To take ill toddler to school

’…a mum who was in this position standing outside with her child in the pushchair under the rain cover.’
Perhaps not repeatedly (but also likely they could have been) but she said the child was also in this position so clearly their child had also been sick. A sick child does not need to be dragged out in the cold and rain for an hour or so to watch a nativity.

I still feel a bit guilty that my DS inadvertently caused two classmates to miss their first nativity - but that was due to chickenpox and he had passed his cousin’s germs on before anyone realised he had it. You cannot risk spreading a nursery sickness bug.

Yes, YABVU. I work in education and am currently laid up in bed with this awful flu bug and sickness, because parents send their ill, snot riddled children into school. I'm in agony because 'resting' in bed to help aid my recovery has also triggered my back and hip pain, so am struggling with pain from that and am unable to get comfortable. I'm missing out on christmas activities with my own DC and with those children that I work with also and am also adding more work onto my colleagues by not being there.

Any parent who sends their ill children into school to spread their germs amongst others are incredibly selfish.

It’s one of the hard things we have to deal with as a parent, OP - disappointing our DC. But sometimes that is what has to happen, and it is our job to make the best if it. You ask another parent to wave at him and take a photo if allowed, and you promise a treat for when he tells you all about it- whatever you can do. He gets to pick his favourite chocolate bar or you take him to do something at the weekend if someone else can look after the toddler.

Responsible parenting comes first.

@Netflixconundrum where has she said her child has repeatedly been sick, or is feeling unwell? She hasn't.

What about her other child who was vomiting and feeling unwell. Staying at home would have been the better thing to do.

Was about to ask the same?
Of course you can't take her.

You need to keep her home, disappointing as it is. Think of it this way: how pissed off would you be if someone had sent their child into school sick and they’d passed it on to your child and your child missed their nativity play they were much looking forward to? You’d understandably think what a selfish fucker they’d been.

My thoughts too. Amazing mum are not the first words that spring to mind.

You poor thing. What an awful situation to be in.

You said there's no one there to help you. If you have mentally exhausted all the options and have to admit defeat on this I wanted to send you a virtual hug, before you have to tell your older one xx

Being sick ≠ norovirus

My dad was sick last night, should we all now go into lockdown? When it was because of something he ate?

Don’t do that without checking with the school first. Many don’t allow recording for safeguarding reasons

I'm really sorry you're facing this. What part is the children's dad playing in resolving this conundrum?

Ask someone to video it and tell your ds you were rihht down the back. He'll never know.

Yes she wasn’t going to let her child down that’s a great mum in my opinion

No. I know it’s really disappointing but you just can’t. Not under any circumstances, but especially at this time of year - you’d be setting up a load of families to have norovirus over Christmas as she could pass it to a lot of people and it would still be doing the rounds in their households by the 25th.

That doesn’t mean they aren’t contagious though.

This is why these bugs spread like they do. Especially just before Christmas.

My friend was at a nativity this week where a toddler AND a parent threw up in the audience! She’s counting down the hours to catching it, her coat got sprayed.

too sick for nursery is also too sick to be in a crowded room full of not only children but quiet possibly older relatives who are more at risk too

Dragging her youngest ill child out in to the cold to watch a play through the window??

It’s 48 hours yes

Don’t take them, selfish and necessary

I believe it’s 48 hours
Adding to the many people saying don’t go. It’s not fair on others.

My head knows the correct answer to this query is you either find someone to watch her or don’t go.

However, I also know how important nativity plays are to small children and how important they seem to us when we have small children.

Sometimes it’s difficult to make the obviously morally choice. When making it though remember if toddler decides to cry through the play you may be asked to leave.

You'll be potentially ruining a lot of people's Christmas season if you.

What a lovely idea, spreading a vomiting bug around the families of primary school children just before Christmas. What happy memories you will make for everyone. As a teacher, I always enjoy the gift of norovirus. Always welcome at any time if the year, particularly during the festive season. Don't bother with a card, your germs say it all.