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To think the nursery are wildly unreasonable?

118 replies

Gerrp · 09/12/2024 17:47

Our nursery (just outside London, if relevant) had to close for 72 hours due to the storms. They have offered no refund. It’s 120 a day and we have had to source alternative childcare on top of this. I realise this is an unforeseen circumstance in some respects but also, they must have insurance? I’m absolutely fed up of feeling financially stretched all the time and this has just topped it off! I’m assuming we have no rights to argue this?!

OP posts:
Waffle19 · 09/12/2024 20:21

@Gerrp What do you do if DC is sick? If they get chicken pox and have to be off for at least five days? Most companies will offer unpaid parental leave as a worst case scenario IF you are unable to take annual leave… can you not take any time off work? Do you have a partner? If so you both take a day or so off, share the load. Other parents of nursery kids, take a day each (multiple kids sometimes easier to look after than one!).

Gerrp · 09/12/2024 20:19

Waffle19 · 09/12/2024 20:17

Someone once said to me to view the nursery bill as money that you pay for that space for the year. So don’t think too much about the daily rate itself as otherwise you drive yourself mad thinking how much time you’ve paid for when they’ve been sick. Same is true here - if you want the nursery to remain open longer term and you want to keep your space there then unfortunately you just have to suck it up. It’s only three days, you should hopefully be able to manage alternate childcare without necessarily having to pay for it, in the same way you surely would if DC was sick.

@Waffle19 why ‘should’ I be able to source alternative childcare? Not everyone has help on tap.

OP posts:
Waffle19 · 09/12/2024 20:17

@2boyzNosleep OP said it was because the nursery was damaged and needed repairing.

Waffle19 · 09/12/2024 20:17

Someone once said to me to view the nursery bill as money that you pay for that space for the year. So don’t think too much about the daily rate itself as otherwise you drive yourself mad thinking how much time you’ve paid for when they’ve been sick. Same is true here - if you want the nursery to remain open longer term and you want to keep your space there then unfortunately you just have to suck it up. It’s only three days, you should hopefully be able to manage alternate childcare without necessarily having to pay for it, in the same way you surely would if DC was sick.

2boyzNosleep · 09/12/2024 20:16

EDIT- just reread OPs posts to see that the nursery building has damage.

In which case I think you do have to just accept it

Threelittleduck · 09/12/2024 20:15

Blueberry911 · 09/12/2024 19:46

Only on mumsnet should the financial burden of a nursery staying in business fall on the sole responsibility of OP. Think of the poor penniless nursery owners, on the days they don't provide a service, OP should presumably give them a tip as well for the convenience 🙄

It's not the owners who will suffer. It's the staff who already look after your children for peanuts.
If it's a small, independent nursery they won't have loads of money. If it's a chain it'll be the owners who get the money.
I didn't say it was right, I said do you want the staff to walk because they haven't been paid.

whiskeytangofox · 09/12/2024 20:09

Sounds like a simple breach of contract on their part (service not provided), so I’d expect a refund but if you pursue them, are they likely to find a reason to refuse you a place after Christmas?

Elektra1 · 09/12/2024 20:04

The ts and cs you signed presumably allow for this. Our nursery closed in Covid and we still had to pay if we wanted the place open when lockdown was finished. They did relax that to 50% eventually but at first it was just pay 100% or lose your place.

They still have to pay their employees and bills even if the building is closed, hence why their terms provide for this.

Floralsofa · 09/12/2024 20:02

You'd likely win at small claims court, but also likely you'd need to find a new nursery.

BraveBlueDuck · 09/12/2024 19:52

That's insanely cheap, especially just outside London.

You can ask them if they'll reimburse you but they can say no and you'll have to accept it

UncharteredWaters · 09/12/2024 19:51

biscuitsandbooks · 09/12/2024 18:02

They won't be doing it for shits and giggles.

Nurseries have practically no financial buffer - if they don't charge you, they can't pay their staff or the rent. And if they can't pay the rent, they'll close - then you'll really be screwed.

It's obviously not ideal to have to pay for a service you're not getting, but if the building's unsafe then they won't have a choice.

At £140 pounds a day I’m sure they’re not on their arse, otherwise how does our £65/day nursery run?
They certainly aren’t paying their staff double minimum wage at £22/hour.

Its a business but if they can’t balance the books they close.

Stresshead84x · 09/12/2024 19:51

DemonicCaveMaggot · 09/12/2024 19:23

They may have had to close because staff couldn't get in due to fallen trees etc.

