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How do I tell him?

205 replies

Shelvy123 · 11/12/2024 20:27

Hi!
My mother’s 70th birthday is in February and my sister has booked a house for my parents, our two siblings and our 5 kids. She done so as a surprise for us all, without telling us.

I've just recently had a little boy, which she has included in the head count but she hasn’t included my husband or our brothers wife.

how do I tell my husband he isn’t invited? I’m always invited to his family parties/vacations and I know he’ll be hurt if I say he isn’t able to come as he gets on so well with everyone…

She knows money is a little tight right now due to having the baby so I’m unable to contribute. I didn’t even know she was thinking of booking it otherwise I would’ve spoke to her about it.

i don’t want to not go and miss my moms birthday. On the other hand, I don’t want to go without my husband as I know he will really want to come.

I really don’t know what to do. Please help?

OP posts:
Hankunamatata · 11/12/2024 20:32

So none of the partners have been invited?

Shelvy123 · 11/12/2024 20:30

2025willbemytime · 11/12/2024 20:29

Ask your mother why he's not invited..

Go from there.

Thanks for replying. I don’t want to ruin the surprise either. I hate confrontation and am very much introverted

OP posts:
Wendysfriend · 11/12/2024 20:30

Can you check with your sister why he's not invited

Hankunamatata · 11/12/2024 20:30

You can't contribute to the cost, perhaps they are trying to keep coat down and can't afford a bigger house

2025willbemytime · 11/12/2024 20:29

Ask your mother why he's not invited..

Go from there.