“You sound like a great mum/aunt/nan” etc.

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Reallyaretheythatgreat · 11/12/2024 07:22

i feel like I’m constantly reading comments such as “you sound great” “I bet you’re a lovely mum” “you’re doing a fab job op” etc when honestly I feel it’s unnecessary and almost condescending.

yet posters seem to be congratulating op on doing a fabulous job.

eg.

i bought my dog a new coat. Aibu for buying him a green felt one and now he looks likes a mobile pool table

omg op you sound like a brilliant owner and really responsible I bet your pooch loves you to the moon and back. I wish I’m reincarnated as your dog when I die.

aibu

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CitiesInDust · 11/12/2024 07:31

Yes, it’s often when the OP is feeling bad about the baked potatoes.

SoftandQuiet · 11/12/2024 07:30

I haven’t seen anything quite as saccharine as you deacripe. I’fe got quite a good bullshitometer and I don’t find these comments patronising usually.
The OP is often distressed when they post and others try to boost them a bit, obviously we all don’t know each other and are just going on a few sentences, but I’d rather posters assume the best about eachother. What’s the alternative, “You sound obsessed and over invested, get a grip”?

Catza · 11/12/2024 07:28

God forbid people are nice to someone for no reason whatsoever....

UndeniablyGenX · 11/12/2024 07:28

Posters often come on here seeking support when someone or something has undermined their confidence, so it's not unreasonable to offer reassurance about their parenting, animal husbandry or whatever they're posting about (assuming they do sound as though they're doing OK).

Mumsnet is not slow to hand posters their arse if they are doing something 'wrong'.

In your example above about the dog coat, I guarantee there would be a cohort of dog-owners coming on to say dogs don't need to wear coats; and a cohort of dog haters saying that any money spent on a dog was a waste when there are starving people in the world.

MindenReload · 11/12/2024 07:27

This has been annoying me for a while. People describe a completely normal everyday situation and someone says they sound amazing. 😀 Bloody ridiculous.

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Reallyaretheythatgreat · 11/12/2024 07:25

I made baked potatoes with cheese and beans for dinner tonight for the entire family”

well done op you sound like a lovely wife/mother

no other option I’m afraid, I gambled most of the food money away this week so couldn’t afford much

op you sound like you’re trying your best and everyone is super proud of you. Who doesn’t love a jacket spud 💐💐💐💐💐

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