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To not invite best friends partner?

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xyz123abc456 · 12/12/2024 13:37

Long story short I'm getting married in 2026, best friend (of 10+ years) has been with this guy about 6 months

I've invited them both round for dinner multiple times and he declines every time but friend comes. He declines because he can't be bothered or doesn't want to not because he already has plans.

When I go to friends house he disappears upstairs - we get on there's no dislike towards each other but merely just a pleasant conversation

At this point I don't want to invite him to the wedding if he can't even bothered to do any of the above?

Aibu to not want to invite? What would you do?

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LolaJ87 · 12/12/2024 14:37

Your wedding is over a year away so I wouldn't give it too much headspace just yet.

toomuchfaff · 12/12/2024 14:33

Absolutely 💯 do not invite him if he doesn't even make an effort when it's not a wedding. The wedding is meant to be a gathering of those that love and cherish you to share your special day. It costs you money to have people there, and if he's not even arsed to say hello to you when you're at the place he lives I'd say nope. When the friend kicks off about the invite, say he makes no effort, so you're not wasting a place on him. Harsh but realistic.

WilfredsPies · 12/12/2024 14:31

I’d invite him for her sake, but if you’re keen on using the space for someone else, I’d give her her invite earlier than everyone else, tell her that he’s very welcome but not to feel pressured to come as you’re guessing it’s probably not his thing, but could she let you know urgently so you can give his space to someone else if he doesn’t want it.

Sirzy · 12/12/2024 13:39

I would invite her and a plus one and just ask for it to be confirmed by a certain date if a plus one is coming.

crockofshite · 12/12/2024 13:38

Invite him and expect him to decline.