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To be annoyed at my colleague?

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PandaAndLionRoar · 13/12/2024 22:00

I was in an all day meeting with the board/C suite in work today. My colleague/friend was in work but not in the meeting with me. It was her last day before MAT leave and it was coming up to 5pm and I was still in my meeting with the board so she came to the meeting room and interrupted my meeting by knocking on the door and then asking for me and saying “I’m sorry to interrupt but can I have a quick world please, it’s urgent”. It turns out she didn’t have anything urgent that she needed me for but she just wanted to say bye to me before she goes on MAT leave and knew that I wouldn’t be out of my meeting before 5pm when she left the building so she decide to interrupt my meeting to say bye instead. I feel a bit annoyed that she interrupted the whole meeting just to say bye to me whilst I was in a meeting with the board, fair enough if it was something urgent but it wasn’t. She could have just phoned me later to say bye if she wanted. AIBU to be a little annoyed with my colleague for interrupting my meeting just to say bye? She took me out the meeting room and just said that she just wanted to say bye to me before she goes on MAT leave and then we chatted for 2 minutes and that was it, nothing urgent at all!

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Penguinface · 13/12/2024 23:27

Wow! Colleague values you enough to risk interrupting your important meeting to say goodbye and you're cross with her?

ClementineChurchill · 13/12/2024 23:26

😂🤣😫👍😖🤮🙏😎🤷‍♀️

Butchyrestingface · 13/12/2024 23:26

Have never heard the term 'c-suite' before. Would have guessed it referred to the hospital delivery room for women having caesarean sections but this thread has edumacated me. 🙂

littlehorsesthatrun · 13/12/2024 23:25

ClementineChurchill · 13/12/2024 23:22

It’s a factual term which defines a group of people. Get a grip.

No it isn’t a ‘factual term’. It isn’t a fact. It’s a business speak phrase people have made up.

ClementineChurchill · 13/12/2024 23:25

Do you object to the concept of “board of directors”? Hey we can all be our own directors, man. Nobody needs to lead any board … what is a board, anyway. If we could all just freely associate, decisions would emerge naturally …

GravyBoatWars · 13/12/2024 23:24

I'd probably be a little annoyed in the moment if she had another way of contacting you.

I have no idea why you're stuck on it enough to make a post.

FinallyPregnant2022 · 13/12/2024 23:24

No she wanted to say goodbye - consider it an honour - I'd love a friend like that

MildredSauce · 13/12/2024 23:24

PandaAndLionRoar · 13/12/2024 23:05

To be clear, I’m not part of the Board/C-Suite myself. It was an all day meeting with the Board/C-Suite that I had been asked to attend because I’m the project lead for the project that the meeting was about.

I was about to say you're clearly not senior leadership yourself if you felt embarrassed and/or flustered and were questioned.

This could have been styled out as an exemplar for great teamwork and supportive culture.

Bowies · 13/12/2024 23:23

I can understand her wanting to say goodbye on her last day, was a big deal for her. I’d be surprised if you leaving the room for a couple of minutes would have much impact on your meeting.

ClementineChurchill · 13/12/2024 23:22

It’s a factual term which defines a group of people. Get a grip.

littlehorsesthatrun · 13/12/2024 23:21

ClementineChurchill · 13/12/2024 23:16

Why don’t you like it? It is a word (phrase?) that means something. It has a factual meaning. What is not to like about that? I don’t understand why some people seem to have taken a dislike to it.

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It feels really arrogant as a term. I think where lots of leaders go wrong is they see themselves as superior/ elite and instead of motivating and enthusing people they rub staff up the wrong way. They don’t get the best out of people that way.

littlehorsesthatrun · 13/12/2024 23:17

Manara · 13/12/2024 23:09

It’s sad, isn’t it? It’s bad enough for women trying to succeed without other women trying to bring them down.

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It’s not a gender based criticism! OP could be a man using the term c-suite.

ClementineChurchill · 13/12/2024 23:16

littlehorsesthatrun · 13/12/2024 23:13

Fair enough and that was thoughtful of you. In that case I think you have a point- her goodbye could have waited. Still don’t like ‘c-suite’!

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Why don’t you like it? It is a word (phrase?) that means something. It has a factual meaning. What is not to like about that? I don’t understand why some people seem to have taken a dislike to it.

