should have hugged her goodbye before the meeting though 😕

Jingleballs2 · 13/12/2024 22:13

If she was close enough to you, couldn't she just send you a text or something after? 🙈
But yeah that's pretty bad

leia24 · 13/12/2024 22:13

Meetings really can be interrupted and the world won't end..and it's nice she wanted to say goodbye

Bunny44 · 13/12/2024 22:13

Yes that would annoy me too. Surely if you're friends you might have been able to see her another time anyway. I don't think a lot of people on here get what you're talking about OP by the looks of things.

KatyaKat · 13/12/2024 22:13

YABU for using the term 'c-suite'...who does that?! 😂

CrispyCrumpets · 13/12/2024 22:12

Did something bad happen after stepping away for 2 mins during this all day meeting to say goodbye to someone who you won't see for months? What problem did it cause?

Foundanotherwrinkle · 13/12/2024 22:12

Is MAT leave maternity? Never seen it in capitals and shortened like that like it's an acronym

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