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Marcus Fakana gets prison sentence in Dubai.

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Ohnonotmeagain · 11/12/2024 13:56

This is the 18 year old lad who had a holiday romance with a 17 year old girl in Dubai. She was just short of 18.

her parents found out and reported him to the Dubai authorities before he returned home.

his poor parents aren’t well off and had to return home to work leaving him there.

he’s now been sentenced to 1 year in prison.

aibu to think this poor boy should never have been brought before court.

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JHound · 11/12/2024 16:08

Ovalframes · 11/12/2024 15:21

That poor lad will be in real danger. That girl's mother is a nasty, vindictive piece of work. Racism figures very highly in this whole thing. Shameful.
Yes I would have told my sons about the laws in Dubai, but this lad's parents may not have known. They must be absolutely frantic.

That’s the thing that’s awful. But a lesson for the lad to learn. Absolutely this girl’s mother was motivated by racism - and this is why you refuse to have any involvement with anybody where you have to “sneak around”.

He probably did not see it that way. Being 18.

holju · 11/12/2024 16:07

The crime is an adult (18) having sex with a minor (17). It's a horrible outcome for the young man concerned. I think because so many UK citizens holiday there, people forget how truly culturally different UAE is.

Nc546888 · 11/12/2024 16:07

Couldn’t pay me to go on holiday to Dubai

betterangels · 11/12/2024 16:07

Mirrorxxx · 11/12/2024 14:11

He broke the law. I don’t see what the outrage is for

Me either. This is one of the reasons you stay away from Dubai. Their laws. I thought it would be longer, luckily not.

Thegoatliesdownonbroadway · 11/12/2024 16:07

ByMerryKoala · 11/12/2024 16:04

An 18 yo is an adult and he's an adult man.

He will have to man up to through a year in one of their jails. 40c

ByMerryKoala · 11/12/2024 16:06

JHound · 11/12/2024 16:05

You are being ridiculous surely you see that. He is barely an adult. Do you genuinely think that there is something disturbing about an 18 year old and a 17 year old having a fling?

Or that a three month age gap makes for a material difference in maturity?

No, I don't think there is anything disturbing about it. It is still true to say that he's a man.

thepariscrimefiles · 11/12/2024 16:06

LoveIsLikeAFartIfYouHaveToPushItsUsuallyShit · 11/12/2024 14:16

Bloody hell. The hate for UAE is so sttong that people argue that getting nicked after having sex with under age of consent person is wrong

They are both Londoners and in London this would not be a crime.

I do judge anyone who goes on holiday to the UAE, but they were both teenagers who went on holiday with their parents, so would not have had a say in the holiday destination.

JHound · 11/12/2024 16:05

ByMerryKoala · 11/12/2024 16:04

An 18 yo is an adult and he's an adult man.

You are being ridiculous surely you see that. He is barely an adult. Do you genuinely think that there is something disturbing about an 18 year old and a 17 year old having a fling?

Or that a three month age gap makes for a material difference in maturity?

SoupDragon · 11/12/2024 16:05

JHound · 11/12/2024 16:03

Why are you calling him a man?

He was an 18 year old teen who had a consensual sexual fling with a 17 year old girl. The mother after attempting to make a false allegation of sexual assault instead reported him for this because she was vindictive.

To be clear all involved are British so she would be well aware that had it happened in the UK it would be fine. She was mad that her darling daughter was consensually “defiled” and wanted to make him pay. And you don’t understand why she is facing vitriol?

He is over 18. He is a man. Mind you, she is also a woman yet no one seems to be calling her that 🤷🏻‍♀️

Goldenbear · 11/12/2024 16:04

Thegoatliesdownonbroadway · 11/12/2024 16:03

One piece of luck, they abolished flogging in 2020.

My goodness - just awful, joyless and depressing.

JHound · 11/12/2024 16:04

trivialMorning · 11/12/2024 16:01

Marcus Fakana, of Tottenham, north London, began the secretive holiday romance in September with another Londoner, who is now aged 18.
After returning home and seeing pictures and chats, the girl's mother reported the relationship to Dubai police, who then arrested Fakana at his hotel. Sex with another person aged under 18 is illegal in Dubai.

I'm not sure that means mother was unclear about reporting - seems extreme to me as UK citizen to report to anther countries police.

Some posters here are saying girls mother is from Dubai so she'd be really clear what reporting would do - but I've not read that in press so no idea what the mother or girls background is or how clear or unclear the mother was at cons.

Though hindsight 20/20 her sneaking round so much should probably been a warning if not to the boy then to his parents.

Everything I have read says the mother is from the UK and of South Asian descent which probably explains her extreme opposition to the relationship.

ByMerryKoala · 11/12/2024 16:04

JHound · 11/12/2024 16:03

Why are you calling him a man?

He was an 18 year old teen who had a consensual sexual fling with a 17 year old girl. The mother after attempting to make a false allegation of sexual assault instead reported him for this because she was vindictive.

To be clear all involved are British so she would be well aware that had it happened in the UK it would be fine. She was mad that her darling daughter was consensually “defiled” and wanted to make him pay. And you don’t understand why she is facing vitriol?

An 18 yo is an adult and he's an adult man.

Goldenbear · 11/12/2024 16:04

Username056 · 11/12/2024 15:59

You can hold hands in public. Do it with husband as often as we would in the UK. No issues. Recently seen a change in some younger Emirati couples will also hold hands.

I think the woman who was drunk got arrested because she was abusive to the immigration staff as well as being drunk.

Why does the Foreign Office list this as something you shouldn't do then?

