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Accbabymom1994 · 10/12/2024 11:22

I am so upset and angry , I don't understand why men think they are some kind of gods , and especially my husband doesn't think what he is . He sent me this and I'm so upset about it, do you think he meant it as a joke and I've taken it to heart?

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Nikitaspearlearring · 10/12/2024 11:34

It must be meant to be funny. I thought 'jokes' like that went out in about 1975, and they weren't funny even then. I'm so sorry. He probably doesn't see it as a dig at you personally. He probably just expects you to eye roll. "Men! Don't we love 'em?!" kind of thing.

VeryCheesyChips · 10/12/2024 11:34

BeMintBee · 10/12/2024 11:32

I’m always amazed at how many women have such a low bar when it comes to husbands and boyfriends. Baffling

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Not at all and I wouldn’t accept it from my partner. Perhaps you’re projecting?

My point is that OP seems to genuinely think this is her partner telling her he doesn’t see her as a ‘good woman’. I think that’s taking this far too much to heart disproportionally. It DOES show he has a shit sense of humour and as I said earlier, would give me the ‘Ick’. Do you truly believe this shit attempt for a ‘joke’ is him saying OP isn’t good enough?

DowntonFlabbie · 10/12/2024 11:34

VeryCheesyChips · 10/12/2024 11:30

Do you always take such trivial things to heart? It’s definitely a joke. A very shit stupid one that doesn’t even make much sense but definitely a joke.

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So a really racist joke would be nothing to worry about because it's just a joke, nothing to see here? You'd be ok with your boyfriend sending you really really racist jokes?

Grincheltits · 10/12/2024 11:34

It’s fucking disgusting. I’m not disabled - yet. I have heart failure. Every day I’m closer. Repulsive fuck who published this thinking they were clever and funny.

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Accbabymom1994 · 10/12/2024 11:33

sweetpickle2 · 10/12/2024 11:30

This is honestly the last thing I'd be offended by- I'd be more offended at his insinuation that disabled people are less than. And wouldn't give a toss whether a man like that thought I was a "good woman" or not.

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We have a son with a learning disability and I just came from his meeting in the morning. He hasn't even asked how it went and I was already upset from the fact that he's not doing so well.

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BeMintBee · 10/12/2024 11:32

VeryCheesyChips · 10/12/2024 11:30

Do you always take such trivial things to heart? It’s definitely a joke. A very shit stupid one that doesn’t even make much sense but definitely a joke.

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I’m always amazed at how many women have such a low bar when it comes to husbands and boyfriends. Baffling

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Accbabymom1994 · 10/12/2024 11:31

I didn't answer him and I intend to not speak to him .

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sweetpickle2 · 10/12/2024 11:30

Accbabymom1994 · 10/12/2024 11:29

It's making me think like is this what u think of me? That all the good women are taken and you are stuck with me ?

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This is honestly the last thing I'd be offended by- I'd be more offended at his insinuation that disabled people are less than. And wouldn't give a toss whether a man like that thought I was a "good woman" or not.

VeryCheesyChips · 10/12/2024 11:30

Accbabymom1994 · 10/12/2024 11:29

It's making me think like is this what u think of me? That all the good women are taken and you are stuck with me ?

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Do you always take such trivial things to heart? It’s definitely a joke. A very shit stupid one that doesn’t even make much sense but definitely a joke.

Jumell · 10/12/2024 11:30

Really not funny

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Accbabymom1994 · 10/12/2024 11:29

gamerchick · 10/12/2024 11:28

Was it meant for you?
Its bad taste but it's upset you and he needs to be asked wtf was he thinking?

It's making me think like is this what u think of me? That all the good women are taken and you are stuck with me ?

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Annabella92 · 10/12/2024 11:29

Accbabymom1994 · 10/12/2024 11:26

I'm not , but i have a son with a disability and I cant believe he said this

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Oh OP that's upsetting. Could he have intended it a different way? (I don't know what) does he have form for this kind of thing?

BMW6 · 10/12/2024 11:28

Well he's a really special kind of cunt isn't he.

gamerchick · 10/12/2024 11:28

Was it meant for you?
Its bad taste but it's upset you and he needs to be asked wtf was he thinking?

VeryCheesyChips · 10/12/2024 11:28

Choosing whether to be offended is definitely up to you. It wouldn’t offend me as I’m not disabled.
I’d think it was a shit ‘joke’ though and it would give me the ‘ick’.

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Accbabymom1994 · 10/12/2024 11:26

sweetpickle2 · 10/12/2024 11:25

Are you disabled OP?

Either way that's an incredibly distasteful 'joke' and I couldn't have sex with anyone who found it funny.

I'm not , but i have a son with a disability and I cant believe he said this

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craigth162 · 10/12/2024 11:26

That's hideous

Errors · 10/12/2024 11:25

I mean it’s definitely not funny

SatansBobbleheadedDashboardOrnament · 10/12/2024 11:25

Pfft, that meme doesn't even make sense. Husband is an arsehole for sending it to you on the grounds of offensiveness and logic.

sweetpickle2 · 10/12/2024 11:25

Are you disabled OP?

Either way that's an incredibly distasteful 'joke' and I couldn't have sex with anyone who found it funny.