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To worry about a stay and play?

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User100028 · 11/12/2024 19:20

I can’t make Dd’s stay and play tomorrow. I am worrying a lot that other adults are going to be in a room with my child who I have never met and have no reason to trust. My dd is only 2 so won’t be able to tell me anything. I’m also worried she will feel left out as a child there without her parents as we are working. I don’t understand why these things are acceptable? Am I missing something?

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takealettermsjones · 11/12/2024 19:27

User100028 · 11/12/2024 19:26

@babasaclover when I looked round the nursery and met the staff, I didn’t enrol my child on the basis that they would be mixing with other adult strangers who have no DSB check.

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Do you plan to ever take your child out in public?

SometimesCalmPerson · 11/12/2024 19:27

You are leaving your child in the care of nursery staff who will ensure her safety whether there’s other parents, maintenance men or anyone else in the room.

Needmorelego · 11/12/2024 19:27

Is this at a nursery?
The staff will be there. The other parents will mostly be only interested in their own children.
I also doubt you will be the only parent who can't attend.

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User100028 · 11/12/2024 19:26

Brbreeze · 11/12/2024 19:24

Do you mean a session at her childcare setting where parents are allowed to attend?
if you think that maybe half or 2/3 of children have a parent there, the remaining children without parents in attendance end up with a 1:2 staff to child ratio.
In my experience of attending nursery sessions, the children without parents there are just getting more attention from the staff.

@Brbreeze thanks that makes me feel a little better!

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User100028 · 11/12/2024 19:26

babasaclover · 11/12/2024 19:22

You sound unhinged. Presumably this is at a nursery with paid staff? They will keep your kid safe same as they do everyday.

@babasaclover when I looked round the nursery and met the staff, I didn’t enrol my child on the basis that they would be mixing with other adult strangers who have no DSB check.

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Brbreeze · 11/12/2024 19:24

Do you mean a session at her childcare setting where parents are allowed to attend?
if you think that maybe half or 2/3 of children have a parent there, the remaining children without parents in attendance end up with a 1:2 staff to child ratio.
In my experience of attending nursery sessions, the children without parents there are just getting more attention from the staff.

Deliaskis · 11/12/2024 19:23

As your child is 2 this must be nursery, and most parents are probably using nursery for the same reason as you - because they have to work. So the children won't all have a parent with them, many won't, and the staff will be interacting with them just like on a normal day. They also won't leave any children unattended with adults who are not staff, they worksheet be allowed to. So try and relax, there is really not the level of risk you seem to be feeling. Honestly, this is no big deal.

NotMoreBadNews · 11/12/2024 19:23

I think mum guilty is probably to blame here! There will be lovely mum's there who include your daughter in play with their own children. If you genuinely worry about every single person who may come in contact woth your child you have a long few years ahead of you.

nevercooked · 11/12/2024 19:22

Have to admit I always feel bad for my children when I can’t make these things, which does happen as I’m a teacher so I’m not very flexible, although I am part time so it just depends on the day it falls on.

But she will be in no danger.

Overthebow · 11/12/2024 19:22

They won’t be left with the kids unattended, the staff will be there. I’m not sure what’s unacceptable about it.

babasaclover · 11/12/2024 19:22

You sound unhinged. Presumably this is at a nursery with paid staff? They will keep your kid safe same as they do everyday.

Coolbreezee · 11/12/2024 19:22

I thought the whole point of stay and play was that the parents stay. Otherwise it would be childcare. Unless I'm missing something

takealettermsjones · 11/12/2024 19:21

The staff will be there too.

Sirzy · 11/12/2024 19:21

Assuming it’s a nursery there will be lots of parents who can’t go (hence their child being in nursery!) but it’s nice for them to provide the chance for those who can’t make it to go in.

they will have plenty in place to ensure all children are kept safe.

WaneyEdge · 11/12/2024 19:21

What don’t you understand is acceptable?

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