I know, that sounds nasty, but I’m pissed off.
A few years ago my DH and I decided that whilst GPs are still around, we’d better stay put for Christmas as circumstances on both sides meant it fell on us to do Christmas. So, no lunch out (as we’d have to pay for it all), no holidaying it away. Let’s just say crappy siblings on both sides, plus both sets of parents got upset about not seeing our DC on Christmas Day. At times I’ve hosted both sets for 2-3 nights and DHs siblings and been exhausted from all the work.
Anyway, last Christmas one set came to stay, and the other set said they were, but then got a better offer from one of our siblings. So they cancelled days before.
This year, one set again said they were coming and only told me yesterday they weren’t. I now have to get everyone’s presents together and take them over before Christmas (despite working all the time till 25th) because they said they’ll have nothing to open and will be upset.
The other set is going away and told us they aren’t doing presents.
OK, so of course everyone can do what they like. However we’ve got such grief about GPs being upset if they can’t stay for days on end to see the DGC, that Christmas is about family, if you can’t put yourself out on this one day etc. usually at time, effort and cost to me. My Christmas is always sacrificed.
Last year I had 2 weeks off, I could’ve gone away.
So, AIBU to say they’ve changed the set up, and from now on I’m doing what we want to do?