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to find this really chilling.. :-( [MNHQ CONTENT WARNING: sexual assault]

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fixingmylife · 13/12/2024 18:05

I can't believe the number of violence against women from men sickening stories that happening at the moment. This one really chilled me to my very core.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cj9jkvymvw7o

A blonde Natalie looks to camera in a selfie

Man raped and killed unconscious woman on park bench

A sexual predator raped and killed an unconscious woman on a west London park bench.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cj9jkvymvw7o

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SpunkyCritic · 15/12/2024 15:03

@Isatis
No, your post wasn't clear. You refer to "when we voted for Labour all those years ago".

I did not say anything of the sort. Please read before making up quotes!

I said when we voted all those years ago, Labour told us that life was going mean life.
This is true and swayed many of my colleagues when we voted on the death penalty.

Sad this discussion on such an important matter has been derailed by people trying to start political arguments.

As I also said, I am non political now and no party has been a friend to justice.
I'm out now and not going to repeat myself further.
Perhaps the energy you are spending trying to accuse me of favouring Tories would be be better spent advocating for better sentencing?

Isatis · 15/12/2024 04:55

You can't really claim that the abolition of the death penalty was party political, as it was passed on a free vote. Additionally, it has been the subject of a new vote in every Parliament up to 1997, and most of those were under Conservative administrations.

Nogaxeh · 15/12/2024 00:20

SpunkyCritic · 14/12/2024 23:00

My point was we were lied to by the gov at the time the death penalty was abolished. Life was meant to mean life not a measly 10 years.

And yet the thing you take offence with is not the sentence but me not mentioning the Tories are shit?! Wtf is wrong with you?

I no longer care for any party. I care for the pathetic way victims have been treated by all govs.

One of the main reasons to abolish the death penalty is that juries became reluctant to convict when they knew the sentence could be death. They felt that they had to be absolutely sure, beyond all doubt, rather than beyond reasonable doubt.

This almost certainly would result in many guilty people being acquitted, and not sent to prison at all, if Britain still has the death penalty.

Birdscratch · 14/12/2024 23:53

The last people to be executed in the U.K. were killed in 1964. I think there’s been enough time to come to terms with the change Hmm

BitOutOfPractice · 14/12/2024 23:42

@SpunkyCritic your post wasn’t clear to me either. What Labour government “all those years ago” were you referring to? And what the heck has it got to do with this case?

And yuy “each to their own” comment is particularly obtuse. What do you mean by that?

Username2532 · 14/12/2024 23:42

SpunkyCritic · 14/12/2024 23:00

My point was we were lied to by the gov at the time the death penalty was abolished. Life was meant to mean life not a measly 10 years.

And yet the thing you take offence with is not the sentence but me not mentioning the Tories are shit?! Wtf is wrong with you?

I no longer care for any party. I care for the pathetic way victims have been treated by all govs.

Can you stop being so confrontational, is this really helping!

Onceuponatime9 · 14/12/2024 23:27

Username2532 · 13/12/2024 23:24

Am l naive to hope that someone should be able to fall asleep on a bench, without someone, raping them repeatedly and ending their life.

Awareness means not making ourselves vulnerable to evil people including getting drunk & falling asleep on a bench.

Isatis · 14/12/2024 23:16

SpunkyCritic · 14/12/2024 13:12

He could be out when he is 45. So yes, pitifully short. But as he was only charged with manslaughter...

He could be, but that doesn't make ten years in prison go any more quickly.

It's pretty obvious why he was charged with manslaughter. If they had charged him with murder there was a distinct risk he could have been acquitted.

Isatis · 14/12/2024 23:13

SpunkyCritic · 14/12/2024 13:11

My post was clear.

I never mentioned the current Labour gov, although now you come to mention yes I do object to 9 yrs imprisonment for rioting whilst releasing men to commit rapes and sexual assaults (one on the day of his release).

Each to their own, I guess.

No, your post wasn't clear. You refer to "when we voted for Labour all those years ago". Assuming you mean when you voted for Labour and they won, that still leaves a number of Labour administrations to which you could be referring.

SpunkyCritic · 14/12/2024 23:00

Username2532 · 14/12/2024 21:23

It was actually you that brought up politics, you didn’t say both parties have let victims of crime down, just Labour, which doesn’t make sense due to the Conservatives were in power for the last 14 years.

My point was we were lied to by the gov at the time the death penalty was abolished. Life was meant to mean life not a measly 10 years.

And yet the thing you take offence with is not the sentence but me not mentioning the Tories are shit?! Wtf is wrong with you?

I no longer care for any party. I care for the pathetic way victims have been treated by all govs.

BBBusterkeys · 14/12/2024 21:53

NotAScoobyDoo2 · 13/12/2024 19:24

This is what happened to me. I read the article a while ago. I was lucky that the perpetrator underestimated me.

The police investigated and said that it was reasonable for him to assume consent. It's not enough. When they delivered the news I asked them "when he kills someone will you still be assuming it was consensual?" I think about it every day.

@NotAScoobyDoo2 I am so sorry this happened to you. I am absolutely appalled at the police response. I hope that you are able to access some help and support for dealing with all of this.

Username2532 · 14/12/2024 21:23

SpunkyCritic · 14/12/2024 20:17

Well seemed clear enough to me.

What bit of me saying Labour lied when they said life would mean life when we voted didn't you understand??
I'm not sure why you are politicising this when that is a fact and it is plain that both parties have let down victims of crime with sentencing.

It was actually you that brought up politics, you didn’t say both parties have let victims of crime down, just Labour, which doesn’t make sense due to the Conservatives were in power for the last 14 years.

