Impatient train woman

What people SHOULD do is very different to what people ACTUALLY do.

Why should OP rely on strangers to be kind when she can just take the seat herself?

That might of seemed like 30sec to you but to do all that with your stated issues probably took a lot longer
also if the train was filling up from the other end they more than likely missed getting a seat waiting for you

Er yes, it’s part of the basic social contract in this country. People should give up seats where needed for people with mobility issues. In return people with mobility issues should do their best to minimise disruption for others where possible. Just because you have mobility issues doesn’t give you carte blanche to just do whatever you want with no regard for others who may also have needs.

I’m heavily pregnant, I would expect someone to give up their seat for me. I would not expect multiple people to stand around waiting for me to make myself at home.

You really think someone would get up for OP? Look at the lack of empathy on this thread.

Mumsnet is full of threads where people have sat in other people's reserved seats.

OP was absolutely right to prioritise herself.

But she'd have to get up again? And ask aisle person to get up again?

Getting up once you've sat down is not easy for many people.

Again, already discussed and highly unlikely, but even if it did happen, I’m sure the OP can use her words and say “excuse me would you mind swapping seats with me as I need one with extra legroom”.

I’m not saying anything like that.
OP could have taken her coat off a few minutes later .

The availability of seats and the fact that there was loads available. OP wanted a specific one which is obviously fine, but the suggestion is to let others past so they can sit down/sort themselves out before blocking the aisle to arrange your things.

If she moved away, someone else would take the seat.

What has been discussed? What kind of answer is that?

What was the solution? For a disabled person to be uncomfortable throughout her journey so as not inconvenience able bodied people?

Why should able bodied people be able to put their coats away in the facility made available for it but disabled people shouldn't avail of it?

As has already been discussed, move out of the way to let others past and then return to the seat she wanted and unpack everything she needs.

Leave it in her bag, deal with her coat, sit down, get coffee out, put bag under seat. Logic.

Again, RTFT, this has already been discussed at length.

I agree the ignorance is astounding, I’m shocked people with a disability or mobility needs just assume they’re the only one struggling and therefore there’s no need to show consideration to others as well.

Your bag wouldn't be in the way if it was under your seat. If you had gone for that option, you could have sat down and then got your coffee out, minimising disruption quite significantly.

So what was she supposed to do, hold on to the coffee whilst folding her coat and putting it away? Logic, people.

She’s not being impatient, she’s suggesting a solution that means everyone suffers the least inconvenience. And remember that people on the train didn’t know there was a disability. There are badges you can wear to indicate this.

What guarantee would she have of a seat being free further down the train? You take the first available suitable seat.

The ignorance on this thread is astounding.

I'd be prepared to bet it was more than that. I think, though, that the business of getting set up with coffee etc would have irritated me more than the coat/bag stuff.

RTFT, the OP has already said she doesn’t have a problem walking and had walked the length of the carriage to find a suitable seat for her needs.

I don't think it's "messing about" though. The OP has explained her own pain would be increased by sitting in her coat with bag in lap and that she can't twist to sit in an aisle seat. Everyone saying "think of those in pain" are ignoring the OPs. What I'm saying is that life is full of other people. Everyone is building up what the op did into.some huge, entitled thing but it will have taken less than a minute. If you're capable of being out and on public transport the extension of that by one minute, when the train could have been delayed for any number of minutes or you could have been standing waiting for people to get off with buggies or luggage should not be deserving of such ire. Everyone has needs, we all need to work around each others' and I don't think what the OP did was egregious. And yes I have my own pain in various ways.

Of course she shouldn’t be uncomfortable or burdened with things because she has a disability, but she should also be mindful of those around her and step aside so others can do what they need to do before blocking the aisle on public transport. The two aren’t mutually exclusive and others around may also have disability needs.

You seriously don’t see why a disabled person should take the first available suitable seat?

Fuck me.

Yes if she needs to put her coat away she needs to put it away! Why should she be uncomfortable or burdened with things because she has a disability?

She has reduced mobility she can’t keep getting up! Just because you can doesn’t mean SHE can.

Seriously learn some empathy people.

If there were loads of seats further down why didn't you go to the end or find an aisle seat if you knew you needed to faff before sitting down?