To not keep my mouth shut..

We watch films about nothings that are wrong all the time - murder, kidnap etc

It's ok to watch a film about a women think g she's fat when she looks great.

It would be worse to banish these films and pretend this stuff never happened.

I'm rewatching friends, there's some problematic stuff in there but it reminds we live in a better place and I'm grateful I'm a better person now.

I think this may be the source of your resentment. My DH wants me to watch his favourite movies (Reservoir Dogs, The Good the Bad The Ugly, Enter the Dragon, The Great Escape, One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest' etc.

For me these movies are watch once, I have no desire to repeat them. When I say no to repeat viewing, DH does get very disappointed but equally he will very rarely watch what I want to watch currently (Yellowstone, The Day of the Jackal, Netflix movies like Carry on etc).

So then I think why should I watch his movies when he won't compromise and watch with me?

Ignore the people calling exhausting and awful, they just refuse to get the nuance.

Just let him watch what he wants in peace

You sound bloody awful and exhausting, they are films and escapism. I feel sorry for your DH.

Just on a side note do you also point out to your DH and sons when you see colour blind casting in historical films too or does the faux outrage only go one way? 🙄

You're not being unreasonable not to want to watch them but he can watch if he wants.

Is he always hogging the remote? Do you get an equal say in what you watch?

You sound exhausting

Most old sitcoms would not beable to be aired today. Any repeats carry a warning.. think The Royle Family.. mentions of Gays (not in a nice way) fat shaming... sexual innuendos etc etc.
But l still love to watch them... take it with a pinch of salt of the era.

@OnlySlightly I believe she was 17 when it was filmed. There is no need for the kiss in my opinion. This thread is about problematic themes in films. It is admittedly 21 years since I saw Lost in Translation released in 2003 but even at the time I was shocked they kissed given the age gap and that I had loved Bill Murray when he did Ghostbusters in 1984 when he was 34.

Blimey do you suck the joy out of everything?

I agree with your others, but the whole point of Lost in Translation is that Scarlett Johanssen and Bill Murray don’t have a romantic/sexual relationship. They don’t sleep together, and share only a single ambiguous kiss at the moment of parting. Also, SJ was playing older than her actual age (19) because her character has already graduated from Yale and is married.

There just films if he enjoys them let him be.
Im watching the heat killers at the moment a bl series love story.
I couldn't care less what others think as its just a film.
I love a romantic film.

Bridget Jones i love it its a rainy day film for me.
Op your husband is a grown man would you like it if you was watch something and he kept on at you no he would be called abusive and jealous.

Such po faced joy spongeing.

Everything is problematic now, according to some. Cancel it all, from brief encounter to friends, it's all terrible. Or you know, just watch whatever you want and don't watch what you don't want and let everyone else do the same?

And btw, Bridget was only delighted when Daniel cleaver touched her arse, she'd been trying to get him to!

I have a problem with the way women are presented in a lot of films.

I think Pretty Woman is horrific and can't believe people like it.

I have a soft spot for Brigette Jones. I used to read the articles and love the first film. The hand on her bum was done after a lot of mutual flirting.

Romantic comedies are often clunky and full of stereotypes but there have been some good ones.

That would drive me nuts if I was trying to watch a movie. Just let it go, not everything (no matter how true) must be commented upon.

I can't get over parent trap, mother hates husband so decides she never wants to see him again, which means he takes one of her kids, neither ever see the other twin again until they reunite at age 11, kids don't seem to care that their parents just abandoned them and all live happily ever after, why did I never notice this before, I'm telling my 11 year old and she is saying mam, its a film, just enjoy it

Ronnie Barker national treasure. Loved Porridge as a child but rewatching with ours and it’s so sexist and casually misogynistic, I was surprised and struck by the subliminal messages I was receiving as a child that it’s ok for women to be treated and spoken about in that way. A lot of the comments wouldn’t be broadcast today. That’s how society was then

typo efit

Completely with you on Love actually. It’s hideous and not at all romantic.
Totally disagree on Bridget Jones - as others have said, the point is she is completely fine but obsessing over weight like people did / do, and there’s no need. And Hugh Grant is clearly a sleaze and she figures that out.

On commenting to your OH - I think once you’ve made your thoughts clear on them, no need to speak up every time, I’d probably employ a light harrumph and read my book with headphones in. It would be annoying if someone is trying to watch a film and the other person over and over is telling them how it’s awful. But I would concentrate on talking about other stuff - does any of the misogynistic attitude impact your lives? Or impact what he says about actual people? That’s the thing to focus on IMO.

Lost in Translation, Bill Murray was 52 and Scarlett Johansson was 17.

There are problems with age gaps, there are problems with plots. One of my favourite films is Dead Poet's Society. As a teen I thought the kiss on her forehead was romantic, now as an adult I can see that kissing a girl who has a boyfriend, who is drunk and half asleep is problematic which is an understatement.

I have two adult sons, we have watched lots of 80s films together (Grease, "did she put up a fight" Summer Lovin) and we have pointed out all the problems, Gilmore Girls which team for Rory's boyfriend? They are all wankers and she deserves so much better. With the relationships even now this shit is still being made. Amazon Prime had Maxton Hall where a boy tries to ruin a girl's life but she falls for him. Yuk.

Pointing it out the first time I think is fine, keep harping on about it, not fine. I like some movies because they remind me of my childhood, Seven Brides for Seven Brothers being one. I don't think kidnapping women is the way to get a bride.

Bridget Jones isn't fat - that's part of the joke. She is obsessed with being fat and her weight but she is a normal size.

Omg I LOVE this 😂 going to need to watch whole thing now!

I've never liked romcoms, I'm a horror/Tarantino fan.
I have been made to sit through the films mentioned above to "just give them a chance" and I still much prefer dead people eating people and/or everyone getting shot.

I keep quiet when others watch their romantic stuff though because it just leads to arguments otherwise and life is too short to go on about Bridget Jones.

"The past is a foreign country, they do things differently there."

There's stuff going on now that will be looked at askance in 20 years time. I'm the "right age" for Love Actually, Pretty Woman, etc and I think it makes more sense if you were around then than it does now.

The fact that she was actually 27 is irrelevant. Okay the character was 17 and he's 24. Still inappropriate.

it's a bit like the historical romance fiction I used to read back in the day - the heroine was always about 17 and the hero in his 30s and frankly, a huge part of the "romance" came from her being the plucky smart woman who tames the hard bitten rake. ICK.