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Sick of ignorant people re my religion

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Loisep · 09/12/2024 20:06

I’m married to a Dane. We met in London at university. We have a great relationship but the ignorance from his friends, family and acquaintances is almost too much to handle.

I am half Indian and was loosely raised Sikh. I think the UK does quite well in comparison to other countries re education on religion. Most Brits do not naturally assume I am Muslim.

That is not the case when I am in Denmark. God forbid I have a beer with new people. “Oh is that not halal?” Blah blah. I end up feeling guilty saying no I’m not Muslim all the time. Like I am distancing myself. I knew there would cultural differences but I never expected such ignorance. So many people think brown people = Arab (in Europe).

Dh wants to move back home and I would if it wasn’t for this extreme ignorance. I worry for future kids.

Am I the one with a chip on my shoulder? Should I just accept that people from other countries have been exposed to different cultural groups? Ie not had an Indian diaspora

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PearPartridge · 10/12/2024 10:48

DowntonFlabbie · 10/12/2024 10:39

That weird because nobody ever said their country was a model of perfection.

If you're going to make things up in order to argue against them, why not do it alone in your head? It doesn't require the input if any of us and it's attention seeking

Nice try. You wrote "When you colonise a country for 800 years, literally everything is your fault*🤷‍♀️ ie. Absolutely nothing carried out in Ireland, such as treatment of unmarried mothers and their babies was the fault of Irish people. Deluded and I won't engage further with your xenophobia

Weefreetiffany · 10/12/2024 10:47

Denmark had an east india company.

some of you might benefit from listening to the Empire podcast

Lemonadeand · 10/12/2024 10:46

TooBigForMyBoots · 09/12/2024 20:45

Why should the OP have to research any history of Denmark and Islam?Confused She is not Muslim.

Ha right, indeed she is neither Danish nor Muslim so this particular issue probably doesn’t feature highly on her radar.

Elfie111 · 10/12/2024 10:44

Loisep · 09/12/2024 20:06

I’m married to a Dane. We met in London at university. We have a great relationship but the ignorance from his friends, family and acquaintances is almost too much to handle.

I am half Indian and was loosely raised Sikh. I think the UK does quite well in comparison to other countries re education on religion. Most Brits do not naturally assume I am Muslim.

That is not the case when I am in Denmark. God forbid I have a beer with new people. “Oh is that not halal?” Blah blah. I end up feeling guilty saying no I’m not Muslim all the time. Like I am distancing myself. I knew there would cultural differences but I never expected such ignorance. So many people think brown people = Arab (in Europe).

Dh wants to move back home and I would if it wasn’t for this extreme ignorance. I worry for future kids.

Am I the one with a chip on my shoulder? Should I just accept that people from other countries have been exposed to different cultural groups? Ie not had an Indian diaspora

I’m married to an Indian man. We are Hindu. People assume he is Muslim all the time. Some people are just ignorant and some others aren’t curious enough to find out. Some don’t care. ‘All Indians are Muslim’ is a concept I’ve come across a LOT.

Davros · 10/12/2024 10:43

@Knulp I am Sikh and for my sins, the first assumption I would make seeing a white skinned person in India would be that they are Christian!
I think you should be more careful. I am regularly described as "Christian" by Jewish friends and family and I am NOT. When I explain to them that, I might not be Jewish but that doesn't mean I am Christian, they never remember and just say it again. I don't offend easily but I find this infuriating. They ought to know that I was brought up by parents who met in the Communist party, who were committed atheists, ditto one set of grandparents. It's quite an important part of my background and, I think, quite interesting! Yet it just gets said again casually. Grrrrr!

DowntonFlabbie · 10/12/2024 10:39

PearPartridge · 10/12/2024 10:37

I'm not defending the British Empire. 🙄 I'm saying that those who think their own nationality has always been a model of perfection throughout history are usually wrong. It was another poster who used colonisation to defend people thinking all brown people are Muslim.

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That weird because nobody ever said their country was a model of perfection.

If you're going to make things up in order to argue against them, why not do it alone in your head? It doesn't require the input if any of us and it's attention seeking

PearPartridge · 10/12/2024 10:37

DowntonFlabbie · 10/12/2024 10:23

You don't know the first thing about it. Colonisation and the ruin of a culture has very long reaching repercussions.

Anyway, your defending of the British empire is derailing the thread. The point at hand is people assuming anyone brown is a Muslim. I can't see any controversy in saying that is obviously not ok.

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I'm not defending the British Empire. 🙄 I'm saying that those who think their own nationality has always been a model of perfection throughout history are usually wrong. It was another poster who used colonisation to defend people thinking all brown people are Muslim.

Skyrainlight · 10/12/2024 10:37

MumChp · 10/12/2024 00:38

Many Danes would think 'Oh well go home to UK if you don't like the Danish way of living'. They wouldn't stop being direct in their style of communication.

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And I'd agree with them. So arrogant going to another country and telling them how to live and speak. If people don't like other cultures, DON'T TRAVEL. It's pretty simple.

Nolegusta · 10/12/2024 10:36

ErrolTheDragon · 10/12/2024 10:34

They don't need to know about it, it's them bringing it up!

