To take ill toddler to school

If that was the case, I’m pretty sure the OP has enough sense as a mother of two to look at the situation and decide it was fine. She wouldn’t have started a thread on Mumsnet if she didn’t think her child had a bug.

This is something I always do at each school event. Last in, stand right at the back, then first back outside...I can't stand crowds. I usually inform DC where I will be standing so they know in advance.

This still isn't advisable with a sick child though. Best just asking another parent to take a photo on your behalf!

So what happened? Did you go 🤣

I hope you haven't took the child into school exposing all of the children and their parents/relatives/carers to the virus!

There is lots going around and as a nurse in the community there are lots of flu/rsv/norovirus going around! And I'm constantly exposed to it as all of their family members have it also!

My child has been off school this week....missed her Christmas lunch/Christmas jumper day and it has been my birthday so she/we have missed out on the celebrations we had planned. She may miss doing her nativity on Monday if she remains unwell!

Things happen, your poorly child is more important than selfishness of taking them and exposing lots of people to this virus unnecessarily!!!

You are being ridiculous. Nearly every one of your posts is making me do this: 🤦‍♀️

I wouldn’t drag a young, poorly toddler out in the cold to watch a nativity through a window

Do germs not travel when you’re standing/sitting at the back of a school hall?

Must remember that one.

Thank you,he was very good about it I have to say,half his class has been out with a bug most of the last week so there is something nasty going & at our school the show is attended by lots of grandparents, younger kids etc & the thought of them possibly being ill over Christmas just wasn't worth the risk (I had asked his dad to take him but his GFs kids bedtime came before his show so I worked an alternative)

I'd go op, get there so you're last in the queue and stand at the back.

TheDearReader

My daughter isn’t in school yet but do parents and children not tend to mingle after the nativity is over? And therefore he will be looking for her? Maybe they don’t, as I say my child isn’t school age but I would have thought there was some sort of mingling afterwards for congratulations and pictures etc

No, our grandchild’s first in reception this year. The children just waved goodbye then filed straight back to their classroom for a treat. Teachers took/sent photos.

Well at our nativity we all had to congregate for 10 mins together before being allowed in, showing our tickets one by one in a queue. It’s not entirely unreasonable that they’d be near other people or children at a school event. It being contagious wasn’t really my main point either. I was disagreeing with the poster who said this mum was an amazing mum to do this. My point is - if they’re too ill to be near others and you have to watch a nativity through a window - don’t take them out. It’s not fair on the ill child either who probably would rather be in bed.

I’ve not idea whether schools would allow it or not, that wasn’t my point. I was challenging the ridiculous assertion that a child, under a rain cover, out in the open air, would be infecting passers by with their illness. Sometimes poorly children have to be taken out, unfortunately.

I doubt many schools would allow it anyway. If a child’s sick - keep them at home!! If they’re not well enough to be in a room with other people then just stay at home. Standing outside in the rain for an hour to watch a nativity through a window is ridiculous.

I presume if OP's child was like yours, where you knew that them being sick meant they were not about to be quite unwell, or vomit again, then she would not be asking.

How do you know no one got ill from your children? Heck, we don't know if we're spreading bugs around before we are symptomatic (bacteria and viruses are pretty smart).

Out in the open air, with the child under the rain cover? I’m quite risk averse but even I think that’s a ridiculous reach.

Nobody has a crystal ball to know whether their child, who has vomited once, has a contagious bug, or a one off case of vomiting. You have no idea. Just because they’ve vomited once before and were ok afterwards doesn’t mean subsequent occasions will be the same. You are knowingly potentially spreading germs to all and sundry by taking them out. Utterly, utterly selfish.

I think it really depends. If she's actually unwell and continues to vomit/ has a temp /other symptoms etc then obviously you can't take her. But at that age my kids sometimes did the thing of randomly throwing up in the early hours then being totally fine afterwards. Nobody else ever got ill from them either. In this situation I'd take her.

It's a school nativity play, not the Oscars! Your son will not be 'devastated', he might be a bit upset that you can't come but he will forget about it by tomorrow.

Surely you know the answer to this??

DO NOT take a pukey kid to a room full of other kids & their parents - especially this close to Christmas!! Outrageously unfair & irresponsible.

I’m assuming there were potentially a hundred of so other parents going into/leaving the school at the same time as this mum and child. I also highly doubt most schools would allow this anyway - a parent and child to be in the playground or wherever it was on their own for safeguarding. Either way - of course she is likely to have met other people along the way on the day of a nativity.

One silly parent did this at the ds2's nativity several years ago whose child then proceeded to throw up during the play. I was fuming when it turned out said child had been sick on more than one occasion in the preceding night. Just really selfish.

I was very sad when ds1 got a bug the year he was due to be Joseph in the Christmas play but shit happens and it is not the end of the world if you or your child miss the event as there will be many different opportunities later on to enjoy with your child. It was actually a very stressful period for us the year ds1 missed the play and it still makes me laugh that I coped with dh being made redundant and the house sale falling through but the thing that had me in tears was missing the Christmas play. I might add that ds1 cared not one jot at the time or after.

WIBU to take DD

Of course. Please don't take your vomiting child out of the home.
Why are you asking? Are you actually thinking of taking her to a busy school?

Is there noone else that can watch your younger child for an hour? Family member/friend/neighbour? Take them for a walk in the buggy and meet you back at the school after the nativity?

Sorry OP but it would be utterly selfish to expose the teachers, children and all their families to a sickness bug just in time for Christmas. I totally understand your predicament and feel for you but you cannot take a sick child into school.

No. Extremely selfish

Contagious through a window?!