I don't know about the UK, but in the US insurance doesn't cover against damage caused by 'named storms' i.e. major storms.

definitely not the case in UK, well definitely not for home insurance, commercial might be different but I don't think so

TinyTornado · 09/12/2024 19:47

This relates to Covid, when many nurseries were charging… but in principle it is the same.
https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/nursery-and-early-years-sector-covid-19-restrictions-and-consumer-law/nursery-and-early-years-sector-covid-19-restrictions-and-consumer-law-advice

General principles
In the case of ongoing contracts such as the provision of early years childcare which is provided over a long period, the CMA’s view is that:

  • the consumer should not normally have to pay early years providers for childcare services that cannot be provided for a period for any reason
  • a term requiring a consumer to continue to pay when the trader is unable to or is otherwise not providing any service is likely to be unfair and unenforceable
  • consumers should be offered a refund for childcare services paid in advance which are then not provided by the business because of those restrictions, and no further demands for payment should be made until it is clear that the service can resume
  • consumers should not have to pay for temporary breaks in the service, where the childcare provider is not in a position to actually provide care

Nursery and early years sector: COVID-19 restrictions and consumer law advice

https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/nursery-and-early-years-sector-covid-19-restrictions-and-consumer-law/nursery-and-early-years-sector-covid-19-restrictions-and-consumer-law-advice

Kitkat1523 · 09/12/2024 19:47

CeciliaMars · 09/12/2024 19:32

I think you're being wildly unreasonable. If they refund everyone, they'll be thousands of pounds worse off, with all their bills and staff still needing to be paid. Where would that money come from? It's just really unfortunate. Move on.

Such is life…..centre parks are having to refund everyone as their facilities could not open over the storms …..the money comes from the insurer …..or they take a hit…..shit happens….but OP should not take the hit

Blueberry911 · 09/12/2024 19:46

Only on mumsnet should the financial burden of a nursery staying in business fall on the sole responsibility of OP. Think of the poor penniless nursery owners, on the days they don't provide a service, OP should presumably give them a tip as well for the convenience 🙄

Gerrp · 09/12/2024 19:46

GroovyChick87 · 09/12/2024 19:26

But if they're letting you have free days off they can't pay staff. Regardless of whether the child was there or not, those are your booked days. There will be something in the contract about it that you will have signed. I've got years of experience of working in childcare and this is nothing out the norm. Kids and staff were usually sent home in dangerous weather. It'll be about the safety of the staff getting to and from work and whether public transport is up and running or if it was safe to travel.

@GroovyChick87 the fact something may be ‘the norm’ doesn’t mean it’s right.

OP posts:
MrsPositivity1 · 09/12/2024 19:46

That is shocking. I'm not surprised you are raging

Havanawinter · 09/12/2024 19:46

OP your nursery fees are crazy. I also live an hour outside London and I pay £69 a day 8-6.

Kitkat1523 · 09/12/2024 19:45

biscuitsandbooks · 09/12/2024 17:52

It's what counts as an "Act of God" for insurance purposes.

Basically, anything that you can't take reasonable measures to prevent or protect yourself from.

Act of god my arse…..all reputable insurers offer storm damage insurance…..I have just started a claim for some roof damage with my insurer…..they went online to a national database which records weather…..wind speed has to be over 55 mph to claim…..it was 63mph so my claim is going ahead

flyinghen · 09/12/2024 19:43

They will still have to pay everything, staff wages etc.

DragonFly98 · 09/12/2024 19:40

Threelittleduck · 09/12/2024 17:59

Nurseries don't have loads of spare money. If you don't pay, the staff don't get paid. Do you want them to all leave?

Haha the local owners must have their Porsche on PCP then.

GRex · 09/12/2024 19:39

The nursery should pay for Business Interruption insurance and then they would not need to charge for zero service. They have taken the business decision not to insure the risk, so they should be liable for it. All this silliness about staff not being paid is plsying on emotions instead of considering how a business should be run.

MidnightPatrol · 09/12/2024 19:37

CeciliaMars · 09/12/2024 19:32

I think you're being wildly unreasonable. If they refund everyone, they'll be thousands of pounds worse off, with all their bills and staff still needing to be paid. Where would that money come from? It's just really unfortunate. Move on.

I’m not sure actually - she’s paying for a service which is not being provided, leaving her out of pocket.

80smonster · 09/12/2024 19:36

I guess you have to conclude if everyone refused to pay their fees it would result in the nursery closing. If you are able to join another easily you could try refusing to pay. Ours closed a few times for weather-based incidents (leaky roof) and also over COVID (we received a 50% discount for fees occurring for the latter). You could ask for a discount on next month’s fees and see what they say?

housethatbuiltme · 09/12/2024 19:34

I would love to know the justification of people thinking they can keep the money... paying staff isn't OPs job. She paid for a service and did NOT receive it, she even had to pay double to replace the service she did not receive.

If you pay for a service and dont receive it because the PROVIDER cancel then you are entitled to a refund... there no 'debating' it with but they really want that money to pay bills or blaming god.

You can put any clause you want in a contract or T&Cs but that does NOT make it legally binding if the very act goes against the customers rights or the law.

Small claims will find a refund fair.

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