To be fair they're not being rude, just confused about different religious dietary requirements. A simple 'Sikhs don't eat halal' would make the message fairy clear. It doesn't sound like they're being nasty.

ErrolTheDragon · 10/12/2024 10:34

Nolegusta · 10/12/2024 10:31

Your religion is your concern. Why do other people need to know about it or agree with it, as long as they don't try to stop you practising?

They don't need to know about it, it's them bringing it up!

Skyrainlight · 10/12/2024 10:32

housethatbuiltme · 10/12/2024 09:58

All 'brown' people are exactly the same = racism.

Its not much to expect people not to be racist in this day and age.

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They never said all brown people were the same. They asked if the beer was halal. That is not the same thing. Not even remotely. And yes, I can already hear your extrapolation and justification, blah, blah. You are not in their heads, you can't possibly know that they think all brown people are the same.

Nolegusta · 10/12/2024 10:31

Your religion is your concern. Why do other people need to know about it or agree with it, as long as they don't try to stop you practising?

TheBestLackAllConviction · 10/12/2024 10:28

Anyone who thinks Denmark does not have a colonial history should try asking Greenland (which is still waiting for full independence).

PearPartridge · 10/12/2024 10:25

The people trying to make excuses for people thinking all brown people are Muslim are showing their true colours

DowntonFlabbie · 10/12/2024 10:23

PearPartridge · 10/12/2024 10:18

Deluded if you are trying to blame the British for how unmarried mothers and babies were treated in Ireland in recent history. Eg. Tuam

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You don't know the first thing about it. Colonisation and the ruin of a culture has very long reaching repercussions.

Anyway, your defending of the British empire is derailing the thread. The point at hand is people assuming anyone brown is a Muslim. I can't see any controversy in saying that is obviously not ok.

PearPartridge · 10/12/2024 10:22

I am half Indian and was loosely raised Sikh. I think the UK does quite well in comparison to other countries re education on religion. Most Brits do not naturally assume I am Muslim.
It's nice for someone to say something positive about Brits for a change. The xenophobes hate it of course. 😁

XWKD · 10/12/2024 10:22

Why would people only know about religions of people in their own country? It's just ignorance about the world at large.

PearPartridge · 10/12/2024 10:20

More colonised countries were not colonised by Britain than were

PearPartridge · 10/12/2024 10:18

DowntonFlabbie · 10/12/2024 10:16

How did the Irish treat their unmarried mother's any different to the British treated theirs? And btw, the laundries all started under British rule.

When you colonise a country for 800 years, literally everything is your fault 🤷‍♀️

Deluded if you are trying to blame the British for how unmarried mothers and babies were treated in Ireland in recent history. Eg. Tuam

DowntonFlabbie · 10/12/2024 10:16

PearPartridge · 10/12/2024 10:14

Countries that were not big enough to colonise other countries often treated their own people abysmally instead. Eg. Irish unmarried mothers and their children.

How did the Irish treat their unmarried mother's any different to the British treated theirs? And btw, the laundries all started under British rule.

When you colonise a country for 800 years, literally everything is your fault 🤷‍♀️

PearPartridge · 10/12/2024 10:14

DowntonFlabbie · 10/12/2024 10:10

My European country didn't have colonies so I'll continue to comment on the horrors of the British empire, which by the way dwarfed any other European colonies.

Countries that were not big enough to colonise other countries often treated their own people abysmally instead. Eg. Irish unmarried mothers and their children.

DowntonFlabbie · 10/12/2024 10:13

Annabella92 · 10/12/2024 09:54

But the OP expects Danes to know about all other cultures? Listen to yourself

She simply expects them not to assume all brown people are Muslim.

I suspect those complaining on this thread have similar idiotic assumptions.

DowntonFlabbie · 10/12/2024 10:10

JudgeJ · 09/12/2024 20:58

Sorry, now I've stopped laughing at this ridiculous rubbish, I would suggest you examine the history of the Danes.
I get sick of the racist comments re Britain, colonialism was wrong but, for the the simple people on MN and there are plenty, most European countries had colonies, Google it!

My European country didn't have colonies so I'll continue to comment on the horrors of the British empire, which by the way dwarfed any other European colonies.

ErrolTheDragon · 10/12/2024 10:10

Notenoughcoffe · 10/12/2024 09:51

How are we racist? I dont get it - because some of us assuming religion based on skin colour? Or what?

I doubt Danes are inherently more racist than any other nationality or culture, though my guess is that more homogeneous societies will tend to be moreso.
I'm sure the instances the OP mentions aren't malicious or nationalistic, but sure, how on earth is assuming someone's religion based soley on their colour not 'casual racism'?

The thing about racism etc is that while the intent of the person doing it matters a lot, so does the potential effect on the person on the receiving end.

PearPartridge · 10/12/2024 10:05

MyKidsAreTooNoisy · 09/12/2024 20:57

What a bonkers interpretation of the situation. Even if the Danes don’t have a south Asian diaspora as part of their culture, I would still expect anyone with basic education to know that not all brown people are Muslim.

Exactly

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