AIBU to be having nightmares over friends visit?

This for me too, that’s just the most horrendous thing to say & anyone who was my friend saying that would know how I felt about it. Please tell her, otherwise she’ll go unchecked thinking everyone is in agreement with her madness

Sorry if i’m being ignorant, but I don’t understand the Irish-jewish thing

Do you have any relationship with her husband/is this something you could talk to him about?

I'm afraid that regardless of the context/reasons I couldn't have someone like this anywhere near me, and would have unfriended on social video at the first extreme image. I think you need to set firmer boundaries. Regardless of your own background/identity, your friend's behaviour is unacceptable.

I find this post a bit weird.
How would she not know you were Jewish?
Friends since teenage years, lived together yet she didn’t know? Teenage girls who are close friends usually know each other’s details.

As for Irish people being sympathetic to the IRA!
That’s bollox!
Okay…maybe you’ll find the odd armchair terrorist shite-talking before getting chucked out of the pub but they’re the exception not the rule.

I also don’t understand why you’re friends with someone as hate-filled and prejudiced as this person.

I would have reported those foul remarks she made about killing Jews to the police.

She would not get past my front door.

Your friend is deplorable but it’s not “a war with Hamas”. Israel is mostly bombing Palestinian civilians. Let’s be real here. amnesty have recently called it a genocide.

I don't know why people are doubting the OP. I know a couple of people who are very similar. They don't see what they are doing as anti semitism, they see it as part of a generalized very left wing identity. It wasn't always obvious. During COVID, they were obsessed with masking and lockdowns for ever and ever. Then they moved onto Palestine in the past year or so. They focus on whatever issue is being amplified by TikTok or whatever at this moment in time.

This is extremism and wouldn’t be welcome in my house or my life.

I would blow her off without feeling any particular guilt. I generally try to avoid disrupting friendships for political reasons, but her relentless banging-on about this particular issue suggets strongly that she would not be open to "agree to differ" and avoiding the subject. Feel free to ditch her.

You can either invent something else you are doing around that time if you are conflict averse. Or tell her openly what the issue is, if you want to go that way.

Just text her and be honest. Say that your political views don't match, are worlds apart, different core values, and that a friendship cannot survive based upon that, then block.

I would never be associated with a nazi sympathiser. I couldn't imagine knowingly letting one in my home, let alone keeping up a friendship with one. How could you?

JFC, you don't have to be Jewish to find comments about gassing Jews utterly abhorrent. There comes a point where people aren't just unwell, they have gone to a dark place that we shouldn't tolerate.
I wouldn't entertain her any more than I would a paedophile, get a grip and have some standards.

Exactly what i was going to say

So this is your opportunity to not be a coward, and speak up. She is not going to physically harm you, what are you scared of? She thinks your children deserve to die OP.

I'm as non confrontational as they come, but no way could I stay silent

I don't know anyone who supports the IRA or Hamas - my friends are mostly Dublin and Kildare but also places like Waterford and Tipp. Are you actually sure or are you just assuming? I have honestly never met anyone in Ireland who has come out with support for either group. Though obviously Irish people are very strongly into human rights and do mostly disagree with the actions of the Israeli government and the IDF.

Your friend sounds mentally unwell - anyone who celebrates the deaths of people just because of where they are from or their religion is not of sound mind. I would honestly email her and tell her that you are Jewish and you can no longer be friends with someone who celebrates the deaths of Jewish people. A friend in the UK said he thought Bloody Sunday where British soldiers murdered Irish kids was justified - he is now not a friend and we do not speak - she has crossed a line.

As a parent your responsibility is to remove this person who revels in and wishes harm to children and other civilians from your daughter's life, especially when they're children like your DD. I think you deserve better as well, but you at least need to protect your daughter.

If you don't feel safe or confident reminding her that you (and your daughter) are ethnically Jewish then I think you can still be direct and concise about the reasons. "Your posts and comments wishing harm to people you hate and cheering on violence aren't ok, and that's not something I'm willing to have in my home or my family's life."

If you can't summon that up then yes, make an excuse. But don't continue on with this relationship and don't let her near your DD. Do block her on social media and make absolutely sure your DD isn't seeing her social media if she's old enough to have access.

It's ok to grieve the loss of the friendship, but moving on separately is still the right choice.

What’s the line ..something about “The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing” ?

I agree! This is horrific.

The standard we walk past is the standard we accept. If someone said ‘they didn’t gas enough Jews’ in front of me, I’d be calling them out. This is how racism continues, good people doing nothing.