Impatient train woman

No one is rude about needing priority seats. Does your mother block the aisle while she faffs about holding other people up? If not there isn't a problem is there. I need a priority seat if possible due to arthritis but I would never stand in the aisle blocking people so I can take my coat off and sort my bag out as I know I'm not the only person in the world with a painful condition.

Wow I literally can't believe these responses. My mum has arthritis and moves slowly now and would need one of the seats OP describes. If anyone was rude to her about it I would cut them down so quickly their head would spin.

Maybe you're not in pain standing on a train while OP faffs about. I've been a single parent with a demanding job and very busy, I've been my husband's carer, bringing up children and doing a demanding job. Trust me the world looks different when you are in pain and someone else is messing about adding to your pain, I hope you don't find out.

Well the OP certainly had no intention of thinking of anyone else, she wanted what she wanted, priority seat, take her coat off holding other people up, getting coffee cup out of bag (can an adult really not do a 1 hr journey without coffee?)

Well she took long enough to annoy the woman next to her and to cause other people to form a queue as they couldn't get past. That does indicate it took more than the 2 seconds she claimed it took.

You have no idea why the other woman chose the aisle seat but the fact is it was a free seat and she sat in it. No one has a right to judge her for that anymore than they should judge the OP for deciding she needed a priority seat more than anyone else on the train.

Just do it on the platform.

The info board lets you know when the train is due to arrive.

Bloody impatient is what she was. Everything's such an inconvenience for some people.

This is probably the answer!

I completely agree. Sit down and sort out coats and bags. I’m from the south east and used to do the London commute. There’s no faffing around.

I’m now in the West Country and it’s a bit slower paced.

Agree with this but it’s different on a plane - your seat is already assigned so it makes no difference. On a commuter train, seats aren’t usually assigned so someone blocking the aisle can make all the difference between getting a seat or standing, or getting an aisle seat which you need to stretch out your leg due to knee injury, etc.

Was the woman half bent over as you did your stuff, sometimes when you stand up for someone and they take a while and your not properly standing up, half in half out of seat, it can be uncomfortable and really annoying. And were you slow, sometimes if your half standing and bent over and hanging on waiting for someone to do their stuff before they sit down and they do it really slowly.. fuck that pisses me off.
however pissed off I was though I would never say “take your time why don’t you” because it’s not only very fucking rude, you also never know why they are slow. YANBU

She was a bit rude but if a queue built up, you were taking ages. If the trai. Was busy, I would have sat Shen and take. It off whilst sitting.

I guess time length/fannying levels are subjective. I would consider faffing as doing none urgent things that could be done in a faster way, when there is a huge queue behind you. I would consider it to be people who just have no concept of what is going on around them. No you don't need to get your hair brush out now, sit down, let people get past, some of which may have medical needs, let the plane take off, then sort it out.

I completely agree. Seems we’re in the minority though!

Haha this is why I never bother priority boarding. I let everyone sort themselves out then on a get and just slot in (with coat in arms ready to go under the plane seat).

One persons "fannying around" or "faffing" is someone else's getting a couple of items sorted / comfortable. Everyone is way too impatient and intolerant of everyone else now. There's loads of threads on here about the levels or impatience, aggression etc Of everyone could just take a breath the world would be a lot nicer. And yes I work, am a single parent and am v busy.

Kindness goes both ways though! I commute daily and I notice how people rarely have the patience or tolerance for even the slightest slower movements by someone else. I think it is depressing. Of course, there are people who are thoughtless in the amount of time they take for themselves too, but since I don’t know the OP I don’t think it is fair to judge.

I agree. People fannying around drives me nuts! I had this happen on a plane in summer. Everybody else managed to get their things in the over head locker and sit down, but oh no, not this couple. They were intent on taking the longest possible route to do everything. It took so long infact, that the flight assistant had to ask them to sit down and let people past 🙄

I think there's waaaay too many impatient people in the world today and, in my view, there's very few things in daily life that WOULDN'T benefit from being taken a little more slowly - driving, commuting, walking, working, drinking tea, eating food, reading, spending a little more time actually listening to those you're having conversations with (as opposed to what all-too-many people do when in a conversation which is bide their time until it's their turn to speak again).

I'll probably get told I 'obviously' don't have kids/pets/family/a demanding job or home life etc etc but, frankly, none of those things are anything like a good enough excuse to run yourself ragged and be a rude, impatient twat to everyone else.

Impatience serves NO useful purpose whatsoever.

Perched! Did you not read even the first paragraph of the OP?

My car broke down this morning, not far from my house. I have manual gears, and they were completely stuck. I literally couldn't move the car for several minutes. I put on the hazards while struggling with it - the car coming up behind me still tool it upon himself to beep and blink at me. Dude, I'd move if I could, I'm not just hanging out in the middle of the road with my hazards on at 7 in the morning to get a laugh. It finally dawned on him that he could easily just get around me and go about his business on the otherwise empty road. People are impatient assholes, OP.

You said there were plenty of spare seats though, so you could have perched in one of those.

You should have said yes I will take my time, I can't help it as I have arthritis. It's not obvious to people who are in a hurry if they think people are dawdling. You shouldn't have to explain yourself but sadly sometimes it's just easier

Held up trying to walk down the aisle to get to a free seat before someone else takes it.

Chances are the train was still in the station and not moving yet although that’s actually irrelevant to whether someone is held up in the aisle.