To no longer consider GPs feelings at Christmas time?

I’d try to get the gifts dropped off and then do as you please on Christmas from now on x

OP - they've given you a pass here! get your passport and book to go away!

Last year I snuck a week away, best decision ever. Sunshine! Look at doing it next year?

Absolutely this.

Phone them and explain they need to come collect their gifts, when works for everyone?
Try booking a trip this year, though it sounds like you've not as much time off work.
Then say "ooh, I'm going to take a leaf from your book and go away next year".

It's very late for them to cancel now. Remember their behaviour when it comes to planning next year, and dont be guilted into something you don't want. Nobody knows what the future brings, and of course one day they'll be gone (or severely unwell). But that day could be years away, why are you going to do their Christmas how they want it for years (or rather, be their fall back), rather than compromise on something you'll all enjoy?

Same. Disappointed it wasn't. Poor GPs

They can wait for gifts. Not that they deserve them. Find a last minute deal and go away!! Only an hour ago I got an email with 50% off a skiing holiday - under £500 a person including flights. There are some great deals out there. Go and have a fabulous time.

What's the relationship with them like generally? You have certainly been given the green light to do Christmas your own way in future.

Also, no you don't have to deliver presents if its inconvenient.

i think i would smile sweetly and say that sounds lovely what a great idea. I think we will do the same next year. and start planning in the NY.

Do whatever you want, OP!
They can come & collect gifts (why are grown adults being so childish about presents?).
In the New Year, book your skiing holiday for next Xmas.
And breathe.....

Seriously. You lost me at take the presents round. Fuck that. Practice saying “no”. Or “fuck off”. Whichever you prefer.

If this were in-laws presents, I would just tell DH to sort it with them. If it were my family , then I would just say, that presents are under our tree. You will get them when next we see you.

I gave up on the hosting in-laws several years before MIL died, as it was a thankless, exhausting chore. Never regretted saying no.

There is still time to book that getaway….

Not too late. If you've all got passports. Get on to the travel agency today.

Yeah I would not be running presents round and next year I would be off on my hols. I am super selfish at Christmas though and it’s just me DH and DD for Christmas and we like it like that. It’s sacred time for us.

I'd tell them their gifts are waiting for them to collect whenever they'd like to call in for them. I certainly wouldn't see it as my job to deliver them

Sorry but I would take the attitude of fuck them and their presents. I'm having the christmas I want with dh and kids and we are looking to move in the new year.
Let them sulk and be upset, stop running around for everyone and dh can deal with his parents presents / whinging or whatever they say on the matter.
Set the bar higher for your own kids to learn from, otherwise like so many negative things this carries on to the next generation.

So (unless significant backstory) if you’ve are planning on doing Christmas at yours “while they are still around” you could easily have another 20 or even 30 years of this. Do any of you actually want this?

It sounds like they are already making their excuses. Just do your own thing from now on! Enjoy the Christmas you actually want to have. (And yes, don’t be a martyr.)

So their other family (who they want to spend Christmas with…) don’t give them presents? They’ll probably want to run back to yours next year then so make sure they know asap that you’ll be making your own plans from now on.

Well I'd be telling them you don't have time to drop presents off due to working and getting organised and if they will be upset without them will have to come collect them. From now on, do what you want to do, yes.

Why do you care if they've got something to open. That's not your problem. Prezzies are there for them to collect or you'll bring them next time you see them.

It's not too late to do something else is it?

Graciously give present this year whenever suits and tell them you plan to do your own Christmas for next year. This could be the start of alternating Christmas's one with them, one without if they guilt trip you too much.

Look at the bright side, they've given you the excuse you needed. Make plans.

Stop all presents except for a small token box of chocolates and tell both sides you’re no longer hosting.

Enjoy your downtime this year and start planning for next year. ⛷️🌴🍹🎅🎄

Are these your parents or grandparents? You say GP but then it sounds more like your parents, and it seems odd that you would end up with multiple grandparents staying with you.

But then you also say “while GPs are still around”, which implies they are in their 80s or thereabouts.

Either way way I think you should take the hint. It reads to me that while you think you have been doing everything on their behalf, maybe it’s not what they actually want to do.

Have the Christmas you want, and let other people sort themselves out around it.