To have said no to this man coming into my house?

don’t know him, and like I said it just felt inappropriate

It felt inappropriate as it WAS inappropriate so well done you on not letting him!

The fact he was "put out" shows he has very little self awareness. Surely it is obvious to any man that a lone female you've just met isn't going to be keen on this idea?

Completely inappropriate OP....you were right to refuse.

I wouldn't particularly want anyone I didn't know having a tour round my house just because they'd asked for one. It wouldn't make any difference to me whether they were a man or a woman, though.

The fact that he felt entitled to ask that is concerning, and I think you did well to let him know you are able and willing to say NOPE.

I once showed a perspective tenant around my shop (next door was up for let). I was burgled within the week.

I've also had it at my recent home. A EDF meter reader wants to walk through my house to access the meter. I'm disabled now and often on my own. The meter can be accessed by the back gate. The man gives me the creeps and I can no longer defend myself. I also have a meter reading to hand. It does upset me though because he tries to walk in.
I would tell your neighbour nothing. A pleasant good morning if you have to and that's it.

The fact he felt the need to tell you that '...all the other neighbours...' let him in and also seemed 'put out' when you said no to him tells me he's dodgy. Any man with half a brain cell would know asking a woman you've just met if you can come into her home isn't going to make her feel comfortable.

But centuries of male entitlement goes a long way to emboldening some of them.

For me, male or female, I don't want nosy neighbours poking around!

I had our kitchen and dining room knocked through and an extension built two years ago. Had to pop out to pick up a package. Got back to find my builder showing my nosey neighbour and her friend the building work. She asked if she could see the loft extension we'd done eleven years ago - umm no, you can see it from your garden, that's close enough!

What a strange request. If he’d already been inside six houses then he hardly needed to check out yours too.

If the houses were all of the same layout, then they aren’t exactly going to look very different aside from various configurations of furniture, etc.

Besides, all it takes is a quick snoop of old Rightmove listings to see inside your neighbours houses. That’s what I did when I was trying to figure out how to knock down a wall in our kitchen!

Agree. Can’t believe they all let some random look round their homes. He wouldn’t be coming in my house. All sounds very odd

I once sold something on Facebook marketplace to a guy (cheap item for a tenner). He immediately said "Can i come in and use your toilet". I said no. I mean...wtf?! It was literally a 2 second transaction, i live in the centre of town and he was in his car. Plus I live alone.

He looked so pissed off. He then said "I don't want this item.. it's broken". It wasn't but I knew then for sure he just wanted access to my home / me and nothing else.

Really creepy!

You did exactly the right thing.

I always try to flip things like this round by thinking if my DH, Dad any other decent man I know would do that and they definitely wouldn't because its weird.

Speak to the neighbors, I agree with PP that he was probably lying ...

No way i would let a man in I didn't invite if i was home alone

Agree totally. It's very ungentlemanly to ask. Sorry to use such an old fashioned term. The men in my family would never do that.

He seemed a bit putout that I said no.

And this is why you did the right thing.

Normal people who are respectful towards others know that asking to have a nosy around someone else's house is cheeky and would accept a refusal with good grace.

Your neighbour has let you know he's an arsehole so you can give him a wide berth from now on.

Whatever his intentions; your home, your rules.

He is at best an empathy fail, having no concept why he shouldn't be allowed into anyone else's home.

He may not be used to women saying no - and this has shaken his whole world view.

He may be a genuine neighbour - who's decided to test your personal boundaries. See what you'll put up with. For starters.

He may be a fake. And sinister men can be masters at masking until it's too late.

Well done.

And I don’t think men with sinister intentions are always obvious about it. You did the right thing.

Absolutely no way should he have even asked!

Absolutely no way

He shouldn't have asked.

The gall, and the rudeness of putting you in an awkward position

Hell no. What a weirdo.

This. Also, wait three years and some of these houses will go back on the market so you’ll be able to check them out on Rightmove😊

Yes it’s just weird. I would have said no and I don’t live alone. Nosey fecker 😂

That's an excellent point, he could be knocking on doors in an entirely different place today!

Absolutely you did the right thing not letting him in OP!

If he mentions it again I'd say "I think 7 comparisons is enough for you to work with!"

I'd be glad he's shown himself as he is so early, you can be prepared now for any further attempts from him.

And I'd definitely check with a couple of the neighbours - my guess....he lied completely about going into their houses.

Is this ‘all-your-neighbours-let-me-in’ the same as ‘all-your-neighbours-signed-up’ from gas/elec/wifi/charity door-knockers?

My individual neighbours that I live beside and speak to don’t seem to the same group as the fabled ‘all-your-neighbours’ group 🤣

We have a newish neighbour that has been into most houses as his is the only untouched, not extended, original house left and he’s planning a lot of work.

However, that’s happened when he’s been invited. He was talking about plans to extend at the back and we invited him to look at ours as we’ve recently had it done. If he’d invited himself I’d have been very wary!