Butchyrestingface · 13/12/2024 23:15

Porlocks · 13/12/2024 22:59

Sorry, but this made me laugh! I've never read such a repetitive OP. No wonder the meeting took all day if it went round and round like this!

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The thought did cross my mind that perhaps the meeting lasted an entire day because the OP repeated herself over and over and over and over.

Maybe OP's 'friend' had been told to cut in if Groundhog Meeting showed no sign of ending by 5pm.

CurlyhairedAssassin · 13/12/2024 23:15

Is this some kind of AI-generated post? Lots of weird repetition.

MellowJello77 · 13/12/2024 23:14

Thedogscollar · 13/12/2024 23:03

Seriously for an executive your writing skills are less than I would expect. Your sentence construction and punctuation require work.

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I have worked with plenty of executives whose spelling and grammar is far from perfect. Isn’t Richard Branson famously dyslexic?

littlehorsesthatrun · 13/12/2024 23:13

PandaAndLionRoar · 13/12/2024 23:11

I had planned to say a proper goodbye to her first thing in the morning before my meeting but she was running late (the traffic was bad for her on the way in to work in the morning) and so she didn’t get to the office before I had to go in to my meeting. I did leave her cake, wine and card in the office though for her. I wanted to give it to her myself first thing in the morning before my meeting but like I say I didn’t get chance because she was running late in the morning due to traffic unfortunately.

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Fair enough and that was thoughtful of you. In that case I think you have a point- her goodbye could have waited. Still don’t like ‘c-suite’!

Thedogscollar · 13/12/2024 23:12

TitchyBiteroo · 13/12/2024 23:07

That’s a ridiculous criticism - writing for a social forum thread is not anything like the way you’d write for board level materials.

OP, if you know, you know. Trust yourself here - you know that your colleague was out of line and you handled it as best you could.

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Hilarious comeback considering you have a "shit list"

ClementineChurchill · 13/12/2024 23:12

78Summer · 13/12/2024 23:11

I work in the c suite and most meetings appear to be a load of high level woffle with the main thing attained the date of the next meeting. Two minutes is not a long time to be out of the meeting.

😂 nice try. That’s not what it means.

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PandaAndLionRoar · 13/12/2024 23:11

littlehorsesthatrun · 13/12/2024 23:08

Did you not consider saying goodbye to her or marking her last day in some way before she was leaving that day?C-suite is awful and embarrassing. Leaders of a company should set the tone for how to treat people.

I had planned to say a proper goodbye to her first thing in the morning before my meeting but she was running late (the traffic was bad for her on the way in to work in the morning) and so she didn’t get to the office before I had to go in to my meeting. I did leave her cake, wine and card in the office though for her. I wanted to give it to her myself first thing in the morning before my meeting but like I say I didn’t get chance because she was running late in the morning due to traffic unfortunately.

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78Summer · 13/12/2024 23:11

I work in the c suite and most meetings appear to be a load of high level woffle with the main thing attained the date of the next meeting. Two minutes is not a long time to be out of the meeting.

Janedoe82 · 13/12/2024 23:10

PandaAndLionRoar · 13/12/2024 23:08

Because she had told them that it was “urgent” when she had asked to take me out of the meeting and they were specifically asking me what the “urgent” thing was. It was very awkward when I went back in to that meeting because they were all insisting to know what was urgent that she needed me for.

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Yes- but you should have just told the truth- it was urgent to her as she was finishing up. I assume they carried on their discussions when you weren’t there and by not telling the truth it looks like there is something going on within your project that could be a problem.

Manara · 13/12/2024 23:09

daliesque · 13/12/2024 22:49

Why do some people on here seem to sneer at women who are in senior or potentially senior positions, and who take that seriously?

It’s sad, isn’t it? It’s bad enough for women trying to succeed without other women trying to bring them down.

littlehorsesthatrun · 13/12/2024 23:08

Did you not consider saying goodbye to her or marking her last day in some way before she was leaving that day?C-suite is awful and embarrassing. Leaders of a company should set the tone for how to treat people.

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PandaAndLionRoar · 13/12/2024 23:08

Janedoe82 · 13/12/2024 23:01

Why did you not just tell the truth!! Totally bizarre behaviour.

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Because she had told them that it was “urgent” when she had asked to take me out of the meeting and they were specifically asking me what the “urgent” thing was. It was very awkward when I went back in to that meeting because they were all insisting to know what was urgent that she needed me for.

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