Thegoatliesdownonbroadway · 11/12/2024 16:03

One piece of luck, they abolished flogging in 2020.

TeaAndTattoos · 11/12/2024 16:03

YABU he found out exactly what FAFO means he should never have been in Dubai if he wasn’t willing to abide by their rules. Don’t go abroad if you don’t like the way they do things. He’s 18 he’s not a child if he’s old enough to have sex then he’s old enough to find out that actions have consequences. Rules and rules he will think twice before he does it again.

Ovalframes · 11/12/2024 16:03

Roseprose · 11/12/2024 15:59

They went for a family reunion, ignorance isn't often a defense. Honestly out of all of the awful things that happen in that country it's quite telling people are most disgusted and outraged about a man being arrested for this, and the accusations and outrage towards the girls mother is really weird.

If he had raped her the responses would be very different. It seems to be that it was consensual, but when the mother found out, she waited till she and her daughter were safely out of the country, then reported him to the authorities in Dubai, knowing that he was still there. It appears absolutely calculated to me.

Roseprose · 11/12/2024 16:03

Feelingathomenow · 11/12/2024 16:01

Oh come on, it’s pathetic that a country would do this! I’m just shocked that anyone still visits the place.

I am also shocked anyone would, this is one of the least shocking things imo though

JHound · 11/12/2024 16:03

Roseprose · 11/12/2024 15:59

They went for a family reunion, ignorance isn't often a defense. Honestly out of all of the awful things that happen in that country it's quite telling people are most disgusted and outraged about a man being arrested for this, and the accusations and outrage towards the girls mother is really weird.

Why are you calling him a man?

He was an 18 year old teen who had a consensual sexual fling with a 17 year old girl. The mother after attempting to make a false allegation of sexual assault instead reported him for this because she was vindictive.

To be clear all involved are British so she would be well aware that had it happened in the UK it would be fine. She was mad that her darling daughter was consensually “defiled” and wanted to make him pay. And you don’t understand why she is facing vitriol?

Username056 · 11/12/2024 16:01

The reason the FO probably say that is that it’s in black and white for those tourists who don’t understand the culture and wouldn’t stop at the holding hands in public.

trivialMorning · 11/12/2024 16:01

Grammarnut · 11/12/2024 15:56

It also sounds like the mother of the girl was hazy about the consequences of reporting this in Dubai.

Marcus Fakana, of Tottenham, north London, began the secretive holiday romance in September with another Londoner, who is now aged 18.
After returning home and seeing pictures and chats, the girl's mother reported the relationship to Dubai police, who then arrested Fakana at his hotel. Sex with another person aged under 18 is illegal in Dubai.

I'm not sure that means mother was unclear about reporting - seems extreme to me as UK citizen to report to anther countries police.

Some posters here are saying girls mother is from Dubai so she'd be really clear what reporting would do - but I've not read that in press so no idea what the mother or girls background is or how clear or unclear the mother was at cons.

Though hindsight 20/20 her sneaking round so much should probably been a warning if not to the boy then to his parents.

Feelingathomenow · 11/12/2024 16:01

Roseprose · 11/12/2024 15:59

They went for a family reunion, ignorance isn't often a defense. Honestly out of all of the awful things that happen in that country it's quite telling people are most disgusted and outraged about a man being arrested for this, and the accusations and outrage towards the girls mother is really weird.

Oh come on, it’s pathetic that a country would do this! I’m just shocked that anyone still visits the place.

JHound · 11/12/2024 16:01

nfk · 11/12/2024 15:11

The offence in Dubai is under age sex.

She's above the age of criminal responsibility there, and she broke the law by consenting to extramarital sex. The person who they have extramarital sex with is also committing an offence.

It is not the same as UK. That is why the UK comparison is worthless here.

Extramarital sex is legal in Dubai for tourists.

The issue here is age of consent.

Username056 · 11/12/2024 15:59

Goldenbear · 11/12/2024 15:06

You absolutely can't hold hands in public, not according to UK Foreign Office, why would you spout falsehoods, very irresponsible of you.

The drinking is very very ambiguous and I personally wouldn't gamble my freedom on a drink like the person who got arrested on the Emirates flight.

You can hold hands in public. Do it with husband as often as we would in the UK. No issues. Recently seen a change in some younger Emirati couples will also hold hands.

I think the woman who was drunk got arrested because she was abusive to the immigration staff as well as being drunk.

JHound · 11/12/2024 15:59

Nogaxeh · 11/12/2024 14:35

The age of consent in Dubai is 18. He broke the law.

The age of consent is 18 in lots of countries. It's 17 in Ireland too, although there are some countries with a lower age of consent than Britain's 16.

Imagine if some foreign teenager had sex with a British child of 15. Do you really think the British authorities, let alone the Press, would just let them off?

She is British too. So you mean how would the British Press react to a 16 year old foreigner having sex with a foreigner that was 15 and 9 months.

I doubt they would care.

Roseprose · 11/12/2024 15:59

Feelingathomenow · 11/12/2024 15:51

An 18 year old probably didn’t appreciate that strict meant they had what would be seen as an extremely outdated view in Europe and could result in a custodial sentence- to European eyes it’s so fucking ludicrous I wouldn’t anticipate any 18 year old would think that this would be the consequence.

Why anyone chooses to holiday in these places where a slight misstep can get all manner of medieval sentences (by European standards) god only knows.

They went for a family reunion, ignorance isn't often a defense. Honestly out of all of the awful things that happen in that country it's quite telling people are most disgusted and outraged about a man being arrested for this, and the accusations and outrage towards the girls mother is really weird.

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