SpunkyCritic · 14/12/2024 20:17

Username2532 · 14/12/2024 15:02

Your post wasn’t clear at all, the Conservatives were in power for the last 14 years, long enough to make legislative changes to sentencing, Labour have been in for 5 months.

Well seemed clear enough to me.

What bit of me saying Labour lied when they said life would mean life when we voted didn't you understand??
I'm not sure why you are politicising this when that is a fact and it is plain that both parties have let down victims of crime with sentencing.

x2boys · 14/12/2024 15:13

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 13/12/2024 18:56

Don’t they usually only serve half inside and the other half out on license.

I think if it's minimum they have to serve the minimum and then apply for parole which isn't guaranteed.

Username2532 · 14/12/2024 15:02

SpunkyCritic · 14/12/2024 13:11

My post was clear.

I never mentioned the current Labour gov, although now you come to mention yes I do object to 9 yrs imprisonment for rioting whilst releasing men to commit rapes and sexual assaults (one on the day of his release).

Each to their own, I guess.

Your post wasn’t clear at all, the Conservatives were in power for the last 14 years, long enough to make legislative changes to sentencing, Labour have been in for 5 months.

SpunkyCritic · 14/12/2024 13:12

Isatis · 14/12/2024 13:07

Odd that people think a life sentence with a minimum term of 10 years 8 months is a few short years in prison. Think about being in prison - do you imagine any year feels "short"? As has been explained, this man won't be left out after the minimum term unless he satisfies a parole board that he is no longer a danger to anyone, and even if he is let out he can be recalled at any time for an indefinite period if he commits even a minor offence.

None of it compensates for what he has done, of course, but then what could?

He could be out when he is 45. So yes, pitifully short. But as he was only charged with manslaughter...

SpunkyCritic · 14/12/2024 13:11

Isatis · 14/12/2024 12:12

When exactly did Labour say that? And what does it have to do with the current government?

If you object to the sentences given out for life-endangering racially motivated crimes, you need to look at the sentencing guidelines which are the ones set by the last Tory government.

My post was clear.

I never mentioned the current Labour gov, although now you come to mention yes I do object to 9 yrs imprisonment for rioting whilst releasing men to commit rapes and sexual assaults (one on the day of his release).

Each to their own, I guess.

Isatis · 14/12/2024 13:07

Odd that people think a life sentence with a minimum term of 10 years 8 months is a few short years in prison. Think about being in prison - do you imagine any year feels "short"? As has been explained, this man won't be left out after the minimum term unless he satisfies a parole board that he is no longer a danger to anyone, and even if he is let out he can be recalled at any time for an indefinite period if he commits even a minor offence.

None of it compensates for what he has done, of course, but then what could?

TaylorSwish · 14/12/2024 12:22

The message is loud and clear for us women. Men can rape you to death and get a few short years in prison, or often no prison time at all.

Thats if anyone believes you in the first place ‘she’s doing it for money’ ‘she’s doing it for attention’ that’s comments I read in twitter/X or Reddit when women accuse celebrities.

Isatis · 14/12/2024 12:14

HereForTheAnimals · 14/12/2024 00:52

10 years and 8 months? How is his rehabilitation going to be that sound that a parole board can allow him access to women again? It's not as if he is going to be surrounded by unarmed women in a male prison is he. How is he going to learn that what he did was one of the most heinous of crimes?

Our system of punishment is lax at least. Id be giving someone who beat their pet to death a sentence of death by fire, so you now know I don't favour our judicial system.

If he isn't rehabilitated and therefore safe, he can't be let out. So he will simply stay in prison.

Isatis · 14/12/2024 12:12

SpunkyCritic · 14/12/2024 11:28

We were told by Labour when we voted all those years ago that a life sentence would mean just that.
They lied to us again.

Now life is 1 year less than a sentence for setting fire to some wheelie bins and shouting hurty words to the Police.

What a fucking state.

When exactly did Labour say that? And what does it have to do with the current government?

If you object to the sentences given out for life-endangering racially motivated crimes, you need to look at the sentencing guidelines which are the ones set by the last Tory government.

Isatis · 14/12/2024 12:10

Fairyliz · 14/12/2024 06:49

Genuine question why do you hope we never have the death penalty for crimes like where he is definitely guilty? You wouldn’t hesitate to kill mice/rats/cockroaches in your house and they are only trying to seek food/shelter not destroy you.

Because cold-bloodedly killing anyone is, quite simply, wrong. It would bring us as a society down to beneath the levels of the criminals concerned. I would far rather that they receive a lengthy punishment.

SpunkyCritic · 14/12/2024 11:28

We were told by Labour when we voted all those years ago that a life sentence would mean just that.
They lied to us again.

Now life is 1 year less than a sentence for setting fire to some wheelie bins and shouting hurty words to the Police.

What a fucking state.

Fairyliz · 14/12/2024 06:49

Isatis · 13/12/2024 22:04

If we had the death penalty - and I hope we never become that uncivilised - it wouldn't be applicable to manslaughter.

Genuine question why do you hope we never have the death penalty for crimes like where he is definitely guilty? You wouldn’t hesitate to kill mice/rats/cockroaches in your house and they are only trying to seek food/shelter not destroy you.

UniqueOP · 14/12/2024 01:57

@Tittat50 It's quite possible that the people in power are as you say. Very sobering thought.

You say about porn breeding even more terrifying mindsets, but totally depraved porn has been available at the fingertips for quite some time. How can it possibly get worse??

It's true that some people are hideous. I have no idea of the true number, of course, or what percentage of the population would do heinous things if they could get away with it. The French case is utterly horrifying with the number of men involved.

Nevertheless, I prefer to try to focus my mind on the good people I know, and the people throughout history who have done really good things. It's better for my mental health that way, and although I have known more than my fair share of awful people, I have also known some wonderful people.