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To resigned from job?

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chrissy886 · 12/12/2024 14:18

I came back to work from maternity leave last week and the hours, times and days that were agreed have since been moved around so much and not accommodating to my childcare arrangements.

Manager would call and text even out of hours which I found quite stressful and always wanted to push the time back like for example a 5pm -8pm start (when partner would get back from work) start was agreed and now all of a sudden she wanted to change it to 10am and pressuring me to start when the team starts (I work form home).
It caused havoc.

My child is teething, having sleep regression and I am exhausted to be honest with the lack of sleep on top of dealing with her constant change of plans.

I have had a bad cold this weekend I called sick yesterday and she wouldn't stop calling.
I emailed HR this morning to advise them that I would be leaving immediately as it just didn't seem to be working.
Have I acted rationally or was it the right thing to do?

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Loopytiles · 17/12/2024 07:16

You say ‘oartner’ not ‘husband’ - are you married? If not it’s vital to work full time IMO.

your manager’s behaviour sounds awful and possibly discriminatory, but quitting means that you have probably lost the opportunity to address it, it would have been better to use the company’s grievance process. You could explore doing that, even now. Harder to seek a new job when not working.

lonelynewname · 17/12/2024 07:11

Line manager is probably mates with HR and “HR” will be just one person. Obviously they’re a bully like most of the power mad call centre managers are.

OP- you did the right thing, a call centre is not your career, as you said, beauty is. You can build your business back up around your baby.

Enjoy him/her and good luck.

Elphamouche · 17/12/2024 07:02

Call centres are cunts. Your boss sounds worse than that.

Overreaction in the sense that you should have resigned properly with your notice and full disclosure on this twat to HR. If financially you’re okay, then not complete overreaction.

MILLYmo0se · 17/12/2024 06:58

chrissy886 · 12/12/2024 14:48

Trade Union?
I don't think I am a member.

Even when I was on maternity leave if I missed her call and didn't get back to her straight away she would email HR.

This is a call centre job which has a high staff turnover, I have been here 3 years.

I have always worked part time as part as my contract, when I wanted to come back they tried to claim I couldn't work part time as per my contacts and it would be full time.

Wait, she would email HR about you not answering her while on Ml? And what would HR do/say?!

ALJT · 17/12/2024 06:42

To me it’s the straw that’s broke the camels back so to speak. Loads of additional stress over a span. You should have maybe spoken to HR first about outside hours contact etc but it’s stressful trying to work around little ones. You need balance x

DepartingRadish · 17/12/2024 06:28

You've said partner so I'm assuming this means you are not married.

Do not be a stay at home parent unless you are married. Do not work part time either. Taking on this level of financial risk is insane. You need to marry to protect yourself as you're taking the hit to your earnings and future pension. Or go back to full time work.

Jellytrain · 17/12/2024 06:19

Definitely join a union. You seemed like you weren't sure if you were in a union, you join and pay every month, it's not loads but very useful for protecting yourself!! You might well have to pay back mat leave. And it's very important to keep your career going otherwise you have no financial power when your kids are older and no freedom. The job sounded ideal for working round kids, I worked full time in a hospital when mine were that age all different shifts and it was hard but so glad I never quit.

Hellogoodbyehello4321 · 12/12/2024 17:58

If its in your interests to leave then do however, your employer has acted unreasonably if they are changing your agreed hours and your manager has behaved as you described.

With over 2 years service you would have a claim for constructive dismissal as a pp indicated.

You haven't behaved rationally and should have handled things better, however if you regret your decision, i would suggest you quickly contact HR to explain you resigned in haste due to the treatment by your line manager and the impossible position they've put you in with changing your hours. They may tell you it's too late, but most HR departments would realise the risks and possibly allow you to retract your resignation.

That would hopefully allow you time to make a decision in time rather than in a reactionary fashion. As pp have said , you are vulnerable without being married and I think you'd be mad to give up a job due to the behaviour of your manager which can hopefully be resolved.

So I think its worth a shot at contacting HR but you'd need to be quick.

ilovesooty · 12/12/2024 15:23

Oh well. You've done it now. I suspect there were more sensible ways of handling it, but that ship has sailed.

MrsTerryPratchett · 12/12/2024 15:07

Tubetrain · 12/12/2024 14:54

Partner? Not husband? Get back to work ASAP, it's mad to be a SAHM if unmarried.

This. It's mad indeed. Just like not being in a union in a shitty job.

Toopulululu · 12/12/2024 15:06

If you don’t need the money, then not irrational if it’s not working for you. If you do need the money, I’d have maybe tried to resolve with your employer before resigning.

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chrissy886 · 12/12/2024 15:04

I do have some savings and I used to do beauty prior to lockdown hence why I started this job.

I will probably just go back to doing beauty now and hours that fit around childcare.

This was extremely stressful as it's a sales target cold calling job.

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chrissy886 · 12/12/2024 15:02

@Theunamedcat exactly she will just bombard me with texts from 10am from when she starts.

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Tubetrain · 12/12/2024 14:54

Partner? Not husband? Get back to work ASAP, it's mad to be a SAHM if unmarried.

Theunamedcat · 12/12/2024 14:53

If you don't start work till 5pm why is she continuing to contact you at 10 am?

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chrissy886 · 12/12/2024 14:48

Trade Union?
I don't think I am a member.

Even when I was on maternity leave if I missed her call and didn't get back to her straight away she would email HR.

This is a call centre job which has a high staff turnover, I have been here 3 years.

I have always worked part time as part as my contract, when I wanted to come back they tried to claim I couldn't work part time as per my contacts and it would be full time.

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xyz111 · 12/12/2024 14:45

chrissy886 · 12/12/2024 14:34

We had agreed the times, days and hours well in advance and I had made childcare arrangements to accommodate this.

The manager wanted to change this for whatever reason and messing up my whole childcare arrangement and causing me a lot of stress.

My partner doesn't think I should have gone back to work.
Financially we will be OK.

But then you speak to HR, you don't just leave.

ThisJollyLimeBird · 12/12/2024 14:43

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2025istheyear · 12/12/2024 14:36

If I was off sick I would have ignored all contact til I was back at work. I would have got a sick note and clarified my grievances and what was agreed before I resigned as a last resort.

Twothinkthat · 12/12/2024 14:36

I think my biggest concern would be whether you have to pay back Mat Leave pay.

your manager sounds unreasonable- but this possibly could have been handled better.

Trickedbyadoughnut · 12/12/2024 14:35

You may still have a case for constructive dismissal, contact your union and/or Citizen's Advice

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chrissy886 · 12/12/2024 14:34

We had agreed the times, days and hours well in advance and I had made childcare arrangements to accommodate this.

The manager wanted to change this for whatever reason and messing up my whole childcare arrangement and causing me a lot of stress.

My partner doesn't think I should have gone back to work.
Financially we will be OK.

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MrsTerryPratchett · 12/12/2024 14:32

You could have called a union, not HR.

boulevardofbrokendreamss · 12/12/2024 14:31

Can you afford to now be in work, do you have any mat payback clauses?

But you've been back one week, it does seem like an overreaction.

Jagoda · 12/12/2024 14:31

Are you a trade union member?