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To think two under two is exhausting and crazy?

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hiiiya · 10/12/2024 13:47

But equally to wonder if it’s notably ‘worse’ than two under two and a half or two under three even? Is there something about under two that’s exceptionally intense?

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hiiiya · 10/12/2024 13:58

BarbaraHoward · 10/12/2024 13:56

The quicker you have them, the quicker you get to your youngest being 4, which is the goal. Grin

I can quite see this. I am not quite counting the hours down but … close.

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BeyondMyWits · 10/12/2024 13:56

I was lucky - SAHM, with DH, family nearby and 2 girls of sunny disposition, 18 months apart, who slept well. So not always, but I know it can be....

YouveGotAFastCar · 10/12/2024 13:56

I've got one two year old, but friends with two. Most don't seem to find it that much harder - I think it's probably harder to have one potty training and one in nappies than everyone in that same stage? But there's also going to be a lot dependant on your personality and things.

Arguably I'd say from my experience, those with the younger older child have found it easier, as the older child is less used to having all your attention. Those with 3/4 year olds seem to have had more of a struggle because it's such a change, and they're so used to having your attention.

BarbaraHoward · 10/12/2024 13:56

The quicker you have them, the quicker you get to your youngest being 4, which is the goal. Grin

Wigglywoowho · 10/12/2024 13:56

I have a 15 month gap between my kids. I had a newborn and a 15 month old alone during lockdown while being extremely clinically vulnerable. It was bloody hard work and still it still is. God do the bicker but, they like the same things, they are best friends and they are a year apart at school. I'm exhausted but also so proud.

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hiiiya · 10/12/2024 13:53

theeyeofdoe · 10/12/2024 13:49

Well obviously.
But it was your choice to have 2 under 2.

I haven’t; I’m just asking because I’m interested.

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cerebuswannabe · 10/12/2024 13:51

14 months between my oldest two and the first year was so hard. But now 13 and 12 are best of friends.

CreationNat1on · 10/12/2024 13:50

Try 2 under 14 months, it's blissful. Now, at 15 and 16..

PurpleChrayn · 10/12/2024 13:50

In my experience, it's all the nappies. All the poo. Just so much faeces.

Luckily DD potty trained when DS was around 5 months old so we didn't have tandem nappies for too long.

Also the neediness of the elder child and my inability to attend to her because of the baby's demands.

But it's a good age gap for a lot of reasons. Right now my two are both watching and enjoying the same cartoon, and play with more or less the same toys.

theeyeofdoe · 10/12/2024 13:49

Well obviously.
But it was your choice to have 2 under 2.