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To be annoyed at my colleague?

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PandaAndLionRoar · 13/12/2024 22:00

I was in an all day meeting with the board/C suite in work today. My colleague/friend was in work but not in the meeting with me. It was her last day before MAT leave and it was coming up to 5pm and I was still in my meeting with the board so she came to the meeting room and interrupted my meeting by knocking on the door and then asking for me and saying “I’m sorry to interrupt but can I have a quick world please, it’s urgent”. It turns out she didn’t have anything urgent that she needed me for but she just wanted to say bye to me before she goes on MAT leave and knew that I wouldn’t be out of my meeting before 5pm when she left the building so she decide to interrupt my meeting to say bye instead. I feel a bit annoyed that she interrupted the whole meeting just to say bye to me whilst I was in a meeting with the board, fair enough if it was something urgent but it wasn’t. She could have just phoned me later to say bye if she wanted. AIBU to be a little annoyed with my colleague for interrupting my meeting just to say bye? She took me out the meeting room and just said that she just wanted to say bye to me before she goes on MAT leave and then we chatted for 2 minutes and that was it, nothing urgent at all!

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CurryandSnuggle · 14/12/2024 00:19

I think YABU, it will have been an emotional day for her and it would be nice for her colleagues/friends to say goodbye and wish her well.

Heatwavenotify · 14/12/2024 00:16

Janedoe82 · 13/12/2024 22:18

Stop being so pretentious. I am a director and regularly at board meetings- it’s only work. Get your head out of your arse.

As it’s Christmas, this with ‘jingle’ bells on. Get a grip @PandaAndLionRoar Unless it was your first ever board meeting, in which case I understand. But only if it was your very first board meeting!

OnSecondThoughts · 14/12/2024 00:14

What I'm taking away from this is that you need to deploy better security at future meetings. A couple of armed TDOs outside the door to take out any low-level interruptions before they get close. I've seen the "maternity leave" scam done many times. That colleague was grooming you for months just to lead up to that moment. As you're hugging goodbye, she plants the bug on you and then the rest of that meeting gets transmitted straight to the opp.

IlkaDoxie · 14/12/2024 00:11

Maybe get over yourself? Your colleague likes you enough to want to say a proper goodbye. Fucking hell, how dare she?

blueshoes · 14/12/2024 00:11

Thedogscollar · 14/12/2024 00:01

It doesn't offend me at all. You are who you are.

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Sure and so are you.

starstar84 · 14/12/2024 00:08

You said yourself it was two minutes. Get over yourself! And it’s on you for not saying goodbye before going into a meeting that you knew would mean you’d miss her on a really important day for her.

Thedogscollar · 14/12/2024 00:01

blueshoes · 13/12/2024 23:50

I am sorry it offends you.

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It doesn't offend me at all. You are who you are.

HousedInMySoul · 14/12/2024 00:00

Your wanky c-suite meeting is so unimportant in the vast scheme of things that it's laughable. I don't get how people take this stuff seriously tbh.

wizzywig · 13/12/2024 23:59

One day hopefully you'll realise work is just work. EVEN IF ITS C SUITE

MuddyPawsIndoors · 13/12/2024 23:57

Perhaps the OP was taking the minutes and that's why she was annoyed?

Still, it's done now so what can she do?

Lostmyusernametoday · 13/12/2024 23:56

Bunny44 · 13/12/2024 22:13

Yes that would annoy me too. Surely if you're friends you might have been able to see her another time anyway. I don't think a lot of people on here get what you're talking about OP by the looks of things.

I think plenty of people understand what she’s talking about it’s the tone of over inflated sense of importance that’s jarring I suspect. I regularly attend our board meeting, I’d pop out to say goodbye to a colleague - not only is it in fact the professional thing to do it’s also very human which is what’s expected of senior leaders now, it’s not the 90s!

Feelinadequate23 · 13/12/2024 23:54

mildlysweaty · 13/12/2024 22:47

They're just people. Who gives a shit if they're "c suite". I'm sure they didn't care (and I'd be delighted to be pulled out of a work meeting personally Grin).

They literally decide your salary, bonus and career prospects, so yes they are pretty important to me.

anxioussister · 13/12/2024 23:53

C-suite is a really normal term to use within international organisations.

blueshoes · 13/12/2024 23:51

MuddyPawsIndoors · 13/12/2024 23:48

Bless you OP

Is this the first time you've ever been invited to a meeting?

Once you get used to them, you'll realise people step outside for all sorts of reasons.

It is different to step out of a meeting (where you can control the timing and choose an opportune moment) and be pulled out for a spurious 'urgent' reason.

SereneFish · 13/12/2024 23:51

PandaAndLionRoar · 13/12/2024 23:05

To be clear, I’m not part of the Board/C-Suite myself. It was an all day meeting with the Board/C-Suite that I had been asked to attend because I’m the project lead for the project that the meeting was about.

Are you a bit over-excited at being involved in a board meeting and want your colleagues to appreciate how important you are?

Olinguita · 13/12/2024 23:50

Horrified at the pile-on the OP is getting here.

blueshoes · 13/12/2024 23:50

Thedogscollar · 13/12/2024 23:36

How bloody pretentious can you get?

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I am sorry it offends you.

MuddyPawsIndoors · 13/12/2024 23:48

Bless you OP

Is this the first time you've ever been invited to a meeting?

Once you get used to them, you'll realise people step outside for all sorts of reasons.

notacooldad · 13/12/2024 23:43

It's over and done with now.
No harm done. Let it go.

Lighteningstrikes · 13/12/2024 23:40

Get off your high horse.
It’s only a meeting. Nobody died.

QueenCamilla · 13/12/2024 23:37

It sounds like a story that's missing the punch line. So your friend/colleague interrupted a very important meeting for two minutes and... Happened what? Nothing. Literally nothing.
The next week will be another day in the office and then another, and then another, and then months, and then years...

Your colleague was somewhat unprofessional but that mental note is of very limited use as there will be zero professional contact between you two in the near future.

Thedogscollar · 13/12/2024 23:36

blueshoes · 13/12/2024 23:34

C-Suite is Americanism for Executive Board Level. US folk like their 'Chiefs'.

OP, I'd be annoyed as well.

What role does she do? She probably does not interact with management and has no idea how to behave. Junior staff can work in their bubble. Some things can wait. This is one of them.

How bloody pretentious can you get?

blueshoes · 13/12/2024 23:34

C-Suite is Americanism for Executive Board Level. US folk like their 'Chiefs'.

OP, I'd be annoyed as well.

What role does she do? She probably does not interact with management and has no idea how to behave. Junior staff can work in their bubble. Some things can wait. This is one of them.

Winesoup · 13/12/2024 23:30

I'm shocked at how many people are turning on the OP because they don't get the corporate world, and refuse to believe her that leaving the meeting was a big deal for her, as it pissed of the senior executives and Board, which is undoubtedly why they asked what the interruption was for. The OP has to deal with their egos, and her colleague should have been aware of this.

There are a lot of pps enjoying putting the boot into the OP while telling her she should have been kinder to her colleague who was leaving.

Bowies · 13/12/2024 23:28

C suite is such an unfortunate term - tempting to add a few letters.

I agree with PP you could have just said she was leaving to start her mat